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Virgin At 23 :(

By ivetesangalo August 23, 2020 29 answers Last updated August 23, 2020

I'm 23 and I'm a virgin, I haven't had sex. There are no specific reasons for this. I've been seeing a boy for a few months, but my relationship is only for sex. He has a girlfriend with whom he lives. He knows that I have no experience in sex, but if I tell him that I am a virgin he will be confused and it becomes greasy at all. We tried to have sex but nothing happened, he thinks I'm scared and he thinks it's his fault. And not so I like it. I gave him blowjobs several times, he says that he likes them a lot and that I am very good. But I don't know what to do with sex, I want it, but I'm scared and it doesn't work, and if he finds out it's my first, I have no idea how he will react, given that it's a sex relationship. I still want to have sex, the prince on the white horse will not come !!! tell me what to do

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hornystudent_1997 answered · August 23, 2020

   And what if you are a virgin, can you be ashamed of such nonsense? !! Is it so shameful not to have sex.

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keily_lovers answered · August 23, 2020

   Well, here's some advice from another virgin: I also refused to wait for the prince and I said to myself that very soon I would be afraid to do so. For those who find the word "scary" funny, I will say that everyone has some reason to be in such a situation. I am personally afraid of men. BUT I don't think it's right for your first one to be just for sex and to have a girlfriend. I wouldn't do that. It must be with a person who does not perceive you only as a sexual object. Grab a real boyfriend and do it with him. And you will not regret it. Otherwise, your feelings for your first one will deepen and you will suffer because he is committed.

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febbyrastanty answered · August 23, 2020

   Well, it's good that you didn't break a child's window, but maybe it's time for you. Tell him that you will be his first, he will be happy, he should go out, but you better tell him to be more careful. Pelvis

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onehotcock4u2c answered · August 23, 2020

   On the contrary, the prince on a white horse will come and how else - well, I'm a virgin at 29 and half a year ago I met my prince on a white horse :-) - at first I did not tell him that I have not had sex so far, but also he didn't act like all the men I know so far - from the door to his feet - on the first date they ask if it happens - it happens, if not - they try another ... After I told him, he was the happiest man of the earth - he told me that he would wait for me as long as I needed to - and now we have a nice summer ahead of us - full of sex and God forbid - and years to come !!! And I want to point out that my boyfriend doesn't have sexual problems, he lived with his ex-girlfriend on a family basis - he's not a wrong guy - on the contrary - he said,

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rtarabic_ru answered · August 23, 2020

   The stories they tell us as children, obviously have a very bad effect on us ... What kind of princes are you all chasing and what kind of horses I don't understand ... so, it's because of your last sentence, and now on the topic. Are you having sex? Well, no one stopped you, but you did it with someone who is not committed and whom you can trust. It's your first time, you need to be calm with your partner, not be a jerk to him. So, my advice is to dump him, find a single man, explain to him what you want and what the situation is and have fun. Lola PP I can't understand why all women think men are crazy if you're a virgin ... if there's anyone to explain it to me I'll be very grateful. (this includes men who dabble)

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whiskey_choco answered · August 23, 2020

   moderator - we do not publish contact details, Facebook and Skype especially!

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sarangdungy answered · August 24, 2020

   I keep myself a virgin to tie up a foreigner or a rich man :) Thanks for the insults, which I will take in advance :)

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polinaqlime answered · August 24, 2020

   4, if you, as a woman and a person, have nothing to offer except your childhood, keep your most valuable capital. A woman is much more than a virgin zipper, but if you humble yourself to a piece of skin, you are your problem. Lola

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aki1529 answered · August 24, 2020

   I agree with Lola. It's not about princes, but it's really nice to do with a more serious person. If you've decided to be with him after all, there's nothing to be ashamed of, but I know there are people who make fun of him, which is stupid. This is another reason not to be with him. If you are with a serious person next to you, he may be happy. 4, your friend may not be wrong, but I doubt you. Of course, it's nice to be the first person next to you (which is quite selfish), but to be almost 30 and beware .... All men have tried since the first time ... You obviously attract such, because for me the opposite is true. Virginity was capital ... Do you consider yourself an object? You think that the most important thing for a man in a relationship is for the woman to be a virgin and that makes her something more .... Virginity at this age is not a cause for shame,

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nova_990 answered · August 25, 2020

   Contrary to some opinions here, I will tell you that you have nothing to worry about, let alone beware. It is normal for young people in the times we live in to have sex. However, this is done for pleasure. * Syndrome

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qiaxqio answered · August 25, 2020

   If I'm going to be helpful, I'll share that I was still a virgin at 25. And I went through a period where I thought I wanted to have sex for sex, but it didn't work out. I realized that this had to happen naturally, by itself, not by force. And so I lived until my prince appeared and then everything happened ... I was super calm with him and it was very nice. I don't think you've met your prince yet. A little patience and that will happen.

