Hello! I want to share my story, I don't know if I just want to pour out my soul or get advice. That's how things work. I caught up with a boy, supposedly perfect, we were together for a long time, but you know, everyone is good until you meet him. Although he should be a responsible adult, his thinking is still like that of a small child. I love him very much, still, but it just burdened me more than it made me happy. Only quarrels over nonsense, he didn't even want to have sex, something was always justified. And judging by the opinion of the men around me, I don't like to brag, but I also look good. Friends to whom I have shared these things have been holding each other's heads, "how can he have such a chick next to him and not treat her as he deserves." I started working at a local restaurant. His relative is a colleague of mine. I went there with the thought that she would train and prepare me, protect and encourage me, but I was clearly wrong. I have a colleague who is, to put it mildly, quite nice. But I am a loyal person and I would not cheat. We met the person in question, several times we just talked about common things when I was on a shift with her. She obviously noticed that I had paid attention to him and thought it good to go and tell my friend that I was dealing with the colleague, that I was hanging around him, even that I had given him blowjobs and a bunch of other nonsense. He dumped me accordingly, thinking I was cheating. Okay, I'm tired of this nonsense anyway, what normal sensible old man would dump his serious girlfriend for rumors? Does not matter. I'm dumb, but after a long relationship there are a lot of memories and so on. I called him because we couldn't see each other, and he probably wouldn't agree to try to fix things, but it didn't work out. Therefore, I needed another male figure to pay attention to me. I chose the colleague. I had no intentions, I just wanted to meet, he's a good boy, good and sensible. I just decided to act when I realized that maybe he was paying attention to me because I was new and all these intrigues were to test me and I stopped writing to him. He was gone for a while, when he returned I had already learned some interesting rumors about me and him and decided to share them with him. We talked, we started writing to each other and things would happen there, I realized that I was late. He is dealing with another colleague of mine. As the circumstances progressed, I became desperate and depressed. As a result, on a calm, cool evening, I decide to write to an even older friend of mine, who suddenly stopped writing to me and then I saw him with another at the disco. The past is gone. To the surprise of not many people, he answered me. And we started writing to each other. Who is how, what he does, where he works, what he does and so on. He wrote me that he wanted to sleep because he was at work in the morning, I wrote him goodnight, he replied with the same and a kiss followed. I'm a little confused, a new job, I'm breaking up with my ex, the confusion with my colleagues, now he's sending kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over. The past is gone. To the surprise of not many people, he answered me. And we started writing to each other. Who is how, what he does, where he works, what he does and so on. He wrote me that he wanted to sleep because he was at work in the morning, I wrote him goodnight, he replied with the same and a kiss followed. I'm a little confused, a new job, I'm breaking up with my ex, the confusion with my colleagues, now he's sending kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over. The past is gone. To the surprise of not many people, he answered me. And we started writing to each other. Who is how, what he does, where he works, what he does and so on. He wrote me that he wanted to sleep because he was at work in the morning, I wrote him goodnight, he replied with the same and a kiss followed. I'm a little confused, a new job, I'm breaking up with my ex, the confusion with my colleagues, now he's sending kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over. where he works, what he does and so on. He wrote me that he wanted to sleep because he was at work in the morning, I wrote him goodnight, he replied with the same and a kiss followed. I'm a little confused, a new job, I'm breaking up with my ex, the confusion with my colleagues, now he's sending kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over. where he works, what he does and so on. He wrote me that he wanted to sleep because he was at work in the morning, I wrote him goodnight, he replied with the same and a kiss followed. I'm a little confused, a new job, I'm breaking up with my ex, the confusion with my colleagues, now he's sending kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over. confusion with colleagues, now he sends kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over. confusion with colleagues, now he sends kisses to my ex, and I know he won't do it just like that. I'm really confused. I don't even know what to ask, just someone to help me with something, because I don't know what to do. I know you're going to say I'm not dealing with my ex and so on, but I have no serious intentions, I'm still disappointed with the last relationship, but I don't mind starting over.
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Hello, J. , 24 years old. My advice is to stop really contacting your ex, and as for your last ex, I can only say that he has been waiting for this, since he just dumped you like that, there is no other option, because if someone loves you, he will try to find the problem (for the alleged infidelity, which in practice does not exist). I would at least try to hear your version, explanation and check if it is true, in fact I would do it 1st. Why is your ex? In order to become your ex, there was a reason why you enslave yourself to contact people who have actually poisoned your life or abandoned you out of nowhere? Such people are not worth it, and writing, I do not know what? Did you really expect the relative in question to support you, even why didn't you tell him she wasn't, so you would show him that she was a viper! Honestly, you do it yourself, besides, you've tried to be close to your colleague, I'm sorry, and you're trying to make things right after you've already tried to be close to him, even I wouldn't believe you didn't have anything to do with your colleague. If you don't want connections, etc. , why do you do nonsense, gather your head, think about your life and try to improve it, with hobbies, going out with friends and pleasant emotions, and 1 more advice - it is recommended not to have intimate relationships with colleagues. As the gossip becomes more and more solid, everything is known, the people around you will watch you and, if you have personal problems, they will hinder your work. Success! gather your head, think about your life and try to improve it, with hobbies, going out with friends and pleasant emotions, and 1 more piece of advice - it is recommended that you do not have intimate relationships with colleagues. As the gossip becomes more and more solid, everything is known, the people around you will watch you and, if you have personal problems, they will hinder your work. Success! gather your head, think about your life and try to improve it, with hobbies, going out with friends and pleasant emotions, and 1 more piece of advice - it is recommended that you do not have intimate relationships with colleagues. As the gossip becomes more and more solid, everything is known, the people around you will watch you and, if you have personal problems, they will hinder your work. Success!
Hey, I didn't understand the logic here: "Therefore, I needed another male figure to pay attention to me. I chose the colleague." Girl, don't you like yourself so much that you need a man on whom to build your self-esteem? Tighten up, stay a little alone and try to accept yourself as you are. Then others will like you. There is no point in jumping from boy to boy to prove that you are wanted.
A typical "female". Especially this. "Therefore, I needed another male figure to pay attention to me." You are confused that there was no one to make you a woman in this life, but unfortunately most of them are like that today ...
And I was totally confused by what I read!
You yourself are confused to nowhere and nowhere, you are supposed to tell something important about you and you are constantly writing "all this" and you are still this, both you are stupid, you have no serious intentions, you are dealing with it and on top of all you are disappointed . It's a little strange to me, there are no reasons for rumors to be sent to you, it's doubtful, I'm alone for the second year and I don't say left and right that I gave "whistles" to my colleagues. Get your mind together, be left alone for a while, that other rumors may soon start that you are a "light woman", for example.