Hello! I am writing for the second time here and I will be happy if there is someone to share their advice on my "problem". And he is that I am quite shy and insecure. And these seemingly small flaws have a hell of a negative effect on me. I don't know another person who is worried about such small things that I am obviously worried about. And the worst thing is that it always seems to me, even a little worried ... I just don't know how to eradicate this shyness, which bothers me a lot. The other problem - insecurity - in my school is that you need to be confident in every action. And I can't brag about that. There are people who are terribly confident, I admire them. Who are not ashamed and are confident in what they do. Even if I see an acquaintance I haven't seen in a long time, I still more or less suffocate. Please for your advice.
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Look, sun, Americans have a joke - "Fake it til 'you make it", or translated - "Pretend until you succeed". And I was like you - quite insecure, anxious, shy ... Just when you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror say: "How cool I am, confident, open to new adventures", then smile broadly, raise your head and boldly go ahead! Self-confidence will not come on the first day, but you will see how you will gradually feel more confident, more open and everything will go well :)) I wish you success and I am sure you will succeed !!! -LMNT
Do you know another joke? - "Knowledge is power!". In principle, it is more valuable than pretense ... And this case is typical, we all go through this phase of uncertainty. To this day, I have one foot inside, but I'm moving forward :) Confidence comes with self-confidence. It comes at a time when you feel safe and protected from human encroachments. As 1 mentioned - many people just pretend and stand behind masks that say N1, but in fact have no idea what's going on around them. It's not so obvious to me what you're so worried about, but I'm really getting into your situation and I know it's hard for you. Today's youth is much more demanding, hypocritical and does not forgive people who deviate (according to whom?) From any framework. Massively, our society suffers from a simple form of debilitism, which weighs terribly on adolescents, of whom you are ... But do not despair! Why are you burning? Put a smile on your face and drive straight. If anyone laughs at you, laugh at you too; Does anyone insult you? "You're fucking fucking fucking - Was that? And I've heard more entertaining ... you're not interesting" and you pass it :) And, last but not least - to clear your mind of such thoughts and breaths, do something which brings you special pleasure! Girlfriends, girlfriends, walk, ice cream ...
I am the author and I think the first piece of advice helps more because I have heard that when you believe in something sincere and strong, it happens. It all comes from the psyche, I realize that I'm sure it doesn't happen, it happens more or less. And shyness and insecurity do not come from a lack of self-confidence. I deal with people who want to crush me. And I really succeed. But I'm worried about people who are more cocky than me. In addition, I do things that bring me special pleasure. But the problem doesn't come from there (that I don't do enough walks, etc.) And THANK YOU for the comments!
And lately I seem to be like that because a friend crushes my self-esteem and I'm sick and at the moment I'm talking to her on the phone and she explains to me how they don't stop taking her down. I wish you success and I'm going to improve my self-esteem ..