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audrey_ answered · August 25, 2020

   11. You said it very well, but I don't believe in princes, for example. At almost 18 I did it and I didn't like it. I don't know what we promise the ladies of this sex - almost to become happy unhappy, to be perfect, etc. A year later I met Mr. Right and now I miss nothing. What so ... if I had been wary of I don't know who and I don't know what horse, I would have missed an awful lot by now. And what's so weird about being a virgin or not - just a natural state - you tell your partner to know and you do. Philosophy and hamalogy are not great

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megan_foxx_ answered · August 26, 2020

   Evalaa 4, I'm sorry for the others that I didn't read them, but 4 is right! Well done, girls just like that! Ronnie

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torysport answered · August 26, 2020

   Ronnie, you ... quote from 4 VIRGINITY IS YOUR MOST VALUABLE CAPITAL - KEEP IT FOR THE RIGHT ONE AND BE HAPPY !!! that's it - virginity in the 21st century was a woman's most valuable asset! God has protected us from this kind of capitalism, in which our value as individuals, partners, and WOMEN comes down to the presence of a zipper and our experience in bed gymnastics. I have nothing against virgins - if you want to wait until 80 princes, but please do not reduce women to a zipper and a virginity - long gone is the time of the "Iron Lantern" and nowadays no one will blow the sheets at your wedding, and he will ask you - what did you study, how much do you earn, what kind of family do you have, how do you look even, babes - your newly hatched husband will want you to give him a nice whistle on his wedding night because he will be too rotten and alcoholic, to ride you and tear your virgin skin - "most valuable capital". Indeed, watching Turkish TV series massively dulls the people and lives in a world that has nothing to do with the reality in which usually princes are not only frogs, but also love blowjobs, threesomes, anal, what not ... poor you is a fantasy, while you keep your "capital" your prince who knows what h --- a. And no - women are not cars, we do not have a odometer and we do not lose value as women and individuals when we lose "capital" as long as you keep your "capital" your prince who knows what h --- a. And no - women are not cars, we do not have a odometer and we do not lose value as women and individuals when we lose "capital" as long as you keep your "capital" your prince who knows what h --- a. And no - women are not cars, we do not have a odometer and we do not lose value as women and individuals when we lose "capital"

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harshil_vadodara answered · August 26, 2020

   I support Lola. I think that in today's modern 21st century it is not a fortune to be a virgin at 23! You missed so much ... I don't mean indiscriminate sex, but normal physical and emotional experiences with a loved one. It is normal for the first intimate relationship to begin at the age of 17-18, even today's teenagers do it much earlier. I think you just live in an artificial world, like in a glass aquarium, and you're afraid to go free. I also have moral principles, but it seems strange to me to be a virgin in those years. Hasn't the man been found so much that he possesses your soul first, that you yourself want him madly ... Then your restraints will fall. This boy you are writing about is not for you, especially since he has a boyfriend. And what does he want from you - you gave him nice blowjobs ... Why doesn't he show you the magic of passion, why don't you dump your boyfriend and spend two truly magical nights together ... Girl, you're deluded. I know you are a sweet and pure being, but you just can't find the right person. Think about it. I support the opinion that you need an unattached man, not a slut who likes to give him blowjobs and has not yet made you feel like a woman! Sherry

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alekjjj answered · August 27, 2020

   Number 12, you don't understand the logic. They did not guard themselves for the horse, but for the prince!

