Hello dear readers, For you, how long does a man have to wait before they have a more intimate relationship in order for a woman to be confident in feelings, confident in his relationship and feelings? Does the rule for the 10th meeting apply to you or do you think things are far more complex? How can a woman be sure that she is ready and how does it actually show that the two are ready to go through this stage of their relationship? Gentlemen, have you ever waited for a girl / woman for 6 months before having sex? What is the longest period in your opinion in which it is normal / could you wait before having sex? How much is too little and how much is too much and is there something like "too much"? G21 writes to you, I study at a university in Sofia, I work in foreign languages. I've had two friends so far. My longest relationship was 8 months. I pushed myself, I got there to do some things through the clothes, but that's it. Unbound cm from 3 years. First high school, then university and work were my priority, and I kept avoiding even the possibility of being in touch. Now I have something with a boy, but still nothing official. Yes. I'm afraid of this type of intimacy. Everyone keeps telling me how not to go to bed with a virgin and I just smile awkwardly. I am afraid to share that I am, because my last friend had a negative result, did not react well, it all ended with an offer to take me to a hotel, spa, etc., given that we had been going for only 2 months, followed by dick pick. I'm afraid I have no experience, from his reaction, from the fact that I won't be able to cope. I'm not asexual, I watch porn, I have fantasies, I often masturbate from the age of 13/14 and I have ended up about 20 times in my life. I'm starting to think I'm not normal, but I don't want to do it for one thing. Help!
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It's great that you're a virgin, it's far better than having a few or many.
Hi, I rarely write an opinion here. I am not a virgin. I am a man of 25. I would be happy if my next girlfriend was as clean and spotless as you. I will keep it like a painted egg. It's not embarrassing. What could be better than being with just one person for life? WHITE BEAR
Look now. This is not nuclear physics, and if you wait 10 meetings to trust someone for just one fuck, it's pretty narrow-minded. Either there is chemistry or there isn't. What do you think of him? That's why sex is so good because it's not framed. And then what do you expect? The chances of the person being accurate and only for you are small. Relax, fuck like people and enjoy the moment.
I let my boy go in the second week since we were together, and not because I planned it, but it just happened - we just wanted it both at that very moment. Making him wait for months is complete nonsense from my point of view, because sex is not some nasty duty that you, as a housewife, have to do on the contrary - it calms your hormones, relaxes you, and cuddling after that is the best. the perfect thing in this world. I'd even say you're missing out.
Chick, childhood years have passed, no one will wait for you until the 10th meeting, let alone 2 months ...
If you are so worried, you can go to a gynecologist and they will cut the hymen. you must take a lubricant and tell him to put it in slowly because you are very narrow or you stand on top and set the pace yourself. For experience, you can watch any video and he will not understand at all.
You haven't met the right one. The moment will come and you will jump on it yourself. And is it better not to like someone you don't like and to hate sex? Your time will come. M35
These are male k ****. A man who respects you and is not for one sex will not mind that you are a virgin. Only individuals with a lack of masculinity would blame you for not doing so yet. You can answer the question for yourself that if they don't care about you when they hear this fact, then they only want to sleep with you and have fun!
The right person will understand you, no matter how cliché it may sound ... I did it for the first time when I was your age and I had similar worries. It doesn't matter if you do it on the 2nd or 6th month, this is nonsense for me ... you do it when you are ready. I hadn't wanted him until I just met the man, and on the second date I knew he would be my first. We did it very soon after we left and I have never regretted, we have been together for so long, and sex is something that just complements what we have and over time it becomes deeper and nicer in terms of our feelings. .
The thing is that with this "keeping" you lose pure EXPERIENCE with the opposite sex. If you had it, you wouldn't stop at such a guy to send you various nude photos like a tanned teen and invite you to hotels as if you were cheap. I'm not saying this to offend you. I am writing this for all those who "protect themselves" in this way and lose valuable communication with the opposite sex. I'm also 21, I've made a lot of mistakes in the past about judging a boy, but not anymore because I've outlived certain types of men and I'm no longer impressed. Don't get me wrong, I haven't slept with an entire football team. But I'm not afraid of intimacy, and I'm much more sober in judging who to have it with and my love dramas are minimized. With experience, with communication, a person understands what he wants. Look, there are a lot of men who, even if you tell them you're a virgin, will accept it. The question is up to you - to overcome your fear of intimacy, to WISH to overcome it. To feel in harmony with yourself. Communicate with men, just communicate in the first place, get to know each other purely as people and build an emotional connection. Good communication and trust are very important. Don't think so much of the 3rd, the 5th, the 10th meeting. Come on, you don't have to go to the first meeting, but after that, whatever comes, you have to feel that you want it, that you trust the person. Don't look desperately. Just look for a person in the first place that you like and like yourself as people first, and then the other comes naturally. get to know each other purely as people and build an emotional connection. Good communication and trust are very important. Don't think so much of the 3rd, the 5th, the 10th meeting. Come on, you don't have to go to the first meeting, but after that, whatever comes, you have to feel that you want it, that you trust the person. Don't look desperately. Just look for a person in the first place that you like and like yourself as people first, and then the other comes naturally. get to know each other purely as people and build an emotional connection. Good communication and trust are very important. Don't think so much of the 3rd, the 5th, the 10th meeting. Come on, you don't have to go to the first meeting, but after that, whatever comes, you have to feel that you want it, that you trust the person. Don't look desperately. Just look for a person in the first place that you like and like yourself as people first, and then the other comes naturally.
