Hi, I'm posting the topic here. I want you to share your point of view ... I am a woman and as such, I am interested in a lot of things, I do not like to share with friends. Like everyone else, I have experienced disappointments, and I have been happy. Normal things. I will drive straight. I've been alone for a long time, I'm in my 30s. I come across several types of men - either too shy or those who behave quite freely (at the very beginning). You will get an idea of what I am talking about. But first I would like to share that it may be my fault. I don't know ... Let's start with a boy (A) -Very anxious, we've been dating for a few months, we have common topics, he wanted to kiss me but I pulled away a little and he didn't make any more attempts (we've been dating for less than 7.8 months.) My mistake is that I withdrew, I know, but he tried again ... He's looking for me, but we rarely see each other ... he's still busy. We live close and when we see each other he still doesn't sit next to me. Several times I noticed that he was looking at my chest. At 1, he is older than me - I THINK IN THE SAME WAY ... Which, to be honest, doesn't make me happy. At the very beginning he asked for my number but never called me. (It's not about money) He can afford it but it doesn't just ring .. I'm losing interest ... Boy (B) He's 3 years older than me. We went out once. It's like there's an attraction .. Noo (really either I'm weird or he's a jerk) I'd like to know. We were having coffee, at one point he tried to sit closer, and hug me. We got up and walked, only he didn't take my hand. At one point he hugged me and kissed me. So far so good. As we walked he hugged me over the shoulder and held out his hand to my chest (I didn't expect it). I was a little disappointed ... I told him to stop. Yes, I have quite big breasts and they make an impression noo from the first time to do it (I don't like it) And we kept talking .. We sat down and sat down at another cafe so that it was not next to me and sat across from me .. And we sat and we talked, drank something and his gaze was hoop back there. And we decided to get up and he sent me to us .. Well, he tried to crush me again - I told him enough and I said we won't see each other again .. I don't know what to think, am I congested .. Is it okay on the first date is to do these things. And in public places Of course I had relationships with a completely different type of men .. I have TWO exes ... and I don't have much experience. Please no attacks .. I look forward to your feedback. we drank something and his gaze was hoop back there. And we decided to get up and he sent me to us .. Well, he tried to crush me again - I told him enough and I said we won't see each other again .. I don't know what to think, am I congested .. Is it okay on the first date? is to do these things. And in public places Of course I had relationships with a completely different type of men .. I have TWO exes ... and I don't have much experience. Please no attacks .. I look forward to your feedback. we drank something and his gaze was hoop back there. And we decided to get up and he sent me to us .. Well, he tried to crush me again - I told him enough and I said we won't see each other again .. I don't know what to think, am I congested .. Is it okay on the first date is to do these things. And in public places Of course I had relationships with a completely different type of men .. I have TWO exes ... and I don't have much experience. Please no attacks .. I look forward to your feedback.
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Your mistake is that you consider yourself special, you sit and wait, observe and judge and do not do and do not act. Don't wait, don't judge, act.
On the first date, I allowed myself to hug, hold hands, give up my jacket, kiss on the cheek ... all sorts of things like that. But to start staring ... let alone touch .... I'm sorry, but you go out with jerks. Concerning that anxious boy ... in 7-8 months his anxiety should have passed ... :) In my opinion, such daring things on the first date are inadmissible.
Yep, there are flaws in you ... Types of men - another time, just write - 'need advice for two I'm dating', or - 'why can't I deal with these two? '... that's your subject. Judging by your speech, you are not an intelligent 30-year-old woman, respectively, your behavior is hardly different, plus screaming complexes and high self-esteem, criticism of others, etc.
For me, the last one was type A - a classic. I lost 8 months with him because there were still excuses to see each other rarely. And no, he wasn't married (even though he was 43), but he lived with his mother and had a very comfortable life to ruin with engagements with a friend (not to mention his own family). Or maybe he was gay, I know, and used me as a screen in front of his colleagues and relatives. There was nothing masculine about his character or behavior anyway, and I lost him. For the second time, I will not allow such a man to come to me. I haven't met type B, but I'm not attracted to this type of men, fortunately. :) Don't deal with it. And you realized that she is not interested in you, but in your bosom. You're not stuck, you're just looking for another type of relationship, which, however, you'll get from another type of man, so, keep searching and you will always find your person who will be really interested in you, will find time for you, you will have similar values and you will want similar things. The truth is that only someone who is like you can appreciate you. The rest would only seek profit.
Where do you find these men? What did you pull on the first one? And the latter looks like a sex maniac to me, if it's true. While you were walking and wanted to grab you by the tits? Hahaha ... horror. At least wait for you to sit somewhere;) So, get rid of the second one. But the first one you cut? When he tried to kiss you again, what happened? Did you pull again? And what's the problem with watching your tits from time to time, that you're just paranoid about it? Are you looking for an impotent man, what? Men like tits, accept it, and if you have cool tits we will look at them from time to time. You should even be happy about it. And we like ass, I say it to be prepared. You talk about a woman in her 30s and think quite immaturely, by the way, you even write "boy" instead of "man", because you yourself are obviously not perceived as a woman. I suspect that you have a strong connection with your father or another similar male figure from childhood (grandfather, big brother, uncle, etc.) and this still strongly influences you, you are not old enough for normal communication, you stayed somewhere in childhood. If you are interested in the psychological aspect of things, read about the Electra complex.
You are already 30 and you don't lie easily and you know what you want - and you won't find it in most men. The rings are exciting and are easily obtained at 18-22. Do not go out with the first one who invites you, but choose precisely so as not to be disappointed later.
I didn't understand if only two types of men were categorized. He didn't mention the other two types from the past. Some shy and others free from worries. I adore big breasts, but I don't worry about it, nor do I act like I'm untied. There are stories, laughing emotions and revealing interests, desires, soul and essence. It is so pleasant, honest and calm. Worrying or attacking is a weakness, ugly and disrespectful. Looking at the cleavage is very rude to a lady. You're not congested, but you know. If they have not predisposed you, then they are not for you. I can do it, but not with everyone. It's just that when there aren't two people on the same wave, it doesn't happen and it doesn't happen. There are those with whom I have succeeded a lot and with others with whom I can do nothing. And I am the same for everyone. Never blame yourself for involving two!
For me, this is not normal, which is number 2 C. If there is at least a little respect, it will not do so. And I would send him if he behaved like that. F21
I generally recognize myself in the boy (A) ... I am also 30 and younger and I have come across similar scenarios. Once they push me away, there will be no second attempt ... if I'm still interested - the ball is in it. BTV, I'm looking for exactly a woman with whom we can think alike. This attracts me more than anything else. I want a supporter, not an opponent. As for shyness - is it so difficult for you to be a little more open about what exactly you want? Not only do you not show it, but sometimes you actively deny it. You want something from someone, you push him away, then you get angry that he has stopped ... You have no pleasure, so ...
Why are you dating these men, bragging? I think that if a man respects himself and has a character, he would not go out for more than two months without sex, if this is a rapprochement. For example, you go out 15 times in two months and you are together at a restaurant or in the park, you need a few minutes to understand that you will sleep with him, and when you will realize it depends on you, but you do not have to wait long and you cheat because serious men get bored. I've been to this movie twice and I'll never get involved a third time. Either it will happen a few days after a few meetings, or just another. It is the intimate moments that bring you closer, not the wonder of 150 days.