Hello! I am a woman of 30 years. I have a relationship of over 10 years. One of the things that has always been going on in my relationship is sex ... or rather it was. The problems started in about a year or so. In the vast majority of cases, my boyfriend, who is also 30, cannot get an erection. He expresses a desire for sex, insists, and the moment we undress and start, it can't happen to him at all. From there, shouts and insults begin that I was guilty ... It's awful. It's constant. I haven't had any sex in so long, and I'm 30 years old. I miss him so much, I'm constantly nervous. I'm not the type to cheat. But so much to do .... He does not give me a logical explanation. He once mentioned that even if he had a problem, he would not share it. I soon found a white powder - probably amphetamine or methamphetamine in them. Constantly uses nasal drops. Could this be the cause? I can't take it anymore .......
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Yes, this may be the reason. It is not good that he uses nasal drops constantly - most likely he has become addicted to them. Do you have children?
Run away, boy. You don't need that. If you don't hit the line in time, you'll beat your head, but it'll be too late.
I don't think amphetamine is the cause unless you overdo it. And when he watches porn, and he probably sees if there are such problems, or only when he has sex with you. You've been together for ten years, as nasty as it sounds, you may be tired of him.
Well, it's your fault, the boy kills complexes by putting up a partition wall and of course, it's your fault. In my opinion, sit down and talk calmly, insist on a meeting with a specialist sexologist, if he bets on the barrier again, tell him that you are here, problems are solved by seeking help, and not in the typical Bulgarian way, denying the problem. If you encounter such things, it is clear what the consequences are, but you are young and it is not normal to live this way.
If it's too much, yes, that's the reason. This is also the reason he is nervous and blames you.
yes, it is quite possible that this is the reason.
I would be detailed, but it doesn't make sense - dump it. F 29
And is there a way to help him? He is hiding all the time. There is no such thing as bad. His character is difficult. How to help him ..
I am 32 and I tell you - your relationship is exhausted or he has a mental problem related to your relationship. Let me guess, routine?
It is not one of the nasal drops, my friend has been using it constantly for 10 years (I know perfectly well that it is harmful, but there is nothing I can do) and we have had nights with 3-4 repetitions, so it is hardly one of them. It could be drugs, depression, a prostate problem ... if he doesn't share or go to the doctor, no one can help him.
Do you think we can overcome this? about routine, even if there is such a moment, by this logic, do we have to constantly change partners every 10 years when we get bored ?? But I don't know why he can't sleep with me .. I don't think he's cheating on me ..
Since you don't have children, you have the opportunity to start with another person next to you, I'm sorry, but I don't think you attract him and that's why he doesn't. How do you want the person to tell them the exact reason, he is afraid of offending you, young people in their 30s, how will you drive it for another 20 years.
What if another woman showed up? Have you thought about this option?
Well, I've been thinking about all sorts of options. But I wonder if she's married, when they manage to see each other at all ... She constantly went to his friend, in whom he wouldn't let me in .. He texted him and set him against me .. Is it possible that there was a gay story in your opinion ?
Well, I've been thinking about all sorts of options. But I wonder if she's married, when they manage to see each other at all ... She constantly went to his friend, in whom he wouldn't let me in .. He texted him and set him against me .. Is it possible that there was a gay story in your opinion ?
I am the author again. I'm a little confused about what's there and whether there's anything at all. Because first he takes amphetamines ... it's already clear. If it's too much, which I'm pretty sure, the answer comes. On the other hand, his friend, with whom they had a strange relationship. He was jealous of me. Acquaintances hinted to me that he was "more of a woman than women" and set him up for me .... On the other hand, I notice him several times how, when they give children on TV, his eyes water. And it has never been like that before, which leads me to think that there may be someone with a child that he misses ... and in general I am completely confused in my assumptions. that's why I wrote here ...
if I take drugs it is from them
number 12, and there is no such possibility that he is worried about offending me. it is so "dirty" that it saves nothing.
Does it matter what he takes, is there another woman ... Etc. No one deserves such treatment, screaming and lubrication of the ego. As soon as his gray matter reaches the point where he looks for guilt in you, and before that he doesn't ask himself some questions and doesn't try to answer on his own, I'm sorry, but ... Get rid of this infantile directly! No one deserves to tolerate someone's guilt, no matter how much you love them, I think that no one is more important than yourself!
"He was constantly going to his friend, who wouldn't let me in. He texted him and set him up against me ..." It's more likely that his friend doesn't like you, I think they may have seen the other one there.
I don't know what nasal drops are, but antihistamines are a plague for male erections. I experienced it on my back, I was scared of what was happening to me. Few people know this.
I don't know what nasal drops are, but antihistamines are a plague for male erections. I experienced it on my back, I was scared of what was happening to me. Few people know this.
dump it, this type of men are pathetic. I can't tell you from this white dust, it's not excluded and he cheats, because he can hardly do without sex. it's not worth poisoning your nerves with. and if he starts blaming you, whether you're tired of him or not, then he's an aggressive guy and it's going to get worse. I've been through this thing - run so you don't look for psychologists like me.
author: As I do not have a regular sex life, it affects me a lot. I just can't stand it. I'm constantly nervous. I am a young woman and I have my needs. But I can't cheat. For me this is a betrayal ..
Author, God, you're only 30, think what it will be like in 10 years, and there are so many couples and unbridled light ones who do it after 40. Sun, I think this one of yours has a mistress and should pay some attention to you. it will be for a short time, you agree for him to put it on another and for you to be careful only for him and to go unsatisfied, don't be humiliated!
We had normal sex yesterday. Maybe the reason is in what he takes. He is hiding, but here, for example, he was with the nose drops all night last night, he couldn't breathe ... I tend to this theory rather than the other one with my mistress.