Let me share my story. I have been in a relationship for 9 years. My husband is extremely caring and considerate, but passive. We don't go out, we don't have fun. He stays at the computer, clicks the game, I go to bed, he comes at 3 and then you probably know the story, there is no sex, no intimacy, we part. I wanted to leave, I didn't like sex anymore, we didn't have accumulated common memories, as they say I have something to tell the children. Instead, after many conversations and requests, I stayed, I have been a mother for a year now. I knew that the child would not solve our problems. Whether out of desperation, I have nowhere and to whom to go, I do not know, but I stayed and now I am unhappy. I have a wonderful child, a wonderful husband, as I said caring, everything must be perfect. Apart from the closeness, I thought for a long time that he didn't love me and I didn't feel loved. I probably got it because now, when he already gives me what I asked him for, to hug me and sleep with me, to have sex, etc., now that I get that attention I don't want it, I don't need it and it even irritates me. I don't want him to hug me, to kiss me, he even prevents me from sleeping. I guess we are another family that will stay only because of the child. :) And they so ...
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And why does it irritate you?
Hello :) You do not say details how old you are? Has he always been like that? When did things change and he started paying the attention you wanted? If you think it was temporary, what is the reason for him to withdraw and not want intimacy? . Another reason is if he is busy at work or something else is bothering him ... If he thinks that his current behavior is somehow forced, you subconsciously feel it and maybe that's why you are uncomfortable. You say that you have a child ... When you have such a responsibility, you both have to try to save your relationship, obviously he is trying and making an effort, maybe you should give him a chance.
With this "and they so" lost me ...
At 30 years old. we are both educated, with good professions and a satisfactory income. At first, things didn't seem to go wrong in terms of attention. Then he stopped talking to me, but past the university and then at work, I seemed to keep telling myself that he was busy and would have a better time. Instead, they got worse, especially when we lived together. He started paying attention to me when I said I was leaving. We've had a lot of conversations before, all with the promise that things will get better. To the question of irritation - I can not answer. I now really get everything I wanted. Somehow I've already cooled down, I don't want that attention. I really can't explain it. It was as if I was used to the lack before. Author
Suffer because of the child ...
I got angry only while reading your nonsense! "But I wanted to, but now I don't want to, but I don't know what and from whom exactly I want." Of course, it will irritate you if he is caring and careful, if he does not go to throw his salary at casinos, pubs and ku .. and. It is much more fun to beat you and harass you, but then the topic would be " I can't live without him - madly in love "
Radini excitement. Another hungry for attention. What do you think - that it will always be like the ads? Will you flutter in the streets and men will turn to whistle at you, blinded by your incredible beauty? Will they kill each other to fight for your favor? Do you have any idea how many are like you? Why don't you leave him, find some fat guy who will overwhelm you with attention until it turns out that he does it with a few more? You're going to sleep, aren't you? What makes an impression, however, is how only she says that she received nothing. "I always wanted this, but now I want that," always "I," "I." And did you wonder what you give him, how interesting you are to him? Why did you decide that you are a super cool person who knows how to have fun and make your husband happy, but you live with an edge that cuts your beautiful wings and as if he is to blame for you? It seems to me that he can say the same. You just don't tremble in him anymore. "And they do" :) p. The village of Vratsa (or the region, they are all a valley) are very interesting people. I had the honor to know people from there and in general my opinion about them is that they are like gazzo - fun with their mediocrity, but the first 15 minutes. It's one thing to watch a sketch with one, it's another to live with one. That joke about the fact that a man and a cat should not take from a witch doctor is true. Of course, there are cool, normal people, but in general they are rare. That's right - there is a "reserve" - you go, look at the "copies" and go home to the "normal people" :) It's one thing to watch a sketch with one, it's another to live with one. That joke about the fact that a man and a cat should not take from a witch doctor is true. Of course, there are cool, normal people, but in general they are rare. That's right - there is a "reserve" - you go, look at the "copies" and go home to the "normal people" :) It's one thing to watch a sketch with one, it's another to live with one. That joke about the fact that a man and a cat should not take from a witch doctor is true. Of course, there are cool, normal people, but in general they are rare. That's right - there is a "reserve" - you go, look at the "copies" and go home to the "normal people" :)
Maybe you weren't for each other from the beginning. You probably have a different temperament and that's why you disagree. At least I understand why you don't want it now. By not getting what you hoped for, you eventually distanced yourself emotionally (and physically) from him and is now more of an irritant. I don't know if there is a way back. I think sooner or later you will break up. Just to insert - I have dealt with passive men. It's insane. They're not men, in fact, they have nothing masculine in character. I felt more active and masculine than them, and twice as lonely than when I was really alone. I would not try a relationship with such a man again. He has nothing to give me, he would rather squeeze me mentally.