Good evening, I would not get involved to tell my story and comment on individual statements if I had not suffered 5 years ago, and especially due to the fact that I am pregnant with my third child by a man who truly loves me and I love him , my second husband. So, I am a woman, but I cannot fail to note that we women have a great deal of disrespect for ourselves as individuals, and a great deal we fall into the hands of sloppy men who quite skillfully take advantage of our weaknesses and manipulate us as well. they want. Five years ago, I caught my ex-husband in adultery in a very strange way. His mistress complained or rather regretted it to a friend of hers - how bad I was in character, how I only expressed dissatisfaction, how I did not give him sex [because I was frigid], how I ate his money, how I abused him in front of my relatives, what a pampering I was, and he was dear to me only because of the children, our marriage was completely formal, only on paper, and she [the mistress] gave him everything he needed. This information reaches me in one way or another and I decided to check it. I learned who the woman was - ten years older than the former, married with two children. I also learned where they meet. I caught them both right at the hotel, but I was furious and they fucked up. When I unscrewed both him and her with a slap and shouted: "who is a frigid bitch, and how much money did I eat for you" ... It became a show. One of the guards came and yelled at me to go outside scaring customers. No, I say. He picked me up and led me out the door. I cried. They stay inside and do not go out.
At one point, the ex goes out and calls me. " let's go home, let's not do circuses. No - I say - we will do. "She had locked herself in the toilet of the lobby bar and did not move from there. I left her, and the same evening I went with the children to mother and father. I told all the relatives the reason. I firmly decided - I am divorcing He asked us to talk, this time I didn't raise my voice, I clearly explained to him how I knew, etc. I told him you don't love me anymore, you don't cheat when you love, he couldn't answer why he cheated on me. me - no love, it was just sex He loved me - chatter, chatter I ask him - what is true of all these things she said. She says - there is nothing true. Then - why? Well, he shouts, we are so we're talking, and she told me that her husband doesn't have sex with her, I tell him I don't care, I'm not one of those women who will bend over and squat for the children. I told him clearly - you have set out on a path from which there is no return and everyone knows it. He will keep his pants running - a year, two and then again. I mean, I've always been helpful to him. I took out bank loans because of him. Cooked, cleaned, arranged. I have not fallen into postpartum depression. I didn't deny him sex. I am a sexy woman, but monogamous. I can't just go to bed with a man and think of reasons for infidelity to calm my conscience. We got divorced. We sold the apartment - we divided the money and who was from where. He thought he would scare me by paying the minimum child support and I would squat to him. He just got the man wrong. The divorce worked well for me, because I knew I was right. Then we were 30 years old, with two girls aged 4 and 2. After the divorce, I decided either I would find someone to truly love me and the children, or I stay like that - alone, but I will not allow a man to be with me just for one sex. Two years after the divorce, I lived without sex, I didn't die or go crazy, but the wait was worth it. I have the self-confidence of a beautiful woman and I know the price, I don't get anyone's mat and mat, and I don't accept infidelity as a form of behavior in marriage. I am now married to a wonderful man, unfortunately with a cruel fate. He has been a widower for 10 years.
He loses - a woman and a child in a car accident. He was barely saved. It is difficult to return to life after that, but he succeeds. And my children accept him very well and he accepts them. I told him I wanted to have a child because he deserved it. He cried. I want to tell you - do not waste your time with unfaithful people - there is no government. They lie to us and then to themselves, and it is always someone else's fault. Know that you will always find a person worthy of you. Not everyone in our country is abnormal. Luck and love,
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It doesn't sound like a fabrication. An inspiring story. Be brave and do not agree to less than you deserve.
Very touching story, I want to one day become a woman like you! EVERY woman should have such self-confidence, we should all know that we are fit and deserve more - both men and women.
The story seems fictional to me, but even so, there are certainly many such men. Involuntary. They just want, lie, make sacrifices, always dissatisfied, no responsibility. And when they expose them, they wag their tails and shit so much that you even want to laugh at the pathetic sight. And they deserve just such a development, not because they have cheated, but because they are mice who cannot stand behind their words and actions.
A wonderful illustration of the fact that this white swallow in today's rather disgusting world of man-woman relationships, the real, pure woman, the one who gives love and gives herself completely to the man, always finds happiness!
You did the right thing! You are a strong woman, for which I congratulate you. Be healthy and happy - your whole family.
5 years ago, and now you have decided to tell us about this thing. And what is the benefit. Aren't you happy now, why are you going back 5 years? Or do you think about the former? Looking at the spelling ... She wanted to give birth to a child because she deserved it. Don't be a machine that gives out prizes with a good result. You wanted to give birth to a child to tie him up, not because he deserved it.
