Hello. I am a man of 21 and I wonder what part of men share and need to share their feelings? If you share, do you prefer men or women? I'm talking mainly about more unpleasant cases such as separation from a loved one. I will set an example with myself. I recently broke up with my girlfriend, who meant a lot to me. I used to share with her, but apart from how I feel about her, I didn't need to comment on anything else. I haven't even thought about it. At the moment, however, it is quite difficult for me and I have a girlfriend with whom I talk on this topic (about the former). I can't share friends with most boys, it's unnatural for me; I told one or two, but they didn't seem to understand me, they gave some general advice. While the girl, who is smaller, understands me quite well. Let's not open a new topic - girls, do you think
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I don't need to share. And honestly, people do not listen to such outpourings - they are not interested, nor should they. Everyone has their own problems in order to burden themselves with others.
I'm a girl, but I can tell them no, it's not a weakness. I just think you need to find friends guys of the more sensitive type. By the way, there are those who talk about their feelings, but are rare.
It's not a weakness, we all need to share sometimes. And no, you're no less a man if you do.
Dude, it's a weakness, so what? We are human, we are right, and it is normal to be weak sometimes. It is not normal what we do - to suppress our feelings. It is they who make us human. There is nothing to explain to the former, but it is quite normal to show weakness in front of close friends, be it men or women. I used to be uncomfortable, especially in front of men, but then I realized that there was nothing shameful about it. And people who respect me accept it well. You now have to decide in front of whom it is appropriate. I only share with close friends.
It is definitely a weakness and women will not like it at all. That's why this site has it, to complain. ;)
I am a man of 23. I don't think it's a weakness, at least I feel the same need as you. At least you have someone to share it with, and even if the girl is decent and you are obviously close and nice, or at least she wants to help you. Maybe you feel awkward because it is customary for men not to talk about feelings, otherwise I would share with a girl, I think that most or at least a large part are good listeners and will help you with understanding and sincere advice that will be from advantage.
No, I don't think it's a sign of weakness. When the soul suffers, if all this energy does not come out in one way or another, at some point one collapses. Share and it will always be easier for you. :) Ж18
I used to talk, but I don't do it anymore, because women take it as a weakness and run away, even if they tell you that there is no problem. If you talk about feelings, it is as if they immediately look at you as a friend, not as a man. It's just over.
The man must be like a monolith. He must be strong to fight all kinds of pain and emotions !!!
It's human, but women perceive it as a weakness. Choose who you can share it with. I'm a woman and I don't like men talking to me about their feelings, it's kind of against their nature. I accept them as unstable and not stable enough. for feelings, they themselves speak much more than empty words.G30
From the author: Thanks for the answers. In principle, I do not need so much support, but in this case, the fact that I shared with that girl helped me with the separation. It was just my first and biggest love, I fucked things up and I was pretty naughty, and still is at times. About how women perceive him - for me if she is a man mostly, she will help her boyfriend as is in a difficult situation and it is difficult for him, even if it is not revealed, but to be seen. But whining about small things wouldn't be OK for a woman, yes. I'm basically naughty about most things, but when it comes to a certain girl, you know how it is.
The truth they will rarely tell you is that no one is interested in men's feelings ... And you would understand that with this boyfriend of yours, if you had set out to share more general feelings with her, not those that revolve around only one. your body ... It is not a male weakness, but a social weakness that men are seen as an instrument (for war, for resources, for labor) and not as a human being with weaknesses and feelings. But ... this is a taboo subject, it is not "allowed" to think so ... Otherwise ... you can understand more things than it is "healthy" ... Even rarely the sincere opinion of a woman above: "I I'm a woman and I don't like men to talk to me about their feelings, it's kind of against their nature. "Not dear, it's not against their nature, but your idea of what kind of man, for you personally, you're selfishly looking for. So, someone to complain to, without expectations of reciprocity ... Otherwise, my advice to the author is, don't dig too deep into this topic, you are very young for it. Just hide it in yourself and hold it until one day it sticks to you and you are ready to see ...
Not only is it normal, but it's masculine. Real men, contrary to popular belief, cry. When we experience a new shocking experience in life, we form a new neural network in the brain. It opens the parasympathetic nervous system and hop - tears. Every time this happens, we have to pour liquid. Saliva, tears, peeing ... etc. He who does not pour restrains himself. The real man first sheds tears and then after the new neural system is created we accept suffering more easily. That is, understand it so that if your 9th child dies, you will take a nap on your hat and you will not cry. Yes, but the reality is that if you've never had children, if you don't shed tears for the first one who died, just because it was "male" ... well ... it's not natural. In other words ... you go through the suffering, it makes us strong. You are stronger now. People (en masse) just see that strong men do not cry and imitate without themselves having gone from there. What you did as a mistake, however, is that the lady should not know about your ex. I made that mistake. Do not. Women can't stand it. They always compete, even with your exes. They don't think like us. So STOP! Do not speak. She listens to you but burns her from within. It feels secondary. True, I've had people who didn't care about my exes, but they didn't listen to me with interest either, because they were whores. That's how they stayed. She listens to you but burns her from within. It feels secondary. True, I've had people who didn't care about my exes, but they didn't listen to me with interest either, because they were whores. That's how they stayed. She listens to you but burns her from within. It feels secondary. True, I've had people who didn't care about my exes, but they didn't listen to me with interest either, because they were whores. That's how they stayed.