Hello! I'm a girl, 18. My problem is that when it comes to sex, the penis can't get inside me. I feel a tearing pain and it's as if my vagina is "closing" and something is preventing it from entering. We try a lubricant and it still doesn't work. I've only been with one boy so far and we haven't had any problems. I don't think I have a physical problem and I'm relatively relaxed, but I wonder why it doesn't work. Can anyone give me some advice? I ask the moderators to post my topic, because it is important. Thanks in advance.
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Hi, it may be strange to you, the first comment on the topic is from a man one day you can be grateful to me, if, I hope you find and solve your problem. I write this because my girlfriend has this problem and I have not read everything on the subject of consultations with a sexologist, psychologist, etc. The problems could be three: 1. Physical problem, harmless fungus, inflammation that has no other symptoms. Be sure to start with an examination, not relying on a preventive one, but explicitly describing the problem, I hope you are not ashamed, you will only prolong the inevitable. So, if it's not a physical problem - 2. It may not be your man, it's just, no matter how much it seems to you, it may just not be, there is no way to explain it, but if it is, you will be lucky. And number 3. Here comes the complicated, called vaginismus. It is a psychological state in which you have a normal desire for sex, you get aroused, you enjoy it, but when it comes to penetration, you can't do it at all, or it's hellishly difficult and painful. The problem affects the vaginal muscles, on a subconscious level, your body rejects penetration, can not prepare for sex, and when you try to penetrate, your muscles tighten painfully and do not allow this to happen. The seriousness comes due to the fact that this is difficult to fix, in most cases after consultation with a specialist, a lot of patience and yours and the partner, a desire to deal with the problem and training on your part and the partner's. Keep in mind that this is a really nasty problem and I really hope it isn't! Success! If you have any questions, I'll come here these days to see. Bye Bye on a subconscious level, your body rejects penetration, it cannot prepare for sex, and when you try to penetrate, your muscles tighten painfully and do not allow this to happen. The seriousness comes due to the fact that this is difficult to fix, in most cases after consultation with a specialist, a lot of patience and yours and the partner's desire to deal with the problem and training on your part and the partner's. Keep in mind that this is a really nasty problem and I really hope it isn't! Success! If you have any questions, I'll come here these days to see. Bye Bye on a subconscious level, your body rejects penetration, it cannot prepare for sex, and when you try to penetrate, your muscles tighten painfully and do not allow this to happen. The seriousness comes due to the fact that this is difficult to fix, in most cases after consultation with a specialist, a lot of patience and yours and the partner, a desire to deal with the problem and training on your part and the partner's. Keep in mind that this is a really nasty problem and I really hope it isn't! Success! If you have any questions, I'll come here these days to see. Bye Bye a lot of patience for both you and your partner, a desire to deal with the problem and training on your part and your partner's. Keep in mind that this is a really nasty problem and I really hope it isn't! Success! If you have any questions, I'll come here these days to see. Bye Bye a lot of patience for both you and your partner, a desire to deal with the problem and training on your part and your partner's. Keep in mind that this is a really nasty problem and I really hope it isn't! Success! If you have any questions, I'll come here these days to see. Bye Bye
Number 1, thank you very much. The strange thing is that I have never had such a problem before.
Double the foreplay to make sure you're as relaxed as you can be. Let her give you an oral before she tries to enter. If you like romance, make yourself an evening with candles, roses, wine and dinner, do it in a romantic light, be on top or otherwise in a controlling position to know subconsciously that you will not score it quickly or rudely, because you will you regulate everything and that can help. If not, Comment 1 may have the answer. Success! USA
The problem is not physical, but in the fact that your partner can not reassign you or even unconsciously with something unpleasant. Go with your boyfriend to a psychologist or sexologist and things will get better!