I've been waiting for a year and a half and it's really not pleasant, but if he really loves you he will wait no matter what.
The rule is for 3 meetings, not 10, but it is not a rule at all, but some nonsense. And no man will wait 6 months for you to be "safe". He must be a masochist if he is waiting for you in the presence of so many girls who would even let him on a first date. If the sex doesn't work, it will turn out that he lost 6 months to fuck you for nothing. Yes, sex is an important part of a relationship. Now you're worried because you didn't do it and you think it's something big and special. Well no - it's not special. Just a pleasure, like eating a delicious cake or swimming in the sea, or whatever you like to do there. Then you will be angry that because of stupid worries you wasted your time instead of indulging in pleasures and moments.
I waited too, but I loved her and I would wait even longer if I had to. If it causes a problem, then you don't need one, you better remove it. But still, don't wait too long, try to be scared. It's wonderful to be a virgin, but don't go to the other extreme.
In principle, you are not too old. It's time for you to have your first sex. I want to tell you that things like the 10th meeting, the 5th meeting do not apply. It's important how you feel about it. When you feel ready, you will have a great desire to do it. Don't overexpose your expectations. The first time is rarely a good experience, especially for a woman. It hurts you the next 5-6 times. At least that was the case with me.
You repel already at this age. Your problem is not that you are a virgin. Any normal, non-womanizer will be happy to be with a girl like you. Your problem is that you choose too much and the more you do it the more you will attract idiots who will just fuck you and make fun of you. They will do it because of your straightforward and narrow-minded nature, because that's where you go. You have too many concepts, frameworks, dreams and requirements already in your head. With your requirements, no one will feel valued, but on the contrary - used, as if they have to play your whistle and live because of your dreams. in these requirements, just to fuck you. No self-respecting man will want to make a joke of you. In short - stereotypes attract selfishness. People are not ready for each other, they learn to be together ... all their lives
Off let 10 lose all their virginity straight so as not to write incredible nonsense on the forums how you passed the age for the first time a long time ago. Now the admins will probably not publish this comment, because they only accept whatever they want.
Do not delve into this problem. And this connection with your priorities work, school. You're just scared and you're running. How others will handle everything.
I think you are idealizing things and expecting the man of your life. The chance of sleeping with only 1 man in your life is very small. Don't expect something great and you won't be disappointed. Still, find a decent boy just in case :)
There is no way that a person has absolutely no requirements for the person he is with. If I had gone with the first person I met, with whom communication does not go so well, I am not physically attracted, with whom we have no emotional connection, no similar views on life or -a little in character, what do we do together? To have one, no matter how not without anything. Then you would call me desperate, wouldn't you? The border is not so thin. I don't choose from a catalog, just run until half a year ago, but since then I've taken matters into my own hands and tried to overcome my fears one by one by confronting them and reaping success: at the moment I have something with a boy who in the future I hope it turns into something serious (the thing, not the boy, haha) :) About the idealization ... No. I can't imagine the first one being my only one. It is absurd. It happens in 1 of 345790007421 cases. We do not live in the 19th century. I would be happy to have a future with a similar type of person to the one I am with at least, at least what he has shown so far, although I can't say with great certainty, since we haven't known each other for so long, but it would be nice to one country, but not my goal, not a dream. At least because of the sexual experience I'm supposed to have before marriage. But in the end to do it like that, just for one thing, is not an ok option, right? At least for me. I had such options, but I found that this is not for me, it does not work for me, I need emotional closeness, I can not do without it. Thanks to everyone who commented. I wish you happiness! Arividerchi, the Author although I can't say with great certainty, since we haven't known each other for so long, but it would be nice on the one hand, but it's not my goal, it's not a dream. At least because of the sexual experience I'm supposed to have before marriage. But in the end to do it like that, just for one thing, is not an ok option, right? At least for me. I had such options, but I found that this is not for me, it does not work for me, I need emotional closeness, I can not do without it. Thanks to everyone who commented. I wish you happiness! Arividerchi, the Author although I can't say with great certainty, since we haven't known each other for so long, but it would be nice on the one hand, but it's not my goal, it's not a dream. At least because of the sexual experience I'm supposed to have before marriage. But in the end to do it like that, just for one thing, is not an ok option, right? At least for me. I had such options, but I found that this is not for me, it does not work for me, I need emotional closeness, I can not do without it. Thanks to everyone who commented. I wish you happiness! Arividerchi, the Author right? At least for me. I had such options, but I found that this is not for me, it does not work for me, I need emotional closeness, I can not do without it. Thanks to everyone who commented. I wish you happiness! Arividerchi, the Author right? At least for me. I had such options, but I found that this is not for me, it does not work for me, I need emotional closeness, I can not do without it. Thanks to everyone who commented. I wish you happiness! Arividerchi, the Author
Darling, you can only be proud of your purity! Don't go to a gynecologist and don't let anyone pickle ... You've been careful for so long, it's an honor to wait for the right person who will carry you in his arms all his life, for this gift that you were only with him.