Hello. I am a boy of 20 and I am from Sofia. I turn to you to ask you what you think about it, especially to the ladies, but men can also share an interesting subtlety. :) How would you advise men in the category of "boring"? Those who do not know how to talk fun, still do not have topics to talk to girls? I'm from this group, I'm quite anxious, I try to like girls in different ways, but I always hit a rock at a certain moment ... My friends have advised me, when I like a girl, not to try to pretend to be funny or original, but just to be nice to her. I have tried this option as well, but thus showing intention to a lady, I make her embarrassed and withdraw ... I have a lot of hobbies, I have done a lot of things, but I still can't choose what and how to tell as an experience ... And somehow I can't remember what questions to ask and how to have conversations with the girls. I don't rule out calling me a traffic jam, but anyway ... I'm wandering confused, because I can't enchant with fairy tales and funny stories, nor do I have the courage to drive more directly in romance, although in the latter case I also have to I can have long conversations. I guess you know it's not nice to feel different. I have quite unpleasant memories of failures with girls. Apparently I missed something like a social experience, which is now a barrier for me. I need help - I haven't had a girlfriend so far, and I think that's out of the question. :( because I can neither enchant with tales and funny stories, nor do I have the courage to drive more directly into romance, although in the latter case I must also be able to have long conversations. I guess you know it's not nice to feel different. I have quite unpleasant memories of failures with girls. Apparently I missed something like a social experience, which is now a barrier for me. I need help - I haven't had a girlfriend so far, and I think that's out of the question. :( because I can neither enchant with tales and funny stories, nor do I have the courage to drive more directly into romance, although in the latter case I must also be able to have long conversations. I guess you know it's not nice to be different. I have quite unpleasant memories of failures with girls. Apparently I missed something like a social experience, which is now a barrier for me. I need help - I haven't had a girlfriend so far, and I think that's out of the question. :( and this, in my opinion, is already out of the norm. :( and this, in my opinion, is already out of the norm. :(
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Don't try to pretend you aren't. Be yourself, this will win the right girl, because she will like you for yourself. Don't worry, life is in front of you.
Download the criteria.
A virgin? Get rid of your virginity because it makes you insecure in your dealings with women. Look for contact online - usually people like you relax, but the virgin man is visible for miles by the behavior that you described very well. One sexual intercourse will not change your life - a mistake. You subconsciously feel some fear of the woman, the woman as a mother or a sister, but not the woman as a sexual object.
From the author: Thank you for the quick response. To number 2 - your logic is correct, but in general I don't even know what criteria I have ... I'm so confused. And to number 3 - will what you tell me be true? I ask because it seems quite a small action at first glance ... Does this automatically change the behavior?
Don't pretend to be a joker, if it doesn't come from inside you, it will show. You say that you have different interests - talk about them, getting involved in a topic that is close to your heart, you should relax. For questions - try to look for common interests or if you get the impression that she is interested in something - ask her about it. Be nice, but don't run on their asses and don't let them use you.
What social experience haunts you .. your only barrier is that you think a lot .. If a girl likes you, she'll like you because of you, she's congested, uncluttered. And that sounds super dumb. have no topics to talk about with the girls? "So instead of thinking about how to impress her, just be yourself, and if it's your girl, she'll appreciate it, if not, please come on. And as long as he despairs. Good luck and drive it more calmly !!
Author, my advice is, be yourself! Believe me, I have come across those who know how to download, speak kindly, pleasantly, jokes that make you dizzy, but they are artificial, they do it for a specific purpose and sooner or later it becomes apparent and a catastrophe occurs. So drive it more calmly and as others tell you, what is for you will come :)))
Heeeeeey calm. Wow, cuties like you are disappearing! And a virgin! How come they haven't eaten so far? !!? Tip number 3 is just absurd! It is obvious that a man wrote it ... Sex and sex, of course. Well, for your information, some girls are looking for virgin boys. Because honestly, it's not cool at all to understand that your boyfriend has passed 10-15 girls ... I personally find it unpleasant to imagine him touching and kissing another. I feel really bad imagining that he wanted another and thought of another ... Therefore, Author, don't listen to number 3. I have been without a friend for a long time and there is nothing abnormal in that. My advice is to play sports. Go to the gym, there are girls there; run in the park - and there it is. It is fascinating to see a man reading a book. Take a book and go to the park, for example. Sit still and read a little. Learn exercise and recharge with positive energy and you will see how things will go. :) And when you talk to a girl, take some advice from me - look her straight in the eye, listen to her, ask her! (if she tells you something, for example, start asking her in detail, take an interest in her, show her that you find it interesting and pleasant to be in her company) but don't be impudent, you will understand if she doesn't want to say too much. Be natural - be yourself. If you try to make fun of it, you will only repel it. Find out what draws her - for example, I have a passion for weapons, martial arts, adventure, the extreme - and show some knowