Hello. I'm 24, I live with my 26-year-old boyfriend, and I feel like I'm living with a 16-year-old kid. When he gets home, he just puts on a suit and sits in front of the TV with a joystick in his hand. When it's time for dinner, I have to call him 5 times, just like a mother calls her child. He plays football with his friends every week and I don't mind, but when he gets home he just throws his clothes everywhere and sticks to the TV again. He is only interested in how to scroll a game. He behaves like an adult only in his work and in bed. He even wears different socks every morning. He does not take anything seriously, for him life is a joke. Sometimes I wonder how this person can look after children, when he himself is like that How will he raise a child tomorrow when nothing in this life is serious for him?
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He behaves like a child. Of course, he will not look after children, nor will he help you at home. How do you see it change at this age?
We are all men, calm down! This will only be the case until the age of 40 :)
Don't worry, most men are not only 20 and a few. And that doesn't mean he's going to be a bad father. And when a person becomes a father, he usually changes. I'm also non-stop on the computer, even though I'm 30, but I still dare to say that I'm a good father. Of course, you can still demand some things from him, but don't be too insistent (it would have the opposite effect), but rather explain to him as a person that you need help, that you also get tired, work and so on. n. But don't expect miracles, even if there is a small and temporary change, this is the first step. In time it will settle down. He doesn't think it would be much different if he was with someone else. Have patience
Not all men are like that! Only those with infantile behavior! Put frames only on your acquaintances ... That's why you live together first, then the children ... Not the other way around. The beauty of the house does not support unless she hires you a maid.
This is a universal characteristic, everyone is like that. They want to be children, if they can, at least up to 35. After this age they are already so rigid in their habits that you can't break them with a cannon. Besides, TV, no phone are so addictive that we are no longer humans, but zombies. No one wants to push to communicate or do something, but watches with one click to pass.
I have an acquaintance of 37 with 3 daughters and still play computer games when I can. He makes money with computers and his daughters are in expensive kindergartens. When I don't play, I get depressed and start thinking about nonsense (death, illness, etc.). Games are a cheap and effective antidepressant for many people. I'm not talking about those gamers who go to tournaments and don't sleep for 3 days in a row to prepare, but about normal people who play 1-2 hours a day, for example (sometimes more, sometimes less).
My best year was 2013, when I almost never sat at a computer at home and did not use the Internet. A lot of unnecessary information and the nonsense of the people on the forums - do we really need this? I'm 29, but I haven't played computer games since I was 20. Those with computer games are kind of abnormal, but aren't there women who have grown up and as little girls drool in rags and shoes?
Well then leave it and find another. No one is obliged to please your habits. What do you mean by this topic in general? Your very reaction to posting a topic on the Internet complaining behind his back instead of talking to him is hellishly immature. You also sound like a nuisance. Stop with these socks and start broadening your horizons. And why do you allow yourself the audacity to claim that nothing in life is serious for him, most likely because he doesn't follow your bagpipe ... g, 30 years
It's not bad to play games and play sports, the point is to measure everything. I'm 35 and I do the same things. My job is serious and stressful enough, and I need to relax. In fact, everyone needs one. I think that right at home and among friends is the place where one should not engage in everyday life. Some time ago I had a friend for a short time who was right on the opposite pole. He thought only of material things and money. It wasn't furniture, carpets, sofas, bathroom renovations, TVs, how much money she gave her parents, and a bunch of other things. Honestly, for me these are super stressful and mostly unnecessary things. And I like when I buy something to get acquainted with the offer in advance, but not to waste hours and days for every single detail,
And my husband clicks games all day, those men are like that ... Otherwise he's still young ... And what do you want him to do?
Why are you calling him for dinner? Leave him hungry three times in a row and see how he starts and helps you.
Author: It's not bad to relax and play, but he's just excited about it. He gave a lot of money for the PlayStation and continues to buy various games. He stayed until 6 o'clock in the morning when he was not at work to play a game. He had days when he got up and started playing non-stop. He just gets up to go to the bathroom or eat something quickly and sticks to the TV again. When I suggest we do something together, he tells me to turn on the other joystick.
He'll give his money for whatever he wants, girls. After all, he makes them, you don't give them to him.