Hello, the problem is the following .. my friend does not want to save BGN 20 to go out somewhere over the weekend, he tells me that he prefers to give these BGN 20 to buy something for home - food, preparations, etc. He recently he lives alone and is not used to shopping for home alone. He currently makes almost no money, and gives all the money he earns for gasoline to go to work, GRASS, cigarettes and beer. I even happened to visit him and he didn't have the money to buy something to eat, but to buy the things I listed above, counting on me to buy. And when I go shopping, he buys everything else he can't do without ... We've been together for a year or so and before he had a lot of opportunities, we went everywhere, but for a few months he's been in this situation, at first he set aside some money to let's go somewhere, but he doesn't move a finger anymore. I'm slowly starting to get disgusted by his behavior, how he thinks only of his grass and his beer, and he doesn't care about anything else. At the same time, he sits at work all day complaining about why his clients don't come in, swears at them when they come in and doesn't buy anything (he has his own shop). And it is constantly negative. And when I tell him that he shouldn't be like that and that he should be more positive, cut the grass a little and stop complaining and that I need variety, to do something together, not just watch TV or get angry or tell me and that he doesn't like this situation and if I had a little patience, we would have had enough time to go back and forth .. and I've been listening to this for months .. But I can't take it anymore ... I love him very much, but I need him from diversity, from life, and not just to sit like a grandmother in them and in our country. Of course I can go out with friends, he never stops me from going anywhere, I even went on a trip abroad without him with friends, he didn't mind, but I want to go out with him, I'm happy with him and things are just starting to go wrong. We just sit and watch TV or movies, I despair ....
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Amy, you're stupid. I had problems like that too, one like you dumped me because I didn't have money. But the wheel is spinning, things got better, I met another one when I didn't have one and now I'm happy with it, I even bought a brand new car because it's not with me because of the money, it liked me without, it likes me now with, and the old woman died of envy when he saw her with a ribbon on Facebook. But that's how you women are - dumb everywhere.
I understand you very well. My father is the same, there are no fixes. I remember him from a young age - he was like that and he stayed like that. We have had cases where we literally had nothing to eat, and he bought beer with the last money and went to erotic bars - given that his own children are hungry and he was not even conscientious, he even bragged about how the dancers he danced. He is now elderly and prefers to pour and waste money on bars than to be treated or eaten. Do not expect such an individual to achieve anything serious in his life, or even to think of anyone but himself. Drop it while it's time and find a real man who won't sell you for a beer or a mazur.
Up to 1 Read the story again. It is not a question of lack of money, but of spending on weed and booze, instead of something more useful and necessary.
I fully support number 1 !!! When you go somewhere, take out money and take it. The man is in a difficult situation, and ours grabbed his hat and went on a trip abroad! I hope you feel it soon and you beat the jester! While he had money everything was pink, wasn't it, now he suddenly became very bad!
It's best to dump it, it will be the best way out for both of you. I don't know how he hasn't dumped you so far, I don't know the reasons why he's standing with a woman who describes the person next to her in this way. I would ask you how much money you gave for your trips, vacations and walks and how much he gave, but it seems pointless to me, because the answer seems clear. You talk about a connection, but nowhere do you mention emotions or feelings, you only talk about a mobile ATM on wheels. I don't know how this man tolerates you.
As number 1, I had a similar "girlfriend". He lived mostly with me, I paid for food, bills, car and diesel expenses, walks, vacations, etc., and since the salary, no matter how big, was not enough for everything, I even took a loan to be good, or at least that's good. which she wanted. Of course, she gave her money for clothes, bags, pampering, hairstyles, tattoos, etc. After a month I felt it would get bad and abruptly pulled the hand, as I, like yours, said that this is the situation and there is no money. She started shaking, keeping track of my money and I then said to her "Okay, let's go, but this time you will pay for the oil and the stay" she looked at me indignantly and said that I was making fun of her. Gradually she found that we have many different characters, don't ask why, I think it is clear and not even 3 months after I stopped doing these pampering left me. Now things are fine, I'm not complaining :)
So you're worried about not going anywhere, and you're not particularly worried about smoking weed? What if I switch to amphetamines? Heroin? Where are you going anyway?
You need to talk to him seriously, help him realize and everything will gradually work out I hope. I see 2 options. If you really love him and want to be right with him, don't give up, keep trying to help him realize that he can do without this nonsense and be patient, a little progress to see will give you hope that he can do more, no it happens in 1 day, but if you see progress you will be more inspired to help him. And I hope you succeed so that he, and your relationship, and everything will be fine. The other option is, if you don't love him, you will leave him in such difficulty, without giving your best to help him. And one day something like what he wrote number 1 will happen. And it won't just be about money, but also that if you love him you'll really regret it, that because of this temporary difficulty you may have left him and not been with him to support him and try to make him better, to help him. So I advise you if you really love and hold on to him, to do your best to help him, talk to him in different ways towards what you want to do, speak in a calm tone, do not miss to shout, show him concern and understanding and be patient. I wish you success :)
An oligophrenic has suggested that women are an expensive thing to be deserved by anyone. You don't look like Bridget Bardot or Claudia Cardinale, but even they don't pee on perfume. Given the fact that people here barely make ends meet, you have no reason to claim. Take an atlas and look where you live! There are no jobs and high salaries, there is no decent and normal life. Where will you find such stable men with money? Lower the claims a bit. And understand that you are not so unique that only a rich person deserves you. And you stink after kenef and fucking.
