Girls, how do you express your sympathies when you are not sure that the one you like falls for women? I would. Only 3 people know it, no one else would have guessed. My style is quite feminine (dresses with ruffles and skirts to the ground), my two serious relationships so far have unfortunately been with men ... So the people around me do not even think that I like women, but it turns out that this can be a huge minus. A year ago I met a girl at work. We became friends very quickly, she started dating my company. I've never been so close to anyone before, we see each other all the time, we laugh, we share. The problem is that I sank hard on it and I don't know what to do. On the one hand, she is the nicest and best person I know. I don't want to lose her (as a friend) because of some of my own, impossible thrill. On the other hand, I have never had such strong feelings for someone. When I'm around her, I can barely contain myself from hugging her, kissing her, and never letting her go. Sometimes it seems to me that she is flirting with me - casual touches, deep looks, jokes. But she can just joke, her character is like that ... open and warm to everyone. At times like this, I say to myself, "Forget it, she's straight ... After all, her ex-boyfriends are all men." But then I remember that they and mine are like that. About the option to tell her that I fall in love with women or that I'm in love with her: not a word. She'll decide I'm going crazy for her. I don't want to be like a predator in her eyes. I know how nasty it is for someone to be your friend and suddenly have back thoughts. You start thinking that he revolved around you just to get you into bed (it happened to me with male friends). Even if this is not the case, you always feel a little disappointed and deceived. And in this case, I'm hiding a pretty big secret (after all, she thinks I'm straight all year) and the risk is huge. How do I know if I have a chance? What signals should I look for? And if I don't, how can I continue to be her friend without acting like a stump? How do you deal with such situations?
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Go out for a bar or dinner one night as a woman. Or invite her to your house. Drink wine and confess. If you see that the reaction is not okay, you can always justify yourself with alcohol.
You can still tell her / show your feelings and when it comes to that, share that they have now started to appear - along with all your rapprochement and friendship. That way, she won't feel bad about hanging out with her for so long. You can try, jokingly or not, something like "It's very strange how we got so close in so little time. For some reason I feel super close to you, we fit so well in everything" and watch the reaction. Not to mention that I used to say things to my girlfriend (before she was like that to me) like "I'm just going to marry you ..." accompanied by laughter, of course, but we've been friends for much more than 3 years now. You can try to tell or mention something about your acquaintances / girlfriends who are together and you think they look super cute, etc ... And watch the reaction again. If you have someone close to the company, you can share it with him and he will mention something (which may sound like a joke). Very important - be positive and do not be ashamed of your feelings. I'll tell you one thing - all women are bisexual, just some never realize it. And I'm not just saying that. I've asked a lot of girls who are heterosexual and immediately admit to a direct question. At least they would try. My girlfriend before me was only with men and never thought of a woman. Until he falls in love with me and doesn't look away for so long and everything is wonderful. I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what interests you, I'm here for you. And good luck! If you have someone close to the company, you can share it with him and he will mention something (which may sound like a joke). Very important - be positive and do not be ashamed of your feelings. I'll tell you one thing - all women are bisexual, just some never realize it. And I'm not just saying that. I've asked a lot of girls who are heterosexual and immediately admit to a direct question. At least they would try. My girlfriend before me was only with men and never thought of a woman. Until he falls in love with me and doesn't look away for so long and everything is wonderful. I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what you are interested in, I am against you. And good luck! If you have someone close to the company, you can share it with him and he will mention something (which may sound like a joke). Very important - be positive and do not be ashamed of your feelings. I'll tell you one thing - all women are bisexual, some just never realize it. And I'm not just saying that. I've asked a lot of girls who are heterosexual and immediately admit to a direct question. At least they would try. My girlfriend before me was only with men and never thought of a woman. Until he falls in love with me and doesn't look away for so long and everything is wonderful. I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what you are interested in, I am against you. And good luck! just some never realize it. And I'm not just saying that. I've asked a lot of girls who are heterosexual and immediately admit to a direct question. At least they would try. My girlfriend before me was only with men and never thought of a woman. Until he falls in love with me and doesn't look away for so long and everything is wonderful. I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what interests you, I'm here for you. And good luck! just some never realize it. And I'm not just saying that. I've asked a lot of girls who are heterosexual and immediately admit to a direct question. At least they would try. My girlfriend before me was only with men and never thought of a woman. Until he falls in love with me and doesn't look away for so long and everything is wonderful. I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what you are interested in, I am against you. And good luck! I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what you are interested in, I am against you. And good luck! I don't know what other advice to give you, but don't despair. Ask what you are interested in, I am against you. And good luck!
