Hello, I would be happy if you could give me some advice about my situation in the situation around me after the divorce. A 38-year-old man, I have been divorced for six months because I caught my wife in adultery and could not forgive her. We have two children aged 10 and 6, boys. We transferred the apartment to the children's name and she lives in it, as the parental rights over the children are hers. I had offered to take full care of the boys and she would live alone, but she refused. Financially, I take full care of my children, apart from the support I pay, I buy them and everything else they need. I think I was a good husband and father. I have provided financially for my family, I have demonstrated my love for my wife many times and I have confirmed it with actions, but apparently this was not enough and she got married to a married man. They went together for 7 months. Of course she ended her relationship after I found out, but then a rain hood as they say. Now, the problem is this: my wife is in a very strange state after the divorce. At first she begged me not to divorce, she told me that infidelity was just a hobby, that it was a gross mistake on her part, but it happened to weaker people when the routine of marriage took over, that it would never happen again, that I did not deserve such treatment that she loves me very much, etc. If I wanted revenge - to sleep with as many women as I want, she would accept it, etc. She loved me madly, she could not live without me imagine. I did not forgive, because the trust has already been lost, and it is difficult to restore, also because she had a relationship with this person and I caught her. It was not a fleeting adventure for her to realize and interrupt. There is no clear way to get together and I said that. I am currently in the process of buying a new home and to tell you I feel winged for a new beginning and the other I feel wonderful. I know it will not be easy for her with the children, but I will always be by her side. I also left a great apartment in a new complex, but there is one drawback. Everything there is on gas, incl. and the boiler, and gas is very expensive. Last winter I paid BGN 600 per month. If I am not, I do not see her recovering financially and although we live in Sofia, her net salary is BGN 1,100. Two weeks ago she asked for a serious conversation and told me that it is difficult for her to deal with our two boys alone. because the big one entered puberty and the little one supported him in everything. I told her, that I have full support for the children, and she cries again - she cried, but she cried a lot. We were in a restaurant and even people turned to look at us. She told me that she did not want to become a desperate divorcee who would write on the forums and be ridiculed by various people. For those six months after the divorce, she had learned that she could be nothing but a sex toy in men's hands. No one would take her seriously with two small children, boys, much less support her financially. She also did not want to be engaged to another man and have children. Our children have arrived. That was absurd for her. The boys were sure that another man would not accept to live with them. She also didn't want to deal with divorced men and watch their children on weekends and enter new movies, as she put it. She didn't want to burden her psyche with extra emotions, as it was sufficiently loaded. Her life changed dramatically after the divorce and she slowly went crazy and was afraid of everything. He clearly admitted to me that he was most afraid of not starting another family and forgetting about it with the children. Women would easily wrap me up when they saw how good I was, etc. She suggested the following: that I go to her and the children's apartment three times a week on weekdays and sleep there all night. She would make dinner and everything. And apart from that on Saturday and Sunday, or one of the two days when I had the opportunity to take the children and travel with her around the country, as before. The reason for this is that this way the children would not feel my lack and the lack of a family as a whole. She told me that the elder had already begun to answer her and not listen to her. He wants us to go on vacation together every summer and winter, as before (I took them except to our Black Sea coast, to Greece, Turkey, Spain and Portugal. This summer, however, I did not take them anywhere). He offers me his cooperation in every respect. I could count on her in everything (my God, while we were married she didn't tell me that). How do you see all this? I did not refuse the offer, but I did not promise anything. How do you like everything? The cry of a sane woman or a desperate ex-wife? Thank you! How do you see all this? I did not refuse the offer, but I did not promise anything. How do you like everything? The cry of a sane woman or a desperate ex-wife? Thank you! How do you see all this? I did not refuse the offer, but I did not promise anything. How do you like everything? The cry of a sane woman or a desperate ex-wife? Thank you!
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That you tried, dude. If it goes well - well! If nothing happens - no one can stop you back. The woman may have come to her senses. There are others like you here in the forum, one was in the same situation and his wife changed radically. And now they are happy.
Drop it. Leave her to fend for herself financially and anyway. Don't you think she wants you to get together because she loves you after you're divorced, she has 2 children and she's barely getting along? Things must not have gone the way she wanted, and now she's leaning on you. Fuck, you'll find another one that cares.
Desperate ex-wife !!! He makes these circuses for money, not for children. She hasn't really changed, she just wants to live as calmly as before. You have two options: - To bond with her, to live together again, but with mistrust and suspicion. - To move forward, a new beginning, a new relationship ... Children do not want a fake family! There are many stories from children in the shares: "Mom cheats on dad", "Should I tell my father that my mother has another man?" Everyone should know the price, not to allow him to be trampled and manipulated in any way is the way.
