Hello, as soon as I get here to write, then I already have more, please give me advice :) my partner and I have been together for 13 years, we lived with ours for 10 years and everything went great, three years ago we moved out and back for all my expectations, he lost all sexual desire for me, at the moment for three months he did not touch me, let alone have sex. We talked, once he said that I didn't have the problem, another time he said that I was too assertive and that scared him, there is certainly no mistress, I don't know what to do anymore, because we want a baby, and I don't know how it will turn out no sex, hahahaha. Apart from that, I didn't expect the lack of sex to affect me in such a way that I would even look at other men with such a focus. There was a boy in my job who was so sexually attracted to me that it was scary, I refrained a lot, a lot of time, but lately it's getting harder, the only thing that saves me is that he stopped coming and I don't see him, but I often think about him, is it possible that this is due to the lack of sex life at home? Is it possible for the regular partner to feel in some way that I have thoughts for another and that this is the problem? Give opinions, I can clarify the situation!
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And how are you so sure he hasn't found another one? As far as I understand, you are young people, these 3 months without sex are extremely suspicious. But you don't spit either - you immediately throw your aspirations at the boy from work. Why don't you get along before you have a child?
He hasn't touched you in three months? !? !! Wow - and you're sure there's no mistress? I personally have a lot of doubts. There is something rotten in the whole story! M. 31g
You pretend to be a saint a little, but you seem to be fickle? The person feels it and that is why he avoids you, he is not up to children. 13 years together and he has not made the baby, he will not do it. Better look for another inseminator that time flies!
The problem is that you have been together for many years and you have no children. From the point of view of nature, your relationship is empty and unnecessary. That's why you feel strongly attracted to other men. I don't know about your husband, but he's probably blown away by something, because in order not to want children in such a long relationship, there are obviously problems.
This usually happens when a man is tired of you or doesn't want to be with you. Whether it's because he has another or you don't like him anymore, or because his sex wasn't up to par and his sex with you is already boring, you can only guess. For the first two I can not help, but for the last, ie sex if it is not ok, I can say my opinion. What happened after you moved out may just be a coincidence. Unless I have some fetishes and get aroused only when he knows that you can be heard, seen that he fucks you in your house and where are yours, etc., etc. So if this is not , ie a fetish, and it is just a coincidence, it is quite possible when your relationship was fresher, he was in love with you, just that sex was not his presenter and gave him pleasure even if you were together. However, when that thrill disappears and there is no sex, the man slowly moves away and in the end he is not chemically treated. You can counter me and say that you want sex all the time, but only one drooling and inserting and removing, if it is, the person is just fed up. It is possible only in your head to think that everything is ok, but it is not. And to understand me more correctly, I will ask you: how is your husband in bed, are there things that you deny him and think that he doesn't care much for them. In general, men like sex to happen to them exactly as you see it in porn movies. If he wasn't, chances are he pulled away. And to start it with a passionate, dirty and whore whistle, looking him in the eye, and 69, you on top, he on top, and then to start, and weave otherwise, to end up where and how he likes / LITERALLY / and so on and so forth. I say things exactly as I perceive them as a man and how I like them to happen to me, AND FROM EXPERIENCE ... AND TO MOST MEN. When it doesn't happen like that, it doesn't work and that's it. My wife and she are like you - she constantly wants sex, she gets aroused easily, but sex for her comes down to kissing her, licking and inserting it for her. And me, where is my pleasure. For a nice blowjob, ejaculation in the mouth, on the face, abe strong dirty sax and a word can not be said. Or, for example, while I'm petting him to caress, etc., etc., generally normal standard things ... because when I lick her, I don't have a problem with her liquid. Don't let the ladies accuse me of something ;-) And slowly I started looking for her less often, which is why she, like you, shouts to herself: well, I'm active, and my little thing won't. Well, I do not want such sex, the check gives me more pleasure. Which is a disgrace to a woman. It's stupid
Have you been living together for 13 years and only now have you thought of a baby? Come on, please!
You are talking about a partner, not a person you love. Apparently, after 10 years of relationship, things between you are over. One hundred percent sure you're going to cheat on him. I think it is better to separate, as cultured and civilized people. Let everyone look for their happiness elsewhere.
Drop it, it's unlikely to get better. He took you for granted. Or find a lover, but don't be left without sex.
Hello! If he says that the problem is not in you, and then that you are assertive, then maybe there really is something to work on together as a couple. Maybe if you try to predispose him - a little romance, a pleasant atmosphere, enjoyment of the time spent. Thus, there will naturally be a desire for sexual contact. If this is not the case, try to have a conversation, it is possible that something extraneous bothers him and fills his thoughts. Let him share to feel that the distance is getting shorter .. Good luck :)
Up to number 6 I'm a woman, but I'm in your position. I want more things and I'm FOR all sorts of nonsense, he's on schedule every time. The things you describe to me are the most normal thing in sex and I would add to the list, but alas ... And yes, unfortunately, I already avoid it and do not want it. I'm dying for sex, but not the sex I'm offered. I manage on my own more effectively. It only annoys me and leaves me dissatisfied. And now he's stalking me if I don't have a lover, because we don't have sex as often as he's used to. That's life. It seems that sexual compatibility is extremely important for a long-term relationship.
14- Oh, when you start with this romance ... candles, rose petals, champagne, ethereal lingerie and the man Rishley sees her like a bull and begs her in the bedroom. ;) Isn't that Hollywood? He has been with her for 13 years. What was for romance was year two. Now sex is routine. If he gets it, he knocks it, if he's not happy, he doesn't do it. So much. No female numbers pass after 13 years.
Thanks to dude from comment number 6 !!! You said it very accurately, brother.
Thank you very much to everyone for the answers, all these things you say make me think, to number 6, I know all his fetishes and he is mine, but unfortunately this is not the problem with us, there is no desire :(,. To number 9 , you speak a little sharply, I haven't thought of a baby now, we have some problems with this, but this is a topic I don't want to touch on here, but it made me think that the problem may be just that :) I keep I dare to look for answers, thanks again :)
The problem with Bulgarian women is that they easily win a man, but it is increasingly difficult for them to keep him close to them, because they are stupid and elementary, that's why!
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