I have a girlfriend of about 4 and a half years. But with a pause. Although she liked other guys before me, she didn't "date" anyone. It was my first sex, but I used to have sex with others. With her, I saw that she was real and my previous relationships were just a waste of energy. BUT she couldn't know if I was like that for her. Curiosity gnawed at her, and for other reasons we parted. For a month or two she was with another and even sexually. I did not stop loving her and we got together, and the moment with the loss of energy she felt it with this boy. It took me a while, but I experienced that she slept with someone else. But now she is one step ahead. Admittedly, it doesn't bother me infinitely, because I love her and that's why I didn't really want to "catch up" - the other girls don't attract me, like her (maybe because I only slept with her and I can imagine). But it bothers me: Isn't it fair for me to try before I doom myself to her forever, since the magic of being with only one person is forever broken unilaterally Say what you think! Thanks!
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If I understood correctly from what you wrote ... in my opinion the fact that you think in such a direction shows that there is a loss of energy with it ... :(
Hello! "It sucks" to really be with only one person, and he didn't have only you. Maybe because you haven't tried with others and you don't know what it's like: what it feels like, you can't compare the feeling. I'm in a similar situation (I'm married and I haven't had other men besides mine, and sometimes I wonder how it will be with someone else) But if you're not in conflict with her, it's not worth trying because of the idea. And nowhere is it written that before you start a family, before you "swear" to only one person, we must have gone through 10 (for example). But just like number 1, it seems to me that if you have such thoughts in your head: SHE is just a "waste of energy." you're with the love of your life, and now that you're with this girl you're talking about, that you love you wonder if you should cheat on her. Talk. Tell her what you think, there's no point in torturing yourself. And if you really love her, forget everything else. After all, she came back to you.
Dude, stay with her and do a clean job. There is no point in trying with others, because you just see she understands and you quarrel very badly. Stay with her and keep your head calm!