I am 16 years old and I am committed. My friend and I quarrel quite rarely, I can't even call them quarrels, we trust each other, we are inseparable, we share absolutely everything, we are just made for each other. We've been dating for a long time and I really love him as much as he loves me. My question is - since we are not big and the early things didn't seem to last long, did I make the mistake of loving someone so early? Is it possible to have a future at all or is it just vain hopes now? Then I don't know if I'll even find someone like him. I am extremely afraid of losing it, so write your opinion on the matter. Definitely loving someone, but this fragile age will affect me in the future. Should I slow things down or? Share your opinion in the comments. Thanks!
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I am so happy for you. Leave the urge as soon as you love each other, everything will be fine. In my opinion, age does not matter. I have acquaintances who are 40 years old and have been together since 7th grade. Now they are happily married and have a little girl. Good luck
Darling, I know a man and a woman who have been together since the 6th grade and are inseparable. Of course it is possible. This is the best thing in life. But just know that nothing is eternal. Live and appreciate it in the present moment and time will show what, how and why.
The relationship can be maintained and wonderful. Or you can only be deceived. Then change and separate. But let me tell you my story briefly. I met the boy when I was 14 and he was 15. It was not love at first sight, but it was a very conscious love, despite our age. We were in high school together for five years, we graduated together. Then I went to study and he went to work, but we didn't separate. We knew that one day we would start a family. Towards the end of the university we decided to live together. You know, I guess, lodging, some money, borrowing. But these were not our first difficulties and we managed. In our teenage years we went through so many difficult periods - my parents forbade me to see each other, I couldn't be alone, etc. But ... we got here. At the moment we are together for almost 30 years and not only, but we also have a little, cute little girl. We also dealt with poverty. And love is even stronger and conscious. She somehow grew up with us and I believe that one day she will surpass us. I wish you success. Leave things to their own devices, but remember that you have to fight for everything you want.
I know some who are 9th grade boyfriends and are now 3rd year students in Sofia and are still together. What you think is nonsense. It is said by people who cannot stay long with one person. And it's better to love a person a lot now than never to love.
I'm a girl of almost 16 and I haven't had a boyfriend so far. My opinion on the matter is that you should not think so much of him. Live for the moment, if you are destined to be together you will be. In life, everything happens for a purpose, so love yourself there is nothing wrong. And I think it's in your favor (I'm talking about you learning to love). As for your fears that you may break up and things like that ... This is completely normal, in the end this is an important person for you, but even if things change and you are no longer together, you will certainly continue and you will do it.
Whether you will have a forward relationship is up to you. In principle, teenage relationships do not last long, because at this age people can not properly judge their partners and are not serious in their relationships. But this does not mean that a relationship that is started at an early age is doomed to failure. If you both love each other, trust each other, talk about your problems openly and solve them together, if you want to have a happy and healthy relationship more than "surviving" (ie having indiscriminate sex without feelings with different partners) , you can have a relationship until you even die. It's all up to you.
Whatever you feel, this is not the true love that is talked about in principle. You are just children in love, 'puppy love', childish love. There will be many more. So do not be afraid that you will lose it, live your life until the next one comes. I'm sure you think it's impossible, but we've all been through this and believe me, we've all thought the same things.
Dear author, There are no rules and dependencies in these things - it depends only on you. I know a couple who have been together since they were 12 (they are now married and have children over 12) - so it is by no means impossible. On the other hand, in many cases people just change and stop being interesting. I say again - there is no regularity, so do not think so much - live your romance, enjoy each other, and whatever came out - such. Greetings
So if you understand each other and are happy, why make a mistake? I don't think that loving at all can be a mistake, if it is the most dramatic, the most fatal love.
Do not delay anything and do not change anything, continue your relationship in the same way. The important thing is to feel good, the years prevent you from seeing certain obstacles and problems because you do not live together, do not pay bills and so on, but this does not mean that you can not call your love love. When you are young, the lack of these problems reflects well, because that's just the two of you, your feelings and the dramas that are normal for your age, nothing more serious and vital than that. Your love, perhaps, is much purer than that of adults for this very reason. Don't worry, live your relationship and the future will show. Who knows, you can stay together. Don't think about making a living now or the situation after 4 years, live in the moment. If you feel good with this boy, be with him as long as it is.
It may be eternal love, it may not be. Time will tell. You can't predict or plan what will happen to your relationship in the near and distant future, so 'live for the moment' and hope for the best.