I am a 23 year old man. I have been living in England for 4 years. I have been engaged to an 18-year-old Russian woman for four months. It's all right - she cooks, and sometimes I do. The apartment is always clean, we do not fight for anything. But there is one problem, she lives very unhealthily. He drinks coffee with two tablespoons of sugar, stuffs himself with junk food, in the evening if he doesn't drink two glasses of wine he doesn't go to bed, he smokes half a pack of cigarettes a day. There is no health problem and their physique is good. I'm not the healthiest person on earth, but hers is disgusting. How do I make her change?
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Why change? He loves his coffee sweet, big deal. I've seen my friend drink sugar with coffee, not coffee with sugar. For me, this is spoiling the coffee, but he likes it and I put 3 spoons in it when I make him coffee in the morning. In fact, it is good to have at least a little sugar in the coffee, otherwise it harms the stomach. I'm telling you informatively. She eats unhealthy foods, well, that's her body. When you are at work and you have not prepared lunch, sometimes you have no other options but a fast food restaurant. It happens to me too. In the evening drink 2 glasses of wine. He is not an alcoholic. I doubt two glasses make her stagger down the hall and laugh hysterically in bed. I would say that one glass is enough to relax for sleep, but ... For smokers half a box is not much. There are many smokers around, most tend to a box and a half. Smoking is a bad habit, but if you do it alone on the terrace, you damage your own lungs and that's it. I don't mind smokers, it's their body to save themselves. She has personal hygiene, your house is always clean, cooks, behaves well and is healthy. And you're unhappy that her coffee is sweet, that she takes food outside and drinks wine in the evening. I could talk to her, tell her you were worried about her health, but not convince her that she was wrong as hell. These are trifles, her habits are not so terrible as to interfere with your life. that you worry about her health, but not to convince her that she is as sinful as the devil. These are trifles, her habits are not so terrible as to interfere with your life. that you worry about her health, but not to convince her that she is as sinful as the devil. These are trifles, her habits are not so terrible as to interfere with your life.
It sounds to me like the way of life of almost every average Bulgarian woman. And in England, stores send junk food and are the main thing you have to fill the closet with.
Number 1, read a little about fast carbs, sugar and daily alcohol consumption and you will stop scribbling such nonsense. The boy is right, this way of life is not healthy, if you want to bring water from ten wells. Author, your girlfriend is OK now because she is young. Over time, it will begin to affect her with extra pounds and cellulite, especially if she works closed in an office all day. Health is the most important thing - she ruins it with harmful foods and alcohol, and I don't want to just comment on cigarettes - I've seen people die of cancer and how much they suffer and hurt. No one is insured against getting sick, but there are small things that do not increase the chance of it happening to us - no sweets, no microwave, no harmful Eta, sports. Share with your girlfriend, that you want her to be alive and healthy for a long time and sign up for a sport together - one comes with the other. When you start training, you also learn how to eat. We are on a low carb diet and this has become our diet - I have never felt better.
Not at all, if you want to change it, better explode or find another one! Does she want you to change? Hardly. You accept her as she is or let her find love with someone who deserves it!
We all know how harmful sugar and cigarettes are, but the probability of convincing an 18-year-old that these habits harm his health in the future and reduces his chances for a longer life seems quite difficult to me and even tends to impossible. For me, however, it is more important whether you have the right to change the life of the person next to you. Think about whether you would like her to ask you to eat with her what she eats and drinks or to want you to light a cigarette with her on the terrace. Do you think that because of her you would change so many personal things like eating. How did you decide that you were eating healthier and would get a little sick of it? My father-in-law is 78 years old, we brought him to live in our house, the man has been smoking two packs of cigarettes a day for more than 60 years and continues, he loves to eat bacon with leeks, in the winter and I buy it, I try to have it at home for him, not to tell you that for more than 50 years he regularly drank 200 liters of barrels of wine a year, which he prepared himself. The mother-in-law neither drank nor smoked, and ate almost only salads. The 63-year-old woman died.
18-year-old girls generally do not eat and do not live as healthy - what you describe is a relatively normal picture for this age. These things come gradually with age and experience. After a year or two he will start to feel the effects and think and change something. She is now very young, vital, strong - one does not think about such things at this age, especially if you have never had health problems or weight problems.
She doesn't have the right habits, her parents haven't done their job. She is now 18 and not visible to her, but in five years she will be visibly old with this way of life. And the fact that there are people who live long and smoke like a chimney is the exception, not the rule. I know enough cases of deaths from lung cancer that I do not settle for isolated cases of happy ending. But in general, the Russians have the reputation of sloppy women and yours is another that confirms this.
You have the right to make her change, because you are not her parent, and even if she was, she is already an adult. When you don't like what kind of life you lead, just find a new girlfriend. Or are you afraid that no one will clean and serve you?
I read big nonsense in the comments. Wanting someone to be healthy is not the same as wanting to change them. And in the end, what do you see wrong with wanting to positively influence someone? Such stories about smokers are more of a miracle - I know a case of a 30-year-old who coughs up his lungs before he dies ... I don't think it's worth it. I've also seen pathetic pictures in oncology who breathe through a pipe but wear them to smoke cigarettes. It's just sad to watch them. There is nothing commendable about having bad habits and living and eating unhealthily, even if you go in and comment on forums and sow your own stupidity on others. Author, congratulations on realizing that we are not eternal and that it is important to live healthy in order to be healthy. You're right, ignore them.