In my opinion, either all or nothing. If you want to continue with your family, if you have been happy, it may be a good idea to give it a second chance, but without detours. However, if you weren't happy with her anyway and she took you for granted, it's better to use the Exit situation without being the bad guy. At the moment she is to blame and you are clean. If you give her a second chance and in that time you are unhappy and you meet a woman (girl) with whom you will like, what do we do ??? I honestly chose the terrible end over the endless horror. I caught my wife chatting with another man and used the occasion to legally break up with her, but I hadn't been happy in a long time. I was older than you and still managed to create a new, much happier, normal, calm family, today I have 2 more children. I always wanted to have many children, and with my first wife it was pleading, extortion. Now my two older children are at university, I have long since forgotten about my previous life. My ex also apologizes to me, slaps me, even with blackmail, but I don't regret rejecting her. However, if I had been happy with her and my previous family in general, I might have given her a second chance. I don't see what your ex has to offer in return. She wants a lot from you, but what does she really offer? YOU to see her on vacation, YOU this and that. From a material point of view, I also don't see why you felt sorry for her. How the people of the countryside succeed with rents, bills and family. She may also have to reduce her expenses or look for another job. However, unlike you, we sold the family home and she and her half bought a small house where the children have lived with her in recent years and an apartment in the center, which she rents out, besides, I had done a business for her before, which she just runs and so I don't have to finance her for life. In general, yours has also realized that your cards are much better. N 38. The probability of getting pregnant by another is minimal, so why bother at all. And divorced men are looking for something unencumbered, young. She seems to have realized her realistic price on the "market" in accordance with yours, but will she appreciate you in the long run? For me, everything changed for the better. I had the chance to choose a woman according to my new experience, according to what I wanted for the future, not what I once took by mistake, and life is short. You will not feel and you are at 50, at 60 and you no longer have a choice. One man that your cards are much better. N 38. The probability of getting pregnant by another is minimal, so why bother at all. And divorced men are looking for something unencumbered, young. She seems to have realized her realistic price on the "market" in accordance with yours, but will she appreciate you in the long run? For me, everything changed for the better. I had the chance to choose a woman according to my new experience, according to what I wanted for the future, not what I once took by mistake, and life is short. You will not feel and you are at 50, at 60 and you no longer have a choice. One man that your cards are much better. N 38. The probability of getting pregnant by another is minimal, so why bother at all. And divorced men are looking for something unencumbered, young. She seems to have realized her realistic price on the "market" in accordance with yours, but will she appreciate you in the long run? For me, everything changed for the better. I had the chance to choose a woman according to my new experience, according to what I wanted for the future, not what I once took by mistake, and life is short. You will not feel and you are at 50, at 60 and you no longer have a choice. One man I had the chance to choose a woman according to my new experience, according to what I wanted for the future, not what I once took by mistake, and life is short. You will not feel and you are at 50, at 60 and you no longer have a choice. One man I had the chance to choose a woman according to my new experience, according to what I wanted for the future, not what I once took by mistake, and life is short. You will not feel and you are at 50, at 60 and you no longer have a choice. One man
She saw the fat one and now she will lick your soles or whatever you want there to support her. There's a joke "Fate sends you old boyfriends to see if you're still so dumb" - paraphrase it, and catch a young woman without children. Success!
To me, the story seems like a fabrication, but if it's still real, the author can be 100% sure that his ex-wife doesn't care about him at all, but about his money. Author, just notice what she offers you - to take her (under the pretext that you will take the children) on vacation, and back and forth, and in return she will cook you dinner 2-3 times a week, and you will also need to satisfy her sexual needs. I can't imagine how stupid a person must be to be tied to such an "offer". In other words - she should not lose anything she is used to, and you should thus be deprived of any opportunity to make her biggest nightmare come true - to find another woman, and respectively to create another family. But it is not the one who eats the pie who is crazy, but the one who gives it to him, so she has the right to ask for it, but you if you tie yourself ...
Do you still love this woman? Did you feel happy with her, did you feel part of a nice and happy family? In the evening, when you came home from work, did you do it willingly? If your answer is yes, what's stopping you from trying? If it doesn't, it won't. If it works - great! The question is whether you can forgive infidelity. I will tell you a similar story, but from a different point of view. I am a man, I had a serious girlfriend for 4 years. We both worked a lot, generally coming home from work, having dinner and sitting down to work from home again. Somehow the variety in the relationship disappeared, and I got bored and started a relationship with a woman I didn't love. But there was a thrill with her, I felt attracted, and strong. I never neglected my girlfriend because of her, I always knew that my heart belonged only to her, but it happened. In the evening, after night and so on for almost a year, until my boyfriend understood. She was very offended, rightly so, we lived separately, we ended all contact at her request, I just didn't have much eyes to object, but I didn't stop thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the breaks and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) after an evening and so on for almost a year, until my boyfriend found out. She was very offended, rightly so, we lived separately, we ended all contact at her request, I just didn't have much eyes to object, but I didn't stop thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the breaks and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) after an evening and so on for almost a year, until my boyfriend found out. She was very offended, rightly so, we lived separately, we ended all contact at her request, I just didn't have much eyes to object, but I didn't stop thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the breaks and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) rightly so, we lived separately, we ended all contact at her request, I just didn't have eyes to object especially, but I didn't stop thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the breaks and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) rightly so, we lived separately, we ended all contact at her request, I just didn't have eyes to object especially, but I didn't stop thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the breaks and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) but I kept thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the holidays and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) but I kept thinking about her. I wanted her scent, her voice, I wanted the evenings on the couch, in front of the TV, with her, the warm and cozy evenings, the breaks and the fun with her that I missed so much. After a few months, I managed to adjust things so that we would meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) that we meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :) that we meet by chance in a bar. We started dating again and now we are together again. Two years have passed since all this, now we are engaged and we are about to have a wedding. If you love her and hold on to her, don't leave her, really. And if you are happy now that you are alone, there are many valuable chicks in the sea, you can find something much better. :)
You have a responsibility only to the children. You let her break her head. However, she admitted that 6 months after the divorce she broke a forest of x ** s. Now what? "I don't want you, but I don't want you to have another one !!!" If you accept this "deal", you lose your dignity. Don't listen to what she says and what she promises, watch what she does. As I read, it seems to me that you are, to put it mildly, financially secure - life is yours, the world is yours, don't waste them!
