Hello, I have been following and looking for a topic similar to mine for a long time - to have similar things, but not exactly my case. I'm a boy, 19 years old - here's my story: I left with the girl in February last year, it was nice at first, but it was a simple relationship, as he is called, we became "boyfriends". The girl in question is 3 years younger than me. Over time, I fell in love with her insanely. Love became very strong and I felt that this was the man of my life, true love. It was two-sided, it made me great surprises, it did everything for me, it always supported me, we dreamed of how we would live together, how we would have children, how we would get married and be together until the end of our days. Over time, however, one concern grew in me, namely that I would be the head of a family and I had to be financially able to support that family. And as you might think, I'm 19, a first-year student. I had some time because she's still a student, but tomorrow depends on what you did today, right? I have been dealing with loans since I became an adult, but it was not enough. I rented a gym and that's where it all started: I went out at 8 in the morning and came home at 11 every day. During the day, I dealt with loans, then at university, and finally in the gym, almost every day. I started to ignore my girlfriend, but I knew "I'm doing it for us", but I obviously didn't tell her often so she would understand. I was too tired and mentally burdened, things were going well, but very difficult. One day my girlfriend and I had an argument and I insulted her in anger, but I didn't really mean it. We had an argument somewhere in the middle of September this year. We hadn't seen each other for 2 weeks, I called her, but instead of getting better, we scold each other a little more. These 2 weeks have passed and it has become very difficult for me and I have already looked for her with the firm intention that even if there are prerequisites to quarrel again, I want to fix things. It was difficult for her, she hesitated, but a few hours after we spoke live, she called me and told me that she loved me. So we got together, I had already decided that I would give up the hall so I could have time with her. We were together for 2 weeks, the first week everything seemed normal, but the second week somehow kept aloof. By the time she finally told me we'd better end it, she didn't have those feelings anymore, and the thrill wasn't the same. I couldn't act like a man, I cried in front of her ... after all, I had never thought that this would ever happen - so we loved each other, our love was real, completely devoted. Two days passed. After I closed the hall in the evening, I got better and went to her. I told her "who are you deceiving that you don't love me and the like ..." she hugged me very tightly and said "They are stronger than me, my feelings for you". We agreed to stay with her for 1 week and there was nothing to talk and discuss, but we started from the beginning. We wrote to each other constantly, 3 days later he called me to tell me that we could not be together. And this is not the end of the story, I wrote her how everything can be fixed ... I went once in 2 at night to talk again she told me that she no longer wanted to be with me ... I wrote a story of my life (short summary: how she made my life wonderful) - a friend gave it to her personally, she didn't want to see me because "you have feelings that I don't have and I don't want to watch you suffer" .. and nothing calls her after 3 days, I wanted to hear her and I asked her if she had read my things, they were 60 pages in large format, she replied that she had read them and that things were wonderful, but it was too late ... anyway I asked her a few more times to we see, but she kept refusing and I stopped, I stopped writing to her, I stopped calling her, I was very sick, but I stopped. 1 week later she called me, she wanted to see me, but it was Saturday so we could go for a walk more. I was very stupid (we wrote to each other), I was just answering her, and she was just supporting a topic, I became stupid and I called her to hear how she was, what she was doing. The conversation was perfect until it came to us ... we quarreled and she didn't want to see me again ... I was dumb and obviously the next day I was a little more arrogant, but it hurt a lot ... the other day day I begged her to see her she did not want. And I stopped looking for her again, 2 weeks have passed and I still can't stop thinking about her, I'm sorry for absolutely everything, there's nothing I can do. I dream about her all the time, the first thing I start thinking about when I wake up is her. I go out with friends, I go out with other