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steve494 answered · August 27, 2020

   Sorry, chicks, Prince William is getting married now ... look for real men

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meganlcampbell answered · August 27, 2020

   I am determined to give myself to only one man and why not wait until the wedding? I have always been very sensitive, vulnerable and fragile. When men took me down, they always looked at my appearance. There is hardly anyone who appreciates that I am romantic. I dream of the purity of the 1st surrender, to cuddle, to fall asleep on his chest and to hear his heart beating and for him to caress my hair. To walk in nature and dance under the stars. I want a lot of tenderness and patience, not to always explode and brag to me where and with whom they will break. Not everything is drinking and easy sex. I want to find a mature, settled man with morals and principles like mine. I'm so tired of posers who have nothing to do with a lady and always look at my appearance. I want to tell you men, look at the behavior and principles in a woman! I have decided to remain a virgin, in spite of this depravity. I will protect my lips and body and give myself when I feel something different in a valuable man. I will not be anyone's doormat. As for other virgins like me - do not give up and follow your principles! This is your body - let it be your temple and only the most worthy to cross its threshold! Good luck to all who seek the pure! A

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mrbigthickdick answered · August 28, 2020

   to number 18, beware girl only so you can understand that our time on this earth is limited, and as for how valuable a woman is, her virginity ranks last on the list because you can be a virgin, but you can be a terrible partner in life, you can be a virgin, but you can be a terrible parent, you can be a virgin, but you can be a terrible housewife, you can be a virgin, but you can be an unsympathetic person there are many but, but you keep the child of Prince William has already begun to grow.

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girl_mila answered · August 28, 2020

   Well done, number 18! I'm not a virgin and I'm a little older, but I like the way you think. Sometimes it's better that way than being a doormat for someone. Giving your body and heart to a certain person, and then he mocks you and dumps you, is very naughty and I do not wish it on anyone!

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sydnedump answered · August 28, 2020

   I would also like to meet a girl like you number 18, I wish you to meet your boy soon!

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miaxxxxxxx answered · August 28, 2020

   To number 20 - you are totally wrong - because everything is connected - do you think that a crack with tattoos and piercings can be a good partner in life and a good parent - I would say absolutely not. Number 18 is perfect - it is a pity that there are very few left and some of them are led by the mind of the herd. And the herd is massively degraded peasants who adore the principle that they once lived - with this principle it is only a matter of time to cheat or do other stupid things. Until number 18, I don't know what kind of people you meet, but I think your environment is not good - most of my acquaintances are not fans of easy sex and definitely appreciate their wives. I also know a few people who have been with their girlfriends since they were teenagers - I didn't believe they would last long then, but now 20 years later they are still together.

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hi990103 answered · August 29, 2020

   Well done, 18. The only bad thing is that we are not people with such values. We are more closed, we do not go to the noisiest places and parties and there are no openings with such people. If we can solve this problem, we can show others that feelings and humanity are much more beautiful than posers and artificial relationships. All these selfish behaviors are learned and devoid of any originality. So let's be ourselves, we are so unique. And fuck what the others will say.

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dreamgirlthings answered · August 29, 2020

   Why do some people think that "giving your body and heart" to a certain virgin will not lead to "making fun of you and abandoning you"? Or in addition to signing a contract before the glorious event with a clause: "because it was my first, my partner is obliged to tolerate and respect me unconditionally all his life." :))) Defloration lasts 1 second, and then where? Behavior and principles in a man have nothing to do with a piece of space, believe me. And why №18 imagines that a "mature, settled man" will not look at her in her appearance, because they look at her appearance the most, unless their calmness consists in being desperate old uncles, ready to reconcile with any ugly, maybe virgin.

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blondenxtra answered · August 29, 2020

   you may not have a counter, but they can't help but know how much you've been with .... and they're not valuable ...

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ithink_niceguy0_0 answered · August 30, 2020

   I think if you sleep with him it will be a big mistake he has a girlfriend and he would never leave her for you, virginity is something valuable as he says number 18 keep her and the prince will come

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tennishallofame answered · August 30, 2020

   It's not bad that you were so careful. Well, I was a little more careful ... and I personally do not regret it at all. I came across an understanding person, in general he accepted me as I was ... nz. how will you accept it. But for this one. If there are others. girlfriend I do not hire if I were in your place to be my first. But you decide.

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savmontano answered · August 31, 2020

   20, you can be a virgin and you can be horrible and ugly.

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alice_conte answered · August 31, 2020

   20, princes are for princesses! and you don't seem to be one of them!