I'm 22 years old. I have a long relationship that is not going well. Every day scandals, every day harassment and I only tolerate it because the habit is something that makes it so difficult for me that I can't end the relationship. Of course, there are pros, but they are insignificant before the cons. I don't want to go into details, but in general, we grew up as children together, but little by little everyone goes their own way, in a different direction, and the things that used to connect us have become a habit of just being together as roommates. I met someone recently. We have a 4 year difference and it is smaller. Initially, we met several times. That's how things happened, that we are already working together. At least we understand each other more than wonderfully. His gaze enchants me, which had not happened to me ... I have no words to describe how strong my feelings are. Sorry about that, that my situation is such that I am afraid to try. My heart breaks with love and sadness at the same time. I think you have to fight to win someone. I don't have the strength to do it and I'm scared. I am even ashamed to tell about my relationship, and as soon as the person in question found out how long and how much nerve poisoning was in question, I saw how his eyes went out. I saw a blank stare full of vain hopes, and it made me feel terrible. I am very special in character and not everyone can understand me. I am relatively young, but one thing I want from life and that is happiness and a person next to me, in which I can be sure that he is next to me. Even now I would settle down, as long as I had security with me. I would give anything to get happiness in this life. I shrugged a man, and maybe that's all I'll do. I want to try to overcome what is bothering me, but I don't know if I will manage. The lack of my current daily life will kill me. On the other hand, the inability to try in any way to win over the person who took my mind will also kill me. I just wanted to pour out my soul, thank you for taking the time for the drama in my life.
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End this toxic relationship and act with the new person!
I think you should try the new person. You are not 50 so that you have nowhere to go because of children, financial commitment, etc. Now you have youth, now is the time for elections. Don't stick to someone who doesn't make you feel good out of habit. When I am very hesitant about something, I have a technique that some people may laugh at, but personally I feel that it helps me - I try with all my imagination to imagine that I am 70-80 and I remember the past, knowing that I probably don't have much life left. Honestly, I always come to the conclusion that I would be sorry if I didn't try, because no matter what happens, I will die someday and even if it's a mistake, I won't live with it forever, literally. I myself could not overcome a man for years, even from the very habit of loving him, and that ruined me. over time I met another boy, we have a difference of 5 years, he is younger / I am d / d as big as you / and the attitude is radically different. I took the chance and now I am much happier. At 22, not 62, those 40-50 people sometimes get divorced or find a new burn, and you live as if in a cage. Give yourself a chance!
I would give everything to make you happy, but all you will do is meet him !!! What nonsense !!! Get together and tell him how much you like him, kiss him ... May I have your female logic!
You will succeed, go ahead!
Habit is not happiness. The only thing that amazes me is that you are aware of the situation, but you are not taking any measures. You want happiness and understanding, at the moment these things are missing in your life and you have found the reason, but you stay and wait for a miracle. It's like standing in the middle of the Sahara, without any water in you, and saying to yourself that you want water and will wait in one place for rain to fall. That you will be dehydrated until it rains. And now you will suffer your suffering, remaining in an unhappy relationship. Once your eyes begin to flicker, we can no longer talk about a stable relationship, security of feelings and determination to start a family. You have grown so much in this relationship that you no longer know each other and have completely different paths. It often occurs in long-term relationships that began at an early age (school). This is the most anticipated development. Now you will wait for your friend to leave you or you will live like this for many more years, there is no third option. A little courage you have to put an end to and continue your life, completely free to choose for yourself and be with someone with whom you will be happier.
You will not miss the things of the present everyday if you embark on a new relationship. You will be so calm, so nice and you will always be smiling. I was in a similar situation, but I ended my relationship and believe me - it is very easy and very nice. It used to be like I had a lump in my throat and I couldn't swallow and breathe. It weighed on me every second. Then I sat down next to the man we had a 6-year relationship with and he had no idea what I was up to, and I just said, "I want to break up!" He became blue, red, purple, etc. He didn't know what to say, I cried, he begged me to think and discuss things again later, but I said through tears - "No! I can't do this anymore and I have nothing to think about. "I left the apartment and we didn't see each other for a few days. It was hard for me the first night, but then I realized the new situation and happiness flooded me. I wish you success! F 26
There is no wrong time. m35
"Home" you say? :) And how many of the "little ones" !!! and not the "young" use this word? Yes ... The topic is clear. And then why am I writing? I "have fun" on my own and everyone gets theirs. ;) In such stories, what a woman feels is physical attraction and it is not at all clear whether something more will happen to the man in question. Of course, it is certain that he must end the old unsatisfactory relationship. And the other - "God's work"! Ž
To number 9: I didn't understand what you mean by the words you quote, otherwise you don't mind 'having fun', but the idea here is to write a comment on the topic.
I don't know how long your relationship was, but I think it's over. This is what happens when you get together to live together from an early age and play with your family, without being ready to take on difficulties, responsibilities and everyday prose and everyday life, not only for sex until dawn. At least "officially" and put an end and bye. Your story is banal, it happened to 99% of women and men. Who hasn't dumped someone and hasn't been dumped by someone else? And everyone wants happiness, I don't know anyone wants to be unhappy. Every woman wants security, but there is no security. Do not burden your new relationship with excessive expectations, so that you do not have big disappointments.