We do not live in a patriarchal or matriarchal society. I have to and I think we are all equal. First of all we are human then we are gender. Everyone needs to be loved to have a life partner. At the same time, he does not want this partner to become so dependent that he loses himself. And because on the part of the man I have seen arrogant women talking only about money. I have gained great reserves. But I wonder if women aren't bloated because they've seen men who are also bloated and only talk about sex and then leave. How can they not have reserves? Yes! I'm sure there are decent men and women. However, they are difficult to notice because, as he says, they usually remain in the shadows. We have all fallen in love and / or broken our hearts more than once. And love hurts a lot. And it is foolish to make the same mistake over and over again. There is no trust. How to connect when we do not trust each other? And we need that. I personally do not see a solution. When one does not see a solution, he shares the problem.
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I have my own philosophy, which I follow and I feel great. They hurt me, they broke my heart, they betrayed me. All this has happened to me within 2 normal relationships and 3 in total. I'm not 30, if you're wondering. Apart from these relationships, I have come across men who, openly or more covertly, only wanted sex. I once went out with one who had obviously not outdone his ex and was only talking about her current one. I tell all this for one purpose only, so that you understand that I am a person who has encountered various abominations, I am cautious. And I have a bad habit of analyzing other people's events and trying to learn a lesson. I can't jump over my head in departure, relationship, work or anything. I am prone to pessimism, I always consider the weaknesses and disadvantages first, because they are a future stressor for me and I want to protect myself. However, When a relationship starts, I give it my all. I don't sleep at all. I give of myself because I feel it and I want to give. I trust because the current one is not to blame for the mistakes of the previous ones. I make compromises and it doesn't bother me because I make them with the other person's desire to be good, because I want him to be good, because I feel him. On the other hand, I want the same, in the man next to me I am looking for my own strongest quality and the other to be what I want. I want a person who does not judge me for other people's mistakes and does not impose other people's guilt on me. I want someone who will know me specifically and will not put me under a denominator. I want someone who can talk, looking for the person and nothing else. If I ask a question about the past, I do it to find out what you went through, not about anything else. I trust and the second I see an indication that my trust is not deserved, I stop believing. Everyone deserves to be trusted, but no one deserves to keep their eyes closed to the nonsense he (!) Allows in the present (!) To you. My ex could have problems with trust. He has been with a woman in the past who cheated on him with at least three. Before that, some brutal stories have always happened to him, which are not to be told. When he met me, he had the courage to be 100% honest. He told me what he could and could not do. Tell me what reserves he has, what he can tolerate and what he would never forgive. He trusted me completely, he never stopped me from going out, he never commanded me and he was not jealous in the full sense of the word. It was not easy for him and it was obvious to him, I saw him in the first 2-3 months, so I invited him everywhere and he knew exactly where and with whom I was all the time. I helped him trust me a little, but he did this hard work himself, because he decided I deserved it. Great. I did the same for him, but my trust issues were about lies, not infidelity. In my opinion, this is a normal approach in a relationship in which partners tend not to trust each other easily because of bad memories.
Nowadays, it is impossible to have complete trust. In the past, families were inseparable, they worked together in the fields, nothing gave rise to mistrust, everything was visible. Now it's completely different, they only see each other for a few hours in the evening, they don't know how the other's day went, there are few who share, fantasies raise doubts, stalking begins, the situation strains, relationships heat up, infidelity begins, how to have trust? That is why they no longer create families, but temporary cohabitations for a short time. The most unfortunate thing is that children then pay for the sins of their parents! And the parents become like that, because life zombies them and their sins begin!
But you did not share the problem, but some generalizing thoughts. If you do so while looking for a solution to your real problem, you will not succeed. Everyone is bloated at some point. The ego has a protective function to protect our integrity and existence when someone tries to attack and crush us. When he grows up, he starts to hurt a lot, but this is probably not the case. The big eco is captivating, attacking destroying everything outside of it to expand even further. In this case, I can only guess if you weren't too timid at first and annoying shortly after, so they rejected you. This is not a bloat, but a defensive reaction. If one of you jumps up and decides that you don't like her, and she tells you that no one can deny her and threatens you - that's arrogance and a big ego. 10 s
People, whether men or women, are what you allow them to be. If you are upset that you are not accepted as you think you are, then you will need to enter class. In the sense that you either come to your senses or fuck you! I don't know where you are, but if you can't find answers, then you're going somewhere! Your vague, confused, and sometimes ornate phrase raises doubts about intellectual, emotional, and perhaps moral stupidity. To reassure you, I attribute it to the fact that you are still young and stupid. We have all been like that! However, if the shell of your brain is filled to the brim, no matter how smart you are, it will overflow and flow aimlessly! Only sedentary narcissistic thoughts and stunted beliefs will remain in her bosom! For information only, I will tell you that trust is a derivative of faith, and it is a belief that needs no proof!
"I don't want to shatter your illusions, boy. You're young, you're green. Your cynicism is still soft ... You have a lot of time and self-confidence, you have little wounds and silence. But from me to remember a man's tale - death, the woman and alcohol have no forgiveness when you have played too much with them. God forbid you underestimate them! "- Maria Laleva-" Life in the rocks "