Hello. I am a girl and I have had a friend for about 4 months. He's had sex and I'm not yet. So until recently I did not want to have sex, but once we were with them after a blowjob ended once and we did not continue. Accordingly, it had fallen and I gave up. Surprisingly, we decided to try again, but it was soft and nothing happened. After a few days I wanted to try again, but even with whistles he didn't want to get hard. Accordingly, we tried and again nothing happened. He had been drinking before and my question is can he not want to get hard because of the alcohol? And should we give up trying? And what can I do to make it happen? Thank you in advance.
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Well, look now ... these things don't happen "by force" or by force of will. The boy is obviously worried, on a subconscious level, about failure or not being exposed, and accordingly nothing happens. I don't want to be a bad prophet, but it will get worse every time, because after every failure the conviction is strengthened that next time everything will happen again ... See when it's good for him and he doesn't worry (whistle) - everything comes to its place. He should feel the same way with you - comfortable, pleasant, not caring whether it will happen to him or not. And you should never reprimand and make any purposeful, desperate and almost inhuman efforts to lift it. It's not something to tell him "Get up!" And get it done, or rub it in there and you're done! It's a reflex that works on its own, when there are favorable conditions for it. And these conditions are definitely not a woman giving her all just to pick him up :) The animals don't think about him at all, they just do. In man, thought is what, if you fail to control it, fails.
Get rid of this impotent and find a friend with normal libido ...
Alcohol certainly affects. So this is a possible reason. If he was tired - this is also a possible factor. And if he was both .... Well, I guess there is no need for more explanations. Otherwise ... If you want things to happen ... Well, don't "finish" it only with whistles ... All the same to invite someone to dinner, to stuff them with the appetizer and to wonder why he doesn't want any main course or dessert ... Also, just because he's had sex doesn't necessarily mean he's experienced. Discuss ... The technical side of things - which pose he prefers, which - you, what excites him, except whistles. The more people, the more in honor. Also ... Does he do something to you or does he leave only you to work for his pleasure ... If this is ... Ask! And if it doesn't work - Drop it and find a decent one.
The boy is worried. How old are you? Yes, alcohol negatively affects erections. A glass of wine or a beer can just relax, but no more than that. Do not rush and do not tighten. One time it won't happen, two, three, but when you relax and forget about the pressure it will happen!
The problem is hardly (only) in alcohol, it is rather hot after the first unsuccessful time and everyone who is worried that it will happen again (I speak from my own experience). Otherwise, of course, you do not have to give up. Just choose a suitable moment (not to be tired, to drink only enough to relax); try not with whistles, but with foreplay - pressing, caressing, kissing; show him that you are also aroused and want him - this is one of the most exciting things :). It is also possible to worry that you are a virgin, not to hurt you or I know - and the fact that you visibly (and aurally;)) want him could calm him down. In a very extreme case, there are various herbal supplements in pharmacies - they are not like Viagra, they just help with the blood circulation below :). M 30