Without specifically referring to this story, something very interesting impresses me. The tendency is for men to cheat en masse and many women forgive them, and they themselves, no matter how dissatisfied they are if the woman does not submit documents, do not move. But once they cheat on them, it's over. I'm not saying here who's wrong or who's right in such a situation, but it really makes me think about this job. And about you, author. I think it's less of both, but maybe despair speaks louder. You need to feel it and consider a few key factors - how you feel about this woman in the end; is infidelity so fatal and why - donate the blow is more on your relationship or on your ego; what your relationship was like before and what led to this situation; Think carefully and consider whether your relationship deserves a second chance. In any case, I think that it has narrowed down a lot and will now try to compensate, which you have to judge if it suits you. But if you decide that this is insurmountable, whatever you do, really don't forget your children. And this is not just about money, they need attention and fatherhood. Once she is bitten, then control and discipline disappear, and she will not be the only one to suffer. Make sure there is no bad attitude or disrespect between you. Even if you don't think so, protect her from them. They need their mother, not some shattered and disgusting image of her. Don't punish them to punish her. F31 they need attention and fatherhood. Once she is bitten, then control and discipline disappear, and she will not be the only one to suffer. Make sure there is no bad attitude or disrespect between you. Even if you don't think so, protect her from them. They need their mother, not some shattered and disgusting image of her. Don't punish them to punish her. F31 they need attention and fatherhood. Once she is bitten, then control and discipline disappear, and she will not be the only one to suffer. Make sure there is no bad attitude or disrespect between you. Even if you don't think so, protect her from them. They need their mother, not some shattered and disgusting image of her. Don't punish them to punish her. F31
She described it to you in detail. It's easy with you. You are caring. Kuma fox like that. And I got divorced. Because the washerwoman decided to choose the easy way. Instead of synchronizing, he decided to prove himself - with lovers. OK. Divorce. Now he enjoys his freedom. At 49 and without money for accommodation ... my mistress can't spin anymore. My children were then a boy of 17 and a girl of 15. It was difficult for me, no ... Well, it's true that my young man is over, but they won't make a fool of me. Don't let him either. You pay everything and you are responsible. She does not take a small salary. To learn to get better. She was crying. And you like crying inside? Don't let them make a fool of you. And of course, if she's a good mother, don't praise her. This is the norm. Don't thank her for doing you a favor. And write down what you decided and did in the end that made me curious.
I sympathize with the fact that your empty-headed wife has broken up your family. And you're right that you're divorced. However, think practically about the things of life: Option 1 - You are left alone. You pay this and that, your wife writhes with the bills. The boys are hard to keep with two parents at home, so what's left with a mother. They are very likely to harm themselves with inappropriate behavior. What is the result - you both suffer, and with the lives of your sons who knows what will happen. Remember that with the failed life of your children, you can not rely on the old to help. On the contrary, you can fight to eat for money for a bottle of brandy or drugs, God forbid. Option 2 - you are winged by life. Soon there will be a hungry woman who will start a family with you. If she is a girl, you will have to borrow at least 1 more child. If he is with children, you will look after other people's children. Maybe a collection of all kinds of children - yours, hers and yours. Option 3: The former, however, also reaches out to a man. The same scheme as with you, with the difference that the children will comply with another man. If they like it, they can play you like nothing. Your wife has acted super stupid, but now she is a very smart and honest woman. She is very well aware of what she has broken down and wants you to fix your relationship. I don't think it's just about finances, she's thinking about the children's future. Think about whether it would not be best for all of you to get together. Yes, you feel sick, but think about the future. There are no perfect schemes. I haven't read the other opinions, there are certainly haired men who advise the opposite. Think of your children. with the difference that the children will comply with another man. If they like it, they can play you like nothing. Your wife has acted super stupid, but now she is a very smart and honest woman. She is very well aware of what she has broken down and wants you to fix your relationship. I don't think it's just about finances, she's thinking about the children's future. Think about whether it would not be best for all of you to get together. Yes, you feel sick, but think about the future. There are no perfect schemes. I haven't read the other opinions, there are certainly haired men who advise the opposite. Think of your children. with the difference that the children will comply with another man. If they like it, they can play you like nothing. Your wife has acted super stupid, but now she is a very smart and honest woman. She is very well aware of what she has broken down and wants you to fix your relationship. I don't think it's just about finances, she's thinking about the children's future. Think about whether it would not be best for all of you to get together. Yes, you feel sick, but think about the future. There are no perfect schemes. I haven't read the other opinions, there are certainly haired men who advise the opposite. Think of your children. that it is only a matter of finances, she thinks about the future of children. Think about whether it would not be best for all of you to get together. Yes, you feel sick, but think about the future. There are no perfect schemes. I haven't read the other opinions, there are certainly haired men who advise the opposite. Think of your children. that it is only a matter of finances, she thinks about the future of children. Think about whether it would not be best for all of you to get together. Yes, you feel sick, but think about the future. There are no perfect schemes. I haven't read the other opinions, there are certainly haired men who advise the opposite. Think of your children.
