Hello, an 18-year-old girl writes to you. I can honestly tell you that I really don't know why I'm writing here. I know you can't help me, there's just no way. Simply because I want to share this with someone, and I really have no one but you here. My problem is that I don't like my appearance at all, I'm ugly, and on top of that I'm very complex about it. I just don't like anything in myself. My lips are awful, they're too small and my teeth are big, it's awfully funny when I smile. The shape of my face is also awful. My eyes, only their color I like, but they are too small. And I forgot to mention that I also have freckles that I despise.
My nose is like a kamba in general the situation is very bad. I've never liked myself in person or body since I was little, and a lot of people have told me things, from which I have gained even more uncertainty and complexes about my appearance. Most people have some shortcomings, but instead God has given them something else that is good. And I don't have such a thing, at least if I had a big bust, it would be good, I would have something that would give me at least a little self-confidence or nice legs, ass. And no, I'm not saying I'm fat. My body is pretty good, I definitely have extra pounds, but not much. But the problem with the body can be solved by losing weight, but the problem with beauty can not happen. There is no way to fix things with make-up, hairstyle and clothes, in my case, just to finish, I still don't like it, then the features can't be changed. On top of that, it's not enough that I know I'm ugly, but other people have told me and insulted me many times. Because of all this I have lost a gram of self-confidence and because of this self-confidence I can't even talk to people normally, I always look down because I suggest to myself that everyone who talks to me thinks: "this is how ugly". And to know that as long as a person does not like himself, there is no way for others to like him. But no matter how hard I try to feel good, I just can't, I don't feel comfortable in my own skin. That's why whenever I'm among people I look down and hardly speak. The truth is that these complexes create big problems for me in communication in general. I compare myself to absolutely every girl. And I just can't fit into any company, precisely because of all these complexes. The other thing that is in those years, I didn't even have a kiss with a boy. And what about a friend. I am already very ashamed of this fact, but they don't like what to do. I stop here because I guess it became very annoying, and to know that there are people with much bigger problems. Do you think there is a way to like myself the way I am? How can I increase my self-confidence and is it even possible? !? I can't stop being influenced by other people's opinions. I'm sorry for the confused text, I just needed to pour it out .. I will ask without hateful comments and thank you very much to those who took the trouble to read my story :)
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Stop thinking constantly about how ugly you are. Start thinking positively about things in general. Instead of suggesting that you are ugly and fat, start suggesting (but very strongly) how beautiful you are and how you sexually attract all the boys around you. In general, start imagining that you are a walking magnet for boys. Positive thinking affects not only character and self-esteem, but also appearance. I used to (well, almost still, but with visible improvements), like you, almost no girl liked me (I'm a boy), but then I began to imagine how nice and shapely body I have, how I look like a model barely or not, etc. This really worked for me, because when I go out on the street, at least 2 women look at me out of 3, but I just have to somehow get rid of the empty shyness ...
To have. If you don't like yourself so much, find your inner quality that you like and emphasize and develop it as much as possible. Whether it will become your profession or you will gain friendships and love with it, time will tell. And don't let anyone insult you or lower your self-esteem. Those who do it may not be ugly on the outside, but they are ugly at heart, so you should not call them, but feel sorry for them, because internal ugliness is a disease that manifests itself on a physical level over time. And you stay healthy, train, it gives a lot of self-confidence and even a positive physical change. And read the book "Butterfly" about an "ugly" girl who becomes a successful lady. And I'm sure you're not that bad, you just see yourself that way because you think about it non-stop. Good luck and head up!
You may not be ugly, you may just think you are. Girl, to be honest, I feel sorry for people like you and I would like to help them in one way or another. Follow my advice and don't say something like 'I can't, I'm ugly and I'm fat' '1. Forget your stupid thoughts that you're stupid, fat or ugly 2. When you want to be weak and beautiful make an effort, ie run or if you think it will be difficult for you just walk 4, 5 km a day walk will help you a lot! 3. After observing these 2 points, start believing and thinking that you are beautiful, smart, and not to feel sorry as if you were a drunkard, a drug addict or a b * cluck. You are a good girl, you have obviously received bad treatment from others, but believe me, you have something in you that most people certainly do not have. Personally, I have experienced many things> betrayals, humiliations, insults, what not, but one day I got tired of all these things and I started doing it when I was attacked and I did it, why should you be silent, to consider yourself a lower being than the others? During all these 15 years of my life I thought I was bad, I can't fight the others, but as I said above I started to return the blows from everyone, because that's how my life became easier with time I proved to everyone, that I can and do not allow myself to be irritated, insulted, broken my psyche. Do it too !!!! I went through the forest to school every day, and it was 4 km to go and return, so I tell you to follow these points. You think you can't get weak? Oh no and not everyone can as long as they want. There was a woman who said that she was 90 kilos, but for 3 months she ate only 1 apple and here is the result >>> she lost 40 kilos, which is visible. I wish you success and most of all faith!
I can't understand from your ass, legs and bust does your self-confidence come ???? If so, you will never get one.
