Hello, Amiii ... I found myself in a rather strange situation. My boyfriend and I decided to do it for the first time (we are both virgins). We were at their place, we were pushing, we were quite excited, I felt ready, everything 6. Put on your condom, we adjusted and I just closed my eyes and I'm waiting for the great moment ... and it didn't happen. At first I didn't understand what was happening, whether I had the problem, whether I wasn't moist enough, but it became clear from my friend's face that it was from him. He tried again, then again, but he just couldn't seem to score, I don't know. I wanted him to explain to me what was going on, it was hellishly funny and I didn't worry at all, such things happen, big deal, we'll try again, but he was literally silent for 10 minutes, squeezing the sheet and he wanted to die. I tried to reassure him that everything was fine, we'll try another time and it's just not his day today, but he obviously got too big a blow to his self-esteem and never said anything about it. I really don't think it's from me - he has been messing with my fingers so far and it hasn't hurt for a long time, I was moisturized, calm and relaxed. What do you think is the problem and how can I help him overcome the shame of what happened?
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"so far he has confused me with his fingers and it hasn't hurt me for a long time" - he mixes with his fingers and "virgin" !? How does this work? Instead of blowing him up in forums, blow his dignity, lift his plane and act. If he is young, he can do it many times, everything depends on you!
I have an idea and I hope you accept it well and without taking offense, because it seems to me a good solution in case he had an erection, but failed to get it. Take some initiative, if he finds it difficult, don't just lie down and wait for him to make the first push. You can be on top and you can do this job or just help him find the place with his hand and with body movements to participate in the procedure. No one talks about their failed attempts, but many people have them. I know a man with several failed attempts. It also happened to me the second time, the first time I had some anxiety, my friend also guesses that I was curled up and he was not tough enough and so we lay naked, looked at the ceiling and talked, as if nothing has happened. Don't worry, sex is not nuclear physics, you will cope and in time you will laugh at this incident. Tell your friend that such things happen all the time, but almost no one admits and to relax is not shameful. Try and you will always succeed, you will find a suitable position and a moment when everything will be fine.
Author, when you write fictional stories, do you even think !? So you are both virgins and you have decided to do it for the first time, but something happens to him and ....... everything falls apart. And towards the end of the story, you tell yourself that he mixed your fingers in your vagina and it hasn't hurt for a long time, and you have been moisturized, calm and relaxed. So there is no reason for you not to do it. And what do you think it means to be a virgin. Does only a penis have to enter your vagina to say that you are dishonored! Well, you can deflower by inserting your own fingers or a carrot or a cucumber into your vagina. But to say you're a virgin after messing with your fingers a few times sounds very silly, even vulgar. Stop your fabrications.
The whole thing is a worry - the worry of not being "exposed" leads to just that! For starters, nothing prevents you from starting with French love without rushing anywhere. M. 32g.
Everyone in their youth has encountered some comic situations. For example, when I started having sex in the beginning, my first time was with an acquaintance at a party, in a dark room and everything went ok. Not long after, I had sex with another girl during the light part of the day, at their place, theirs was not there either. When we started having sex, when I penetrated her, I watched her, her reactions, everything, and at one point she started to whiten her eyes, which I thought was bad because she was moaning and she had whitened her eyes, and I thought she was getting sick. or that she fainted and I stopped fucking and went to wake her up, to ask her how she was, what she was like, and she looked at me in amazement and asked me why I was stopping. And we started again and after a while the same picture again and I stopped again anxiously thinking again the same nonsense that it makes her sick and I didn't know that this whitening of the eyes was a pleasure that she was ready. I was still inexperienced, naive and stupid as a little puppy, but with great desire. And she told me - once again if you stop I will hit you on the head with the vase that was next to us on the nightstand. Everyone has been in funny situations. So don't worry, out of worry it was, next time it will happen.
It's perfectly normal to have jams sometimes! Maybe he woke up and that screwed things up! For men, it's not just about seeing a naked woman and hop ready, there are many factors like predisposition, mood, concentration and calm.
He unloaded the reels too early, that's what happened.
Number 4 is right !!! Seeing that it would not work and he continued with the kisses! Why didn't he just continue with oral sex !? That way you will know that he really cares about you, and at the same time he is likely to bring you to orgasm if he is patient and does it well! Then relax and cuddle! This is great for both
You are not the only one, it was worse with us. The first few minutes of moistening me I felt a little sick and moved a lot. Then, when he started to put it in, it hurt for a while, but I started shouting and breathing more and calmed down and even started laughing. And he managed to score it. I then told this stupidity only to my best friend.