I don't know if you were happy next to her, if not, there's no point in tormenting both of you ... and at this meeting, how did you feel about her when you talked? Was it sincere or did you detect falsehood? If you feel that she has really changed and will be loyal to you, without cracks, give her a chance. Few people know how to forgive such a mistake, it requires a lot of inner strength and love, affection for this person. You need to be ready for this step and when you feel ready, talk to her. If you forgive her, warn her that you are giving her this chance and there will be no third! Also, not only you can give the money for these holidays, after you are two, let her also contribute, albeit with a small, even symbolic amount, it will still be something ... If you will forgive her, talk and discuss the pressing issues and how you could deal with them. In my opinion, give me some time to see if the words overlap with real actions,
It is clear why he does all this. She even admitted it indirectly. First, no one will take her seriously and will only look for quick and easy sex. Second, her standard of living will fall significantly. You were even too generous, leaving her home and taking full care of the children. I basically believe in forgiveness because no one is sinless, but somehow your wife doesn't seem to regret hurting you. She regrets her sweet life.
She uses the children to influence your decision, because you care about them and she knows it, and for her it is no longer a circus that wants to bring you back, but do you want to? It may change, you may not decide in general whether you want to be with her, whether you want to try, and she just uses the children to get to you, because they are for 6 months. have realized that you are no longer a family, it is better not to deceive yourself, because you can forgive in words, but you can believe again? Was it a mistake or now a consolation? Do not engage children with the cause because it is possible to hate women, to create an image that every woman is cheating and this can definitely affect them in the future. I don't think you fight, be nice to each other in front of them, so that they feel good about the rest, Dad and Mom are already used to it, and it's not better, than theaters you are not the perfect family, do not pretend to be - yes children will be happy, but also deluded and you will not be happy, and they will see it as from this will not feel better than scandals or cold feelings. If she is worried about who will take her with two children to give them to you, you just suggested, where is the problem? - since they are not with her, almost no man will have a problem. Will they wrap you up? Here is the fear that she will be left alone without you, that she has lost you, that you will make someone happy, only that she realizes it late if she realizes it at all, which is another matter. If you can, if you want to forgive if you don't, but don't tie yourself to this circus like that with dinners, sleeps, vacations, he wants his old family to resume, to be around you, to be around you and yes, and forgive. You know her, you know what kind of woman she is, what she was like, if she should, if she was worth it, whether you can and whether you want to forgive her. :)
First of all, let me say that I am a woman a little older than you. Secondly, you know the saying - "nice apples pigs eat them". In this case, you are the apple ... And then - it's hard for me to give you advice, but as you describe your ex-wife, she makes a very bad impression on me. So, she got bored of family life, cared for and provided for everywhere, and decided to cheer up. And for a moment she didn't think about whether her behavior would hurt you, I don't want to think how the children felt if (when) they found out that she was playing with foreign men. Then she didn't get along with her lover, and hop back to you. Yes, she realized that if she had to have a serious relationship with another man, he would want children, and they would get her at that age, but not her. Or if the man has children of his own - he will have to take care of them, or at least take them into account. But she won't, she won't get rid of it. Then, she couldn't support herself. If only she had thought about it before throwing herself into the hero's quilt. And impudent - there are requests and expectations for you - to spend a few nights with them, then on Saturday and / or Sunday to walk them, and at sea and abroad to take them ... and still pay . Come on, please. If she had thought of you in time, not now. Also, if you go back to her, how can you be sure she won't get bored again in a year or two. Children grow up, take their own way, less home care and more free time. If you are the type of man who concentrates on work and important things, she will probably get bored again and may fall in love with a guy again. Instead of, say, taking a course to improve his skills and earn a few levs on top. Someone asked you above. " do not allow yourself to "serve" the woman in all directions - have requirements and expectations. And if you decide to move forward alone, maybe with another person - I wish you success and happiness. We live only one life and no one will reward us for the compromises that poison our souls. do not allow yourself to "serve" the woman in all directions - have requirements and expectations. And if you decide to move forward alone, maybe with another person - I wish you success and happiness. We live only one life and no one will reward us for the compromises that poison our souls.
