I broke up with my girlfriend a long time ago because in the last few months of the relationship she looked very tired, she lost her smile, her sense of humor in general was no longer happy with me. We moved away, he started kissing me rarely, he didn't look at me like before, he didn't hug me like before. In those moments, I felt disgusted because I loved her terribly, and it was as if she was standing next to me. I kept thinking that she would always be with me, despite the fact that sometimes I didn't pay attention to her at all or I didn't treat her very well at times. I took it for granted, I realize it. I am convinced that there was no one else one hundred percent. Only I was to blame for her getting bored of our relationship and to this day I wonder if I did the right thing, if I had to fight to win her over I want to try to get together, to see if he wants to talk to me at all, but the most important question is is this appropriate? Or it's better to let her live her life without reminding her of the past, because on the one hand she seems cheeky. I hope to get some advice, because the topic of love with friends can not be discussed.
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Win it! You love her, listen to your heart !!! As the saying goes: "Go for it"!
Well, what can I tell you ... I was with a girl for a year and a few months ... Everything was fine until she told me something terrible about herself, I shortened it, and we met again and so on several times and despite everything she she agreed to be together. I resigned myself to the thought of what it is, but it doesn't matter here. She is even one of the least among the others, but I really allowed myself to separate, because my feelings for her are already dead, to compromise her every time and on top of that she ignores me when we fight, and I hate him the most -a lot. Well, I broke up with her, I was looking for another girl and I fell in love and I hope everything is fine. What can I tell you ... there are many girls brother, it's just a matter of time to find the right one :)
Hello! :) While I was reading your story and it sounded very familiar to me, but these are some of my thoughts. Anyway. You know, the advice you'll get here will be basically of two types - let her go on with her life when you had to fight you didn't fight, now she's moved on so it doesn't bother her or the other extreme - fight for your love. There is no right or wrong opinion. In this case, it is more important to first find out if she wants to communicate with you at all. If he does not want - everything else is unnecessary. However, there is something else. Even if he talks to you, it may just be out of politeness, not because he still has feelings for you. You say it yourself, it's been a while, it's normal for it to have cooled down. But you certainly had pure feelings for her when you decided to end the relationship just because she didn't feel good about you. Whatever you decide, I wish you success. Even if it doesn't work out, don't get upset. Just accept things as they are and move on. If she still has feelings for you and you decide to try again, this time try to be patient and build everything from scratch. Success! :)
Number 3 is absolutely right. You often post topics about this girl. He had written that you had separated. In the end, from so many written topics about your relationship, I was left with the impression that she often complains, she is not literate enough and you are ashamed of it, you also feel sorry for her and blame her for past relationships. There were various horrors for her brother. I think you stopped torturing yourself, as well as us reading your plays. Since you weren't happy with her, I can't understand why you're digging and what you want. She wanted a ring, you don't see a common future, and now hop a new topic.
You acted very stupidly by breaking up with her. The girl has clearly shown you with her actions that you are offended by your attitude towards her. And you, instead of changing and saying at least one thing, apologize and give at least one explanation for your actions, you abandoned it. The girl is certainly many times worse than the author, because the author has given her an extremely wrong signal that he no longer loves her. Once again, I am convinced that men do not know how to read women's signals correctly and make very stupid, even fatal mistakes after that ... The situation MUST be clarified through conversations, because at the moment both sides do not know exactly what happened to you.
I am the author and I want to say to number 4 that this is my first time writing here and my girlfriend has never wanted a ring and has no brother. But thanks to everyone for the feedback.
He was a great narcissist! To leave her without me sounds too arrogant. She didn't kiss you, she was tired, she didn't pay attention to you. Fuck the egoist! Go hard and give her a break when she is tired, be worried about her if you want her to respond with the same!
How cheeky it will be! You have to try, of course!
Because I am a desperate romantic and I believe in true love and the second chance, I will tell you, of course, to fight for it! You loved her, you still have feelings for her, there is no better reason than that. In some couples it happens from the second time, I personally know such. You just have to be sure that you want it yourself. If so, you act. First, you need to feel the soil and understand what it is about. If he lets you in again and gives you a sign that he wants to try, great, but don't rush or rush things. You lose nothing if you try! In case it doesn't work out, at least you will know that you did everything in your power to restore the connection. Whatever the outcome, people have said, "All evil for good!", Believe it and move on.
If you really love her, try to win her back. But remember that love is not a one-time act, it is more like throwing a ball. You give love and expect to receive love. She gives you love and expects to receive love. You see, you just wanted to receive, and you didn't give anything, that's why she was so sad. Try to show more of your feelings, if you really have them. No one can read a closed book. If you really love her, fight for her. Success!