girls, I pretend to forget her, but I sit down for coffee with the girl, I think about my girlfriend, whom I love. I have been writing to her constantly for two days, but she doesn't answer me ... I tried without her, but it didn't work, we haven't been together for almost 2 months and she doesn't leave my soul. In one of our conversations after he left me he said to me "I can't be with 1 person just because I love him madly" ... and I don't know what to do, is there a way to get my love back? If there is a way advise me. Thank you very much, in advance for your time and help you give me !! there is nothing I can do. I dream about her all the time, the first thing I start thinking about when I wake up is her. I go out with friends, I go out with other girls, I pretend to forget her, but I sit down for coffee with the girl, I think about my girlfriend, whom I love. I have been writing to her constantly for two days, but she doesn't answer me ... I tried without her, but it didn't work, we haven't been together for almost 2 months and she doesn't leave my soul. In one of our conversations after he left me he said to me "I can't be with 1 person just because I love him madly" ... and I don't know what to do, is there a way to get my love back? If there is a way advise me. Thank you very much, in advance for your time and help you give me !! there is nothing I can do. I dream about her all the time, the first thing I start thinking about when I wake up is her. I go out with friends, I go out with other girls, I pretend to forget her, but I sit down for coffee with the girl, I think about my girlfriend, whom I love. I have been writing to her constantly for two days, but she doesn't answer me ... I tried without her, but it didn't work, we haven't been together for almost 2 months and she doesn't leave my soul. In one of our conversations after he left me he said to me "I can't be with 1 person just because I love him madly" ... and I don't know what to do, is there a way to get my love back? If there is a way advise me. Thank you very much, in advance for your time and help you give me !! I pretend to forget her, but I'm sitting down for coffee with the girl, I'm thinking about my girlfriend I love. I have been writing to her constantly for two days, but she doesn't answer me ... I tried without her, but it didn't work, we haven't been together for almost 2 months and she doesn't leave my soul. In one of our conversations after he left me he said to me "I can't be with 1 person just because I love him madly" ... and I don't know what to do, is there a way to get my love back? If there is a way advise me. Thank you very much, in advance for your time and help you give me !! I pretend to forget her, but I'm sitting down for coffee with the girl, I'm thinking about my girlfriend I love. I have been writing to her constantly for two days, but she doesn't answer me ... I tried without her, but it didn't work, we haven't been together for almost 2 months and she doesn't leave my soul. In one of our conversations after he left me he said to me "I can't be with 1 person just because I love him madly" ... and I don't know what to do, is there a way to get my love back? If there is a way advise me. Thank you very much, in advance for your time and help you give me !!
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Man, FORCED BEAUTY DOESN'T HAPPEN! Don't waste your time, leave the girl alone. If she has feelings for you, she will look for you herself. By being impudent, you will disgust her even more and become disgusted with her. Be a man, not a whiner.
Another little stupid patch that doesn't know what he wants. You fuck and run like her. I was in the same situation as yours with one of my first girlfriends. I did everything for her, she "loved me so much" and at the same time she was very confused for no good reason. Girls of this age are not in the same mind as you, trust me, this relationship will not get anywhere. Not because 3 years difference is a lot, but because there is a big difference between 19 and 16 years old in their mentality.
Do not put a comma where there should be a full stop and the beginning of a new beginning, do not torment yourself and expose yourself for the sake of a woman, do not fall, you love her so much, but when only you feel it, it makes no sense. You're not someone's toy to make fun of a species with your feelings, if she wants her to look for you now, you've done enough.
Sell the 60-page story to a screenwriter. Together with the melodramas you described, it will become a good basis for a soap opera of 1000 episodes. Tighten up, you bastard! Everyone goes through this, sometimes more than once, sometimes without ever being with the person they love.