The drowning man grabs a straw, your ex just drowns in the life she has chosen for herself! Your boys know the reason for the separation, what example would you give them if you went back to the person who betrayed you? Be a real man, not a slipper, let her fuck her head, so I hope she understands what she has crushed herself!
Very simple - as she uses you, you can only use her for sex, under the pretext that you are kind and helpful.
What does it mean that she doesn't want you to be with another? Wait a minute. Can someone oblige you to never have another family? That the children, who are already grown up, suffered. I leave aside that you have money. In life, I consciously run away from such (even if it sounds crazy to you), because I do not want to be future-seduced-by-money and the ex of someone-with-money. Put your money aside now and think soberly. Your wife tells you. As described, she does not grieve for you - she grieves for your money. He takes you gently for the children - if it was for them, you have specified that you do everything else except maintenance. Children grieve - I will agree if they are from 2 to 5. One is a naughty thing is puberty, the other child imitates him because he is a small child. She cried, she must be super sick, because now her gas is half her salary and she is ready to play a new movie to take the naive rich man home. And why not have another family one day? That you have no other heirs but these children. It may sound rude, but I'm not saying anything to offend you. And let me tell you that as a rich man, there will be many flatterers, and most likely the biggest one will be in your bed (any of them). We may be poor for you, we may not be able to detect each other, because we do not live in closed complexes, but I have seen a change in the faces of people close to a rich person - how they are hypocritically graying. Keep one thing in mind with people. because we do not live in closed complexes, but I have seen a change in the faces of people close to a rich man - how they gray hypocritically. Keep one thing in mind with people. because we do not live in closed complexes, but I have seen a change in the faces of people close to a rich man - how they gray hypocritically. Keep one thing in mind with people.
She doesn't let go of the branch because she knows she won't find another one. There is only interest, the other is ala-bala. Sell the apartment, take a two-bedroom panel and get it right.
He actually offers you to be married again. If you accept the offer and, even temporarily - like this, for a sample, he will make every effort to attract you back. There is nothing wrong with what you want and what you are ready for. However, the fact that you filed for divorce after realizing the infidelity shows that you cannot easily forgive. If you didn't forgive, what kind of family life would that be?
I believe that one can realize one's mistake and change. Worth a try again. I know you are inspired by the possibility of something new in your life, but single women are not free by chance. Don't expect miracles from the new one.
Throughout this story, children will suffer, and not just financially! They may go astray, they may blame their mother and not accept her as an authority! Does anyone know? Even if she promises everything for the sake of financial gain, still, there is a danger for the children, it can have a very negative effect on them. Um, of course, yes, I know this, why it's something known in advance. I also understand and agree that you have the right to a new life. The stakes, however, are the children! What would you choose, a new life or calm children? !!
Try to give her a second chance. We are people - we are all wrong, I understand that 7 months to break up with another man is not small, but sometimes it is necessary to lose something to appreciate what we had ... I understand her and her how sick she is and how sorry (usually this is how people make final decisions, namely to endanger their lives) ... My advice is to forgive her, live together. Recently, I made the mistake of insulting my closest, soul mate. (I got angry, I couldn't control myself and showed what I shouldn't have. In fact, there was a reason ... Now I just realize how much I miss her and I would do anything to get it back ... Well, things are easier for me, it takes a little time ... So good luck!
The way she offers you to "communicate" will deprive you (and she knows it) of the opportunity to have a new full-fledged relationship. It is your decision.
Независимо от всичко й дай шанс. Всеки бърка в този живот, всеки може да се поправи. Само смъртта в живот не можеш да обърнеш. Остави парите на една страна, остави страховете ти и гнева, обидата. Помисли си какво наистина искаш да направиш в тази ситуация? Какво е истинското ти желание? Очевидно е, че нещо се е пропукало, за да отиде при друг мъж. Очевидно е, че се разкайва искрено. Струва ли си да захвърлите предишното ви щастие и това на децата, заради една грешка. Най-доброто ви лекарство е прошката. Поздравявам те, че се отнасяш все пак уважително спрямо нея. Поварвай обаче че за децата е много трудно. Помисли си дали искаш те да страдат през детството и да растат с разделени родители. Единият от двамата трябва да е по-разумен. За теб мога със сигурност да го кажа, че си. Просто не наранявайте децата покрай грешката и липсата на прошка. За мен тя наистина си е взела поука.
<18> she's going crazy now without going to bed, and guess what will happen if they start going to bed. For sex women a lot. This is a user - the farther the better. The bad thing is that he will use the children to blackmail him. Such women have no qualms about the methods of extortion. It will always go with the trick that it is for the children, and what the money is spent on ... God knows. ; (
The former was the same way .... It wasn't roars, dramas .... I can't say that everything between us has disappeared, but once broken, it's hard to stick together .... My advice is ... .try .... and see what happens. But keep in mind that you will not understand in a week or two. In the beginning she will do everything ... BUT EVERYTHING !!! She was overcome by panic, fear ... If you can't forgive, it doesn't make sense. Everyone has a head on their shoulders and bears the consequences of their actions, be it positive or negative.