Hello lovely girl. I am a woman 10 years older, but I still remember that at your age I felt similarly, with the difference that I had a friend with whom we fell in love a lot at the time. I had his support in difficult times. It was of Turkish origin, not that it mattered. I also didn't like almost anything in myself, especially my ugly nose. A few years ago, when I felt ready and safe, I took out a loan and had nose surgery. To tell you the truth, after the intervention absolutely no one noticed that I was doing something on my face, but somehow for me things changed. I became a little more confident, I started to take care of my appearance and it was as if people started to notice me a little more. I'm not saying I became a beauty at all, but the positivity is obvious. Sometimes a little change is needed, to begin to look at oneself in a more normal way. Do not give up.
There are indeed people with bigger problems, but there are also people with yours who have recovered. There are already so many surgical and cosmetic procedures for women. 157
First: What you think about yourself becomes true! So start asserting that you are beautiful, you have friends and people accept you as you are. I will also offer you a very useful exercise: Every time you look in the mirror, say "(your name) ... I love you and I accept you as you are". Yes, it's hard at first, but then you get used to it and it really helps to accept yourself. And don't forget that your inner beauty and your very radiance also make you beautiful, smile and be yourself without getting complex. You make an impression of a smart girl who really wants to deal with her complexes, this is a step towards success and if you continue you will succeed! All the best! :)
Hello. I'm 18 like you, but I already have a boyfriend. Like you, I created complexes. I thought I was fat; that the curly hair I have is ugly. And I've never had a boyfriend because I'm very shy. But I noticed that the boy I liked liked me, and just after many months of observation, I talked to him. And then I looked closely at the people. I could see that they were watching me. I registered on dating sites. Many men wrote to me. And I started to like myself. Like you and I, they made fun of me when I was younger, and that definitely made me hate myself and stay away from people, and now that's why I'm without friends, but at least I have a friend. Start liking yourself. For starters, register on a dating site and see the results. Be bolder and do not be influenced by other people's opinions! I hope my advice so can my story help you. Good luck
Well, you're going to catch someone ugly. Like my class. He is always red in the face and his nose is like a beak. There is also a beer belly. And he's crazy. Scary thing. Very aggressive and simple. I wonder how he became a teacher. F28
Well, I took the trouble to read it and I will tell you the following: without seeing your picture and based only on what is written here, I would tell you that you are probably one of the most beautiful women (after all, you are already 18 and you are a woman, but if it suits you I can call you a girl, as you do yourself), which exist in this country. Why? It's simple - at first I wondered if you had imperfections or suggested, but when I heard that other people have repeatedly told you, I was convinced. Some Bulgarians are quite complex and take advantage of looking for flaws in others, even where there are none. According to what is written, you are (or at least have become since you hardly speak in front of other people) more timid and shy than others (in a word introverted), but I do not believe that you are ugly. The more well-meaning ones feel your low self-esteem and perceive it. It has been proven that, in spite of our brains, we tend to capture other people's "radiation" on such matters and to perceive it on an unconscious level as our personal opinion of the person concerned. You, on the other hand, hear the complexes and the deceived in your opinion and you are ruined by something that is only in yours and in their heads. So my advice is: do not underestimate yourself! See yourself as I see you right now and you won't go wrong. And head up! Literally, because he said that among people you look down, and you don't have to. ;) A person is as beautiful as he feels and only then as much as others perceive him. Don't look at them as a last resort, because they have almost no role here. None of them invented and defined the concept of beauty and the parameters of the beautiful face and body. Even those with the highest self-esteem have not done so - they only inflate out of habit, but they do not have much merit in this area. :)
And I was like you .. I'm still a bit. My transformation is not yet complete and I understand you. You can achieve a lot about a good body, but you need sports. The perception of beauty is a matter of symmetry of the face together with the radiance of the person .. If you really think that the situation is so bad, consult a surgeon .. I'm not saying to lie down under the knife from tomorrow, but just to talk to him! They've seen all sorts of things and maybe they'll be able to shatter your idea that you're so "ugly." M 20
I don't know what would help you, but you're not the only one. I was also ridiculed at school for being ugly. Ignore as much as possible and think more positively. Smile more, because no matter what you think, there are no ugly smiles. Maybe someone likes you just because of your smile. And one more thing, start going to the gym, the faces of the people who teased you will be priceless, and you will feel much better.
I understand how you feel, because I am in such a situation myself. But hey, your problems are fixable unlike mine. I can't judge exactly what you look like, but from the description I guess that with a little lip make-up they will also look thicker. There are many videos, look for them and you will really get a good result. About the teeth, I don't know, but if you keep them clean it won't be a problem. The little eyes that have a slightly thick black pencil around them look super mysterious and damn cool. I don't know what to tell you about the nose, because I think it can only be fixed surgically. And mine is terrible. I was thinking of having surgery, but my parents refused. And I have a lot of other problems - stretch marks on the legs, uneven jaw, one eyelid is more closed (asymmetrical face called it). Well, that's not why you're upside down.
I absolutely understand you! You're not alone! :( I have the same terrible problem with bad self-esteem and negative thoughts and I think this is my worst luck in my whole life, which unfortunately I can not change! I have come to the conclusion that whatever I do for my appearance look, especially my horrible face, I can't look better. Unfortunately, we can't hide our natural features. The only solution is plastic surgery, as the above number says, otherwise there is NO other solution to the problem! I put up with this nightmare, so to speak: x !! At school almost no one paid attention to me, especially the first 7 years.I hated my class! But I can also give advice that saves me a little from this horror! You can wear blush and a black pencil, make a nice eyebrow shape, wear jewelry.