There is obviously something else that worries her. Otherwise, if he loves you insanely much, why would he pull so hard? Try to figure this out, if you have common acquaintances and friends, ask them what is happening in her life now after you, if there are any other problems and dilemmas - if there are no family or health problems or if she is not in love with someone else. I hope it's not the last. But otherwise I can't explain her refusals. Or just her feelings have faded, but she doesn't want to tell you in plain text so as not to hurt you. But whatever happens, know that you are terribly young and the probability that this is the person for you and with whom to start a family is almost negligible. Who got married are their first love, especially if he met her at 16 and has not seen or understood anything in life. Think sober, we all know what it is like to be hurt by love, but it will make you more mature and strong, 100% !! It may sound like blah blah nonsense now, but as you get wiser and grow a little, you will appreciate this situation for your own good. Everything in this world happens for a reason, for our good and to teach us something. Courage and success, if you do not get it back, I hope you will soon find even stronger and true love. G. 22
Ah, young man - this is life, this is reality. Each of us has at least one such story, and the more unpretentious - and several. One thing we thought and imagined, we fought for it, and quite another it turned out in practice ... And imagine her having a 2-year-old child, and your burn to hit this number ? She went with a colleague, for example ... Then he would understand what pain is and what nightmares are. How your hands tremble to kill someone - her, him or yourself. How the world falls apart and life ends, becomes meaningless ... And yet - everything passes and passes. After the dark night of despair comes the bright day of new love. Grit your teeth and do not despair - time heals everything. It has nothing else to do. You have no useful move. Stop looking for the girl - either directly or through intermediaries. You can't change anything, you just pour salt into the wound (don't you think it's easy for her, or it doesn't hurt, or that she doesn't regret what happened?). As she says - these things are stronger than us. This is how life is programmed. One can consciously change some things, but one must know at what cost he does it ... For example - would you accept her to stay with you, and pretend to love you, just because she has consciously chosen to be together, and at the same time behind your back to break with others, because that's where the thrill leads her and there the kitten itches? You better not ... And what can I tell you - I know it sounds trite, but you are VERY SMALL for a serious narrow, especially her. You need time to gain experience in human and sexual relations. You don't even know yourself now - your own psyche. Don't make her think she's not infinitely disappointed in herself after finding out that her feelings for you have passed? Before that, she must have thought they would last forever. It's just that it happened to her first, because it could have happened to you first, and now you're wondering what to do with her and how to get her out of your life without offending her ... Don't tell me that it's not like that, because it will happen to you someday (you just haven't had a chance to experience it now) ... I know it hurts a lot, but there's nothing you can do - a year and a half, two, and the grief will pass. Don't look for her! Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day really realize what she did to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle that they will last forever. It's just that it happened to her first, because it could have happened to you first, and now you're wondering what to do with her and how to get her out of your life without offending her ... Don't tell me that it's not like that, because it will happen to you someday (you just haven't had a chance to experience it now) ... I know it hurts a lot, but there's nothing you can do - a year and a half, two, and the grief will pass. Don't look for her! Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day really realize what she did to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle that they will last forever. It's just that it happened to her first, because it could have happened to you first, and now you're wondering what to do with her and how to get her out of your life without offending her ... Don't tell me that it's not like that, because it will happen to you someday (you just haven't had a chance to experience it now) ... I know it hurts a lot, but there's nothing you can do - a year and a half, two, and the grief will pass. Don't look for her! Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day realize what she did to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle and now you were wondering what to do with it and how to get it out of your life without insulting it ... Don't tell me it's not like that, because it will happen to you someday (you just didn't have it now opportunity to experience it) ... I know it hurts a lot, but there is nothing you can do - a year and a half, two, and the grief will pass. Don't look for her! Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day realize what she has done to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle and now you were wondering what to do with it and how to get it out of your life without insulting it ... Don't tell me it's not like that, because it will happen to you someday (you just didn't have it now opportunity to experience it) ... I know it hurts a lot, but there is nothing you can do - a year and a half, two, and the grief will pass. Don't look for her! Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day really realize what she did to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day really realize what she did to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle Get her out of your mind as much as you can. Maybe in 10-15 years you will meet again and become good friends. She may one day really realize what she did to you, and that will make her an even better friend, but for now, forget her. your uncle
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