She is now one of the two. And her desperate ex is bonded. For some people, just when they are caught in adultery, then they come to their senses. If you go back to her and say, if you catch her with someone else, you won't look at her anymore and you'll only pay alimony at no other cost. And even if you have to, in a few months find a detective to check if she's cheating on you.
Hello, I am also in the process of separation, we are with a child, I have not found infidelity yet, but I doubt it. The woman's attitude towards me is nasty, rude, she looks with self-confidence, but I am also good, I have given everything for the family, many people think that I have better prospects for the future and even relatives do not understand her. My advice is not to deal with her, she slept (not to mention the details) with another 7 months. Now she realizes things and wants you to be together again and help her even more with money. I think she will cheat on you again, it's just that women often act only emotionally and no reason. Watch your life and the children, let her go to that one!
A person begins to appreciate what he had only when he lost it ..... Because I have two divorces behind me, I read your post carefully ..... In fact, according to you, you really do a lot more than what is provided by law - you pay gas, you buy things for the kids ... in your situation I'm not sure I would do it. I would leave her on the alimony set by the court ... to see where the crabs hibernate. You are obviously kind, as long as your worries are well above the minimum. Your case is quite revealing, I would even say classic: a woman knows that she will never reach a decent standard of living on her own, she finds a husband, gives birth to (his) children, (he / she) is on purpose, women are actually those who want children but "sell" it to the man as if they did something for him, giving birth ... then family life follows, when they turn 32-38 and the children are more or less independent, they decide that they lack thrill in family life and start blowing that work around the neighborhood until they are caught ... tears, remorse, promises, etc. follow. Your quite frankly told you her fears, the inte are very real. If you have a new family and children tomorrow, your care for the current ones will hardly be the same, it is normal to concentrate on the new. Believe me, on dating sites at least 80% of women are alone with children and are looking for someone to accept them as children. She has no chance in this "market" and she knows it. Accordingly, he tries to bring you back in every possible way, today you will spend the night there, tomorrow he will put you to bed, etc ... in the hope of reconciling. It's hard to judge, without knowing her, whether her remorse is sincere ... you know her, think .... My favorite Arabic proverb is: Something, what happened once may never happen again ... something that happened twice will inevitably happen a third time. Greetings from DirtyDaddy
Take your life in your hands without her and don't worry, she has now realized that she has lost the golden hen and is making theaters. If the children ask for the rights, they will certainly give it to you, because she has no money to look after them, so if you are worried, will they have enough money to consider this option ... and be careful what kind of woman you will catch after that;)
No, no and no! You made the right decision and brought it to an end without any hesitation. She just didn't believe that you would file for divorce and get it. I think you are a self-respecting person. Don't be attached to her, she wants her old life until next time ... And I don't see how a person like you will regain her trust - there is no way. Cut it off and that's it! g
Your wife does not give you the children, because if she gives them to you - the apartment is in their name and the maintenance stops. She is afraid of not finding another one, because it is obvious that you are giving her more than she deserves - an apartment, maintenance, the children's expenses. If you have another woman, she will immediately feel how your ex-wife grinds you most brazenly and brazenly given the fleeting infidelity of only 7 months, and your wife will drive only on alimony. She complains about the children, but she doesn't give them to you because you will turn off the tap, and she tries to manipulate you through them. She is a very lowly manipulator (as a woman I tell you) - you have to be really stupid to be attached to her - she herself told you that you are kind, so she realizes that you are easy to manipulate. If you agree to her scheme - you will never find a new wife (one of her goals) and she will continue to sharpen you (she needs you for that). There are few balaclavas,
It seems to me that she really realized her mistake and if you give her a chance, I will hardly repeat it. There are people who have even divorced and remarried several times (for the same partner). Infidelity is a grave offense, but I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. If you still love her and miss her family, you can try to forgive her. However, if you feel better now and are looking for a new beginning, you have every right, but tell her clearly. Whatever you choose - do not stop helping her so that your children can live well. Even if you're separated, the idea of weekends and vacations seems reasonable to me, especially since you don't have a new relationship. This way you will not miss the children so much and they will accept your separation more easily. In my opinion, however, it would be very noble to give a chance and save your family (regardless of divorce).
I will tell you this: If you meet another woman and fall in love, she will not enter into such a relationship - you, her and ... your ex! This is the idea of the former, until they "fall in love" again, there is no possibility of another! Control your personal time and space! You can always take the children with you, go on holiday with them, etc. but it no longer has a place in your life. Not as a controlling ....
And conveniently you forgot to read that she offers to cook "and everything else"! This above for misogynists. Now for the author - there is no point in such coexistence, do not agree.
H 38 it was all that was left, to ask him and cook for them hahahahahaha. "Everything else" don't you remember that it includes absolute control hidden under "the worried mother and the guilty woman" ?!