In girls, it is very difficult to understand, because even if they are hetero-flirtatious and hang out with each other, hug and even kiss. At least I don't know how you could understand. Maybe you just need time. It takes a long time to get in and understand her thinking. Maybe so, you will be able to feel if he likes you that way. Success! I'm also would and I think it would be best! :) Girl of 19
I think a good option is to really open the topic from afar. Talk about sex with her, say you've tried a woman, or if you haven't, you'd try. It's just as if this fact revolves around the topic of sex. From there you will see her comment - if it is positive or indifferent you can start flirting with her, to cross the physical barrier between you .. she is the same as with men, it is clear at a glance what is transparent. Stay alone often with her, and a little ridiculous advice, but also share some of your secret, in this case not this one, but something you are afraid / worried about. People trust much more easily if they have become the object of someone's trust. And in this case, she must have super wow confidence in order to embark on something so bold in relation to our society :)
First think about how many children will be born to you from such a "bi-" relationship and then go to do nonsense again ... He The natural selection is for this - people with wrong genes should not leave a generation behind.
From the author: Thank you all for the advice! Number 2, congratulations that you have been together for so long, you just give me an example and hope :) And who took the first step with you and were there many hesitations?
"If you see that the reaction is not okay, you can always justify yourself with alcohol." Which reaction? The author or the guest? Because if you get there, to hide and justify yourself with alcohol, it's better to change the environment.
Bass case! I can't understand it that much. Come on, it's clear for men, but how to imagine a female fagot. Author, are you both a hetero-woman and a lesbian? !? Male friendship exists. In the barracks, in men's professions and in general, having sex between men is unthinkable. We talk in a men's company for women, who made it up, how it bent, groaned, etc. This is understandable, but I can't understand sex between women! What pleasure does it give them to rub their vaginas into each other, to lick themselves without feeling the male penis in their vaginas? Imagine two bi-women and a straight man in a hotel room. What would happen? The man will knock one first, and while he is still "warm" he will spit out the other. And then the women will say they are lesbians and the man raped them both! Now what? Is this normal?
Hello, I will tell you my story, although much of our society would oppose me. At the age of 31 with 2 children, a man (sometimes aggressive, sometimes nice) of 13. We are together and before that I had a relationship with boys. Each of us has our own business. Everything so far is a classic, but at some point something in me changed, I saw that if I like a woman, we quickly become friends and something stronger appears as a feeling in me, I want it while having fun, so we kiss or touch, but this after a while it passed me by. Until SHE appears! It so happened that we became part of each other's lives, she seemed nice, modest unlike me, radiant, beautiful and insisted that we be together more often and just the two of us because I'm used to big companies a lot of people and in one moment I felt different. I looked her in the eye, I couldn't wait to see her, to greet her and to smell her and everything related to her was super interesting. Until at some point I fell in love with her. And I didn't wait long, I invited her as a guest and confessed to her. I was afraid of losing her because the answer was just like a friend, wasn't it? But then she did not stop looking for me and I felt that she was not indifferent to me and things worked out, now we are together and although we have to hide we love each other very much ... our dream came true ..
По принцип флирта между лесбийки или би-сексуални с е еднакъв като този в хетеросексуални отношения. Но при теб не иде реч за това, а как точно да разбереш до къде стигат нейните симпатии. Според мен е напълно удачно да подхванеш темата за връзка жена-жена. Дали ще я попиташ била ли е тя с жени и ще наблюдаваш реакция, или ще заговориш за собствения си опит, или пък ще подемеш темата от съвсем далеч как си гледала предаване за хомосексуални връзки и ще изразиш мнение или ще потърсиш нейното... всичко ще ти свърши работа да придобиеш представа. Оттам насетне ако реакцията й е тип "не одобрявам, не разбирам, не харесвам" значи си оставате приятелки и по-добре да не опитваш. Ако каже, че никога не е била с жена, но не покаже погнуса от идеята - можеш да разчиташ някога нещо да се случи, но трябва да действаш внимателно. Лек, фин флирт; комплименти; може малки и много лични подаръци, за да те почувства още по-близка; трябва да търсиш физически контакт, за да свикне да я докосваш и така лека полека ще стигнете до секс. Оттам насетне вече дали сте способни да имате действителна връзка, дали можете да градите бъдеще заедно и семейство - зависи от вас! Може и със секса да си останете. Защото за мен не е връзка това да се криете по бърлоги и никой да не знае, че сте гаджета. Ако пък разбереш, че вече е била в такива връзки най-добре е директно да й изтипосаш чувствата и емоциите си към нея с думи или действия, за да е наясно каква е ситуацията и ако иска, да преминете на следващо ниво.
Unfortunately, the perversions of porn are already infecting society.