The story seems a bit fantastic to me, it looks like a puzzle put together by a lot of other shared stories here. First, the things that have been said in your address are already written in more than one topic. I quote "how bad a character I had, I didn't give sex / because I was frigid / I insulted him in front of relatives, etc. Secondly, how could the mistress be so stupid to say things left and right, things that would arouse doubt in Every second, and in order for the rumor to reach you, you obviously had common acquaintances. immediately without compromise.The fourth sentence "you do not love, who loves does not cheat" I read it and him in another comment here. Fifth, nowhere do you mention that it was difficult for you, you do not mention that you felt hurt and betrayed. You were very angry the moment you understood each other, you cried, but then? You give the impression that your eye has not blinked. If you were a five-person wife, "you took out loans from banks, it was always prepared, cleared, you didn't fall into postpartum depression", it turns out that your husband cheated on you for no reason, didn't that hurt you? At least there was one justification for man. Sixth - you say "I had decided that I would find a person who loves me and the children", then is love decided? No, it just comes if you are destined, if you do not remain unloved and alone. Didn't it occur to you for a moment "now I will move forward, only with my children"? How were you so sure that you would find someone to accept you and your children? Seventh, meeting a widower who has lost his child also seems very lucky to me. My opinion is that you are more likely to win the lottery. Don't get me wrong, Author, but that's how it seems to me, if everything is still true, I have no choice but to congratulate you on the strength you had. If I catch my husband in adultery, I will also be able to cope somehow, but at first for a while, I will probably be in shock, I will not know where I am, let alone draw such strength and composure. And lastly, don't forget to ask, "Where is your ex now, what happened to him?" You made him so black and wrong that I'm curious. if, after all, everything is true, I have no choice but to congratulate you on the strength you have had. If I catch my husband in infidelity, I will also be able to cope somehow, but for a while, I will probably be in shock, I will not know where I am, let alone draw such strength and composure. And lastly, don't forget to ask, "Where is your ex now, what happened to him?" You made him so black and wrong that I'm curious. if, after all, everything is true, I have no choice but to congratulate you on the strength you have had. If I catch my husband in adultery, I will also be able to cope somehow, but at first for a while, I will probably be in shock, I will not know where I am, let alone draw such strength and composure. And lastly, don't forget to ask, "Where is your ex now, what happened to him?" You made him so black and wrong that I'm curious.
99% of infidels sing the same song for their official partner. If she is a woman, she is necessarily congested, lethargic, has not had sex for years and sleeps in different rooms. If he is a man, he is a mold, a lazy person, an alcoholic, he does not pay attention to her, etc. The truth, however, has absolutely nothing to do with such chatter. It's just the opposite. In most cases, the halves are super punctual and dedicated people. Such connections, the sooner they are terminated, the better.
Deep down I believe that a person does not cheat if he is happy and loved. It is not correct to tell someone that they have cheated on him because he did not give something to his partner, but it is so. Infidelity shakes the whole family, but one must think of all those affected, not the victim just to become even more arrogant and arrogant and think of himself as even greater and sinless. Excuse me, ma'am, I'm glad you're happy to move on and have another child, but I'm sure your husband isn't so black. The things he shared with the other weighed heavily on him. And please, no nonsense, that everyone speaks like that! He started sharing after they were already asleep. He didn't have to hold her. The man needed to share. It's not just sex when he's looking for support. To speak it in front of others, so the topics were very often pounded and this has already smoked with her. Men don't share personal things so easily. I hope that you will be able to extract the essence of the message that is addressed to you and you will be happy and unharmed in your second marriage.
Number 9, I'm not the author and I'm a man, but I fully support her. As something is wrong with you in a relationship - you sit and talk. If conversations don't work out, you're splitting up culturally. However, to pretend that there is nothing and at the same time to wave left and right is vile. It is quite another matter that the vast majority of infidels maintain several similar relationships in parallel.
Thanks ma'am. Everyone is a blacksmith of his own destiny.
Same situation. I was the bad, disgusting wife, and he was the wonderful husband who lived with her for the children. She is the mistress, the woman of his life, who lives with her nasty husband because of relatives and children. And day X comes - the day of the denouement. The mistress's nasty husband, of course, changes the door locks and sends her to go where he wants. She roars, mine snorts, and finally, like the last goose, I understand. I also understand all the disgusting talk about me. Then, in his eyes, from the most boring and disgusting wife, I became the most beautiful, the most beautiful, and the most loved, and the mistress the greatest whore who meant nothing to him. So how do you live with such a person? I got divorced and I'm not sorry. His mistress lives in a dormitory, her children stayed with her ex-husband. He roars and pulls his hair. She asks her husband for mercy. Mine lives with his mother and calls me 10 times a day to ask me "how am I". And when you draw the line, what did they gain? "Nothing!" And what we faithful spouses have lost - years of living with selfish beings who did not love us at all. I don't see what the problem is when you no longer like one person to part with him culturally and civilly, instead of flirting and shifting the blame to the other. It's simple, nothing more than a conversation and cultural behavior, but the coward and the egoist can't understand it. instead of mumbling and shifting the blame to the other. It's simple, nothing more than a conversation and cultural behavior, but the coward and the egoist can't understand it. instead of mumbling and shifting the blame to the other. It's simple, nothing more than a conversation and cultural behavior, but the coward and the egoist can't understand it.