A lot of schemes and systems were allowed by those who commented in front of me. However, I do not understand one author: If you are as perfect as you describe, why did your wife go there to go to another man !!! The fact that the divorce went so smoothly and without problems, you left her a home, you continue to support the children financially, isn't it dictated by your guilt. You will hardly be so generous and generous if you do not feel guilty about them. Aren't you hurt, offended and affected by your wife's infidelity? And how come you didn't feel that something was happening to your wife for 7 months? Where have you been during this time? I think you both hailed each other, but they caught her :)) Whether you should stay with your family should be decided only by you. Not in the name of the children, but only if you still love your wife. There is nothing irreparable, as long as you both want it. I know a family that experienced something like this years ago, they gave themselves a second chance, 7 years later they are happier than ever. Their children have been students for a long time and do not live with them, and they look more cohesive and in love than at a young age. One such thing shakes to the core and one rearranges one's priorities. I fully assume that your ex-wife has realized and will make tireless efforts for you and your family. But the same effort must be on your part. And last but not least, the children will have control from both parents, the male presence in the family is different, especially in the teenage years. And for all those who said that on the free market there is no one to take this woman SPOKO, there are passengers for every train 7 years later, they are happier than ever. Their children have been students for a long time and do not live with them, and they look more cohesive and in love than at a young age. One such thing shakes to the core and one rearranges one's priorities. I fully assume that your ex-wife has realized and will make tireless efforts for you and your family. But the same effort must be on your part. And last but not least, the children will have control from both parents, the male presence in the family is different, especially in the teenage years. And for all those who said that on the free market there is no one to take this woman SPOKO, there are passengers for every train 7 years later, they are happier than ever. Their children have been students for a long time and do not live with them, and they look more cohesive and in love than at a young age. Such a thing shakes to the core and one rearranges one's priorities. I fully assume that your ex-wife has realized and will make tireless efforts for you and your family. But the same effort must be on your part. And last but not least, the children will have control from both parents, the male presence in the family is different, especially in the teenage years. And for all those who said that on the free market there is no one to take this woman SPOKO, there are passengers for every train Such a thing shakes to the core and one rearranges one's priorities. I fully assume that your ex-wife has realized and will make tireless efforts for you and your family. But the same effort must be on your part. And last but not least, the children will have control from both parents, the male presence in the family is different, especially in the teenage years. And for all those who said that on the free market there is no one to take this woman SPOKO, there are passengers for every train One such thing shakes to the core and one rearranges one's priorities. I fully assume that your ex-wife has realized and will make tireless efforts for you and your family. But the same effort must be on your part. And last but not least, the children will have control from both parents, the male presence in the family is different, especially in the teenage years. And for all those who said that on the free market there is no one to take this woman SPOKO, there are passengers for every train
And where is her lover? He seemed to be married. Did his wife know about your relationship with your wife? If her lover divorces too, take. Or take your children. As she put your horns and groaned under another, where her mind was. Oh, no forgiveness. Every evil for good people have said.
My mother gave me a piece of advice that I think I should follow: "You have given birth to as many children as you will know that if something happens to your husband - divorce or die, you will be able to look after yourself." At 38 she remains a single mother, does not receive 1 lev support. She looked at me and studied on her own. I don't remember her ever crying for my father, or crying that we live in poverty - because to study me we lived in poverty. 1 tear has not been shed for her situation or lack of any personal life. He just struggled, worked hard.
The situation is quite specific and I am in your place, although I am a woman I would not rush to answer. I would give myself at least 1 year to think and most of all to ask my heart ... Ask yourself, do you love her? Only you know the answer! Success! Me
39, aha. But obviously you missed that too! "She offers me her cooperation in every way. I could count on her in everything (my God, while we were married she didn't tell me that)."
She panicked. She is right that no one will take her with 2 children anymore, and you will easily find another woman. Female infidelity is not as harmless as male infidelity, because the worst thing about male infidelity is getting a sexually transmitted disease, while female infidelity can bring a foreign child into the family. How are you sure now that both children are from you? My advice is to pay her only the alimony, without other expenses and to look for a new wife and start a new family. There is no way to change a woman - not to be a 5-year-old child. Now she is desperate and ready to do anything to keep you, but when you return, she will calm down and find a new lover. Still, there was a reason to look for a lover. Notice that hers wasn't sex all at once, and she cheated on you for months. It's time to start a new page in your life. Get a new apartment,
You divorced quickly, guided by your ego, as your colleagues told you above. She thinks about your children, the financial part is not everything. If the boys know the reason for the divorce, she will never have authority over them. Children will suffer the most from everything, the big one as soon as she enters puberty and answers, it is clear where she is going. Men think that letting your ex suffer is a big deal, and that's how you torture your children. What child wants his parents to suffer and is happy to see them like that? Author, it's easiest to divorce and blame her for infidelity. But that's not the end of the world, the children stay and she will always be their mother. Give yourself time, I think she is sincere