I don't know - on the one hand I understand the author and I would probably be annoyed by such an attitude. On the other hand, my first thought when I read what was written was, since when it comes to BGN 20, you collect them and take them out, in the end you go out to restaurants, the person obviously doesn't like it at the moment. Obviously, there is a psychological problem that he cannot overcome on his own - that is why he escapes with weed and alcohol and his unwillingness to socialize. Something he can't handle or doesn't accept, something weighs on him - if you hold on to him better, try to talk and understand what the problem is and be supportive and show that you understand him until he gets through the difficulties. If you are already tired of understanding and supporting him and do not see in him any positive change or prospects for such - just step back. It makes no sense to pour into a bucket without a bottom. Anyway, he doesn't make you happy anymore, and obviously you do him too. If you can't support each other and go through a difficult time together, you may both deserve a chance to find someone better for you to move forward with.
So if you want to be with someone, it doesn't matter where you are, it matters that you are together. The author may want to go somewhere, just maybe he doesn't have money for himself, he doesn't have to pay, but everyone for himself ...
The story is super banal. I had a similar girlfriend. While I was paying her the expenses and we went around the restaurants, everything was more than good! However, because I had serious intentions towards her and I wanted to live together, I decided to start sharing the costs, as I think is right. Only once I asked her to give 25 leva for walking to a hut, and I took my share. From that moment on, it was as if I was with a completely different girl. Within a month, she decided she had no feelings for me and found a new sponsor, probably more solvent than me. Well, half a year later she started looking for me crying that she had been abandoned, but I tactfully cut her off, which later turned out to be a very correct decision.
Ehooo, come on. And didn't you just think that she was NOT trying to squeeze him, but just to see in him the desire to diversify a little and go out somewhere! Why, if we look for this desire in our partner, are we gold diggers and similar names? The girl wants to diversify the two somewhere, WHICH IS COMPLETELY NORMAL, no person (be it a man or a woman) would be happy to be tied up 24/7 at home, especially young people. Author, I understand you because I am in a similar situation at the moment. My friend is very passionate about fitness and bodybuilding and gives his last pennies for steaks, proteins, nuts at 20-30 BGN per kilogram and so on. It's really annoying, and I keep telling him that I want the two of us to go on vacation for 2-3 days, and we'll see if it ever happens. I advise you to talk to your man about grass and beer, as these are not cheap consumables and you can definitely save a lot from them! And they are not very useful, either ... Good luck and if you achieve results to say the formula! Marie
That's right, 13. And I tried to say that, but most people attacked the girl for wanting to spend only on her. It is not bad for a person to drink and smoke, but let everything be in moderation and priority. When you don't have money to eat and you give your last money for one thing, it's mania, it interferes with everything else. Even with sports, it's the same as in your case. Let people know that they need to allocate their resources properly. Otherwise it happens as with my father, a lifetime of eating, drinking, bars, and no health, no family, no basic respect from people. It is true that everyone chooses their own destiny, but when something happens to you, you still lean on your loved ones, right? And you can't ignore them all your life, humiliate and insult them and in the end have eyes to ask for help when needed. So one has to think a little in perspective. Today you are young - you can starve and drive only on weed and alcohol, but a person grows old, needs, circumstances change. And when you haven't made your bed in your youth, you have nothing to lie on in your old age. From number 2
Number 13, not bad to diversify, but seeing that her boyfriend has no money, let her take him somewhere. Isn't he the only one obliged to take money for everything? !! When he had money and they went from left to right, she didn't notice that she smoked weed and drank beer, did she? I don't see what's wrong with a friend having a hobby and practicing it. Why don't you stop buying make-up, perfumes, jewelry and rags?
14, that's right, we have at least commented on this issue and he has always said that he will give up when things get serious - to start thinking about family, etc. But time will tell :) 15. After her boyfriend there is money for grass and beer, why should she take it out? If he wants to, one day he won't smoke weed and take her out for a beer together. The very fact that the girl says that she is shopping for him at home shows a desire on her part - she is not constrained after shopping for him, so she can take him out. But it's very naughty when the person doesn't do it, when in fact there is an opportunity. For example, if you invite me to come up with the clear idea that I should have some money in me and I tell you ok, and then I buy makeup for BGN 20 and I have no money left and I expect you to cover my expenses, it will get a little confusing right? This is not about what the money is spent on - makeup, expensive food (as in my case) or grass (as in the author), but to the fact that these are not existential needs and once we can get rid of them for the common good. As for me, yes, I buy make-up, perfumes, jewelry and rags, as you put it, but on the other hand, I'm a hell of a calculating person and at least for now I manage to combine things. Whenever my friend offers to go out, I set aside some money, even at the risk of losing something :) Here, in my opinion, lies the key! Greetings yes I buy make-up, perfumes, jewelry and rags as you put it, but on the other hand I'm a hell of a calculating person and at least for now I manage to combine things. Whenever my friend offers to go out, I set aside some money, even at the risk of losing something :) Here, in my opinion, lies the key! Greetings yes I buy make-up, perfumes, jewelry and rags as you put it, but on the other hand I'm a hell of a calculating person and at least for now I manage to combine things. Whenever my friend offers to go out, I set aside some money, even at the risk of losing something :) Here, in my opinion, lies the key! Greetings
Look, now everyone is going out and I feel like living and I sometimes want to go to a restaurant, a theater, a movie, somewhere ... but when I don't have the opportunity, I stay, like my friend. He makes better money than me, no matter that we work in the same place, but there are rare cases in which he has paid my bill. When he gets out and has an opportunity, he goes out, I don't want to, for example, because I don't have that opportunity and I don't care about that and vice versa. Just compromises - go for a walk, what could be more romantic than a walk around the city. And what if he wants to stay at home and watch TV, can't you still have fun, so we save money from the cinema, a thousand times we prefer to buy popcorn and download a movie than to give 20 leva for some movie. It's the same with restaurants, but with us it's another factor, we work in this field and we do not want to be constantly in such places. Just find a cheaper way to spend time together, don't you have imagination. Not everything is a party!