Hello. I am an 18-year-old boy and I live with my mother, my father, my grandmother and my uncle, who is alone. I get along with my parents, thank God, they are not toxic, but grandma and uncle are just like that! They control and quarrel with me, and also with their parents, about everything - not to go out when it is cold, to always go home under an appointment agreed with them, any cough or snot is a cause for concern when someone is the patient is not left alone until he recovers, not understanding that the patient, in addition to care, needs rest and tranquility, etc. All such grandmotherly stories, to which my uncle is attached, nothing that is not from her generation ( perhaps because he has no family of his own).
My mother and father have not moved away from them and will not move, because they are among those people who prefer to endure all situations and have no peace of mind, instead of paying rent or credit. However, I cannot live under this policy regime.
I am even angrier that compared to most of my peers I lead a so to speak restrained life - I don't drink, I don't smoke, I eat healthily, I don't overdo it in front of the computer, I go out and walk somewhere every day or every other day, no I sit late at bars and discos because I'm not that type, but they always criticize me for not doing it the way they think I should. The problem with the export, however, is the following. The fact that I will have to start some part-time work for students to pay my own rent, food bills, etc. is one thing - it's unpleasant, but I'd rather pay than be in control of everything. But the displacement cannot change the character of my grandmother and uncle.
What should I do if they start to worry about me, that I'm not living properly, that being alone, it was scary if something got sick and so on. For them, the fact that I am not free means nothing to them. I am especially worried, for my grandmother, that she may raise blood and, God forbid, if something happens to her, it will weigh on my conscience, no matter how much it makes me angry. My question is what should be done at this point in situations with toxic families? Thanks in advance for the tips.
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