Author, I tried as a woman to get into your wife's situation, but some things about you also bother me a lot. I think in the first place I think you need to clarify for yourself what you want before you act. If you really feel good alone, you are relieved that the whole story is over and you are ready to move on with your life, including looking for a new partner, then what a woman offers is an extremely toxic and destructive form of relationship for you. There is no way to have a healthy and normal relationship with a literate woman if you soak your ex 5 days a week and run on her ass. I think she uses her concern for the children's well-being in a very dirty way to influence you. From what you describe she is not only stupid, but also quite impudent. To show her real face, I suggest you tell her directly, that you will be happy to take your children on vacations and outings, but without her or suggest that you have found a girlfriend and want to introduce her to the children so that they get used to it - do it and watch seir. Her proposal is rather obsessive and frankly impudent, and I am disturbed by the following words: "She clearly admitted to me that she was most afraid of not starting another family and forgetting about it with the children. Women would easily wrap me up, like they see me how good I am, etc. "Author, she tells you in plain text that she still considers you a fool !!! Kind of, you're so naive that it's clear that the first fox will wrap you up and take your money, at least instead of being another to make sure it will be her. I'll cook for him two or three evenings, I'll go to bed with him, I'll pamper him and court him, and he'll go back to his cage ... I don't think that this way of thinking is a solid basis for coexistence. I do not want to judge anyone for infidelity, because one does not know what can come to his head - what happened, what happened. But the fact that she decided to continue and kept a secret for 7 months ??? With what face she came home and played theater - and also the whole theater now - she is an adult, let her have at least a little dignity and bear the consequences of her actions instead of shaking and experiencing herself as a victim. It seems to me that she thinks terribly superficially and immaturely - I was shocked that she offered you to cheat on her with as many women as you want to be even. Does she really think that this compensates for all the betrayed trust and everything can be as before - extremely immature and naive for a woman her age. Putting all that aside, if what you want is to get your family back, then the relationship she offers you is exactly the way to do it smoothly, slowly and stress-free. The question is whether you can forgive and forget and move on - you decide.
Strange question, how did the husband not feel for seven months? And his wife? How did she not feel for seven months, what was she actually doing? Personally, I find it very ugly for married women to get married to married men and vice versa, and to consider it a plus. In my opinion, he should take the boys and put her on the open market. Isn't that what she really wanted? And here the problem is that the lover is also married. I know a young family with two children, his wife always grumbles and is dissatisfied, and I was very surprised when she shared most unceremoniously that her husband did not satisfy her and that she was better off with another. Yes, but I remember straining him for money before they got married. Why didn't he strain the other, the better one? Or why didn't the "better" marry her? Interest shakes the fez, who understands it. I knock on wood, I don't know anything else.
You sound like a reasonable and good person. You have already answered the question yourself and I do not believe that anyone here will tell you something new, or change your look so much. She's honored to have been honest with you, really. But she just pointed out facts that are obvious, at least to most men. The essence of all this melodrama is - Everything she does and offers now is only to ensure her personal existence and future. She doesn't care so much about you and the children, although she already uses them skillfully against you. Never forget that. If she had been younger, she would not have been so diplomatic and compromising. Now she has clearly realized that nothing good is waiting for her without you and from now on things will only get worse for her personally. Of course, the children will miss you. But you can always think of ways to keep your relationship with them alive. She was the one who had to realize all these complications, for so many people, while she was rocking with someone behind your back. And not once or twice, these are 7 months of systematic side fucking. And with a married man. And did she put herself in the place of that woman's wife, let me just ask? Hardly. She has made a great assessment of the risk and has decided that all these problems that you all have now are justified. Apparently he was quite "good". Or she was in "serious need." Of course, this no longer concerns you. And you shouldn't. Whatever problems you had until then, he had to talk to you openly before spreading his legs sideways. Most men like to show themselves as "good". Whether because of their principles, whether because of the children, whether because of the "public opinion tax". They often later realize that in return for their dedication, they have received a knife in the back. It hurts the most from lost trust. And it hurts even more when they did it systematically, and behind your back. With all these little specifics along with her actions, your forgiveness would be a mistake. For everyone but her.
Up to 40. Extremely superficial comment, obviously you are a woman who is cheating or some guy. How can you draw a conclusion about a person you don't know. Don't be a psychic. Child support is a responsibility and an obligation, it is not dictated by generosity, guilty conscience or guilt towards the mother. How did you judge that the author also cheated? Someone else is to blame for the infidels! How did he not find out in 7 months that his wife was cheating on him? Is there any methodology for catching infidels in the first month? !! In your opinion, the author must have kicked the mother and children out on the street because he was injured. Strange logic! F 45
<40> - Precisely because she found a good man, she decided to break up. If he knew he was going to break her head, he wouldn't dare stick his nose out of the family. Some women (as well as some men) can't have one. - she was married and thought she was "tied in a towel". Now he emphasizes promises, but we in BG have heard promises - choose us and we promise. that .... when they choose them and immediately forget. I'm sure she will forget if she takes a warm stay with him again;)
I am a woman. Married, with (thank God) a happy marriage. I understand her as a mother who was afraid that she had lost control after a blunder. You can't fix an idea on your own ... and that's so normal. It will sort itself out in time. This fear now dictates her proposals. But ... of all that she has proposed, I approve of only one thing: try not to traumatize the separation for the children. Consult a psychologist about this. Spraying money on holidays is hardly a solution. but you really need to think in the direction of reducing trauma with the little ones. That's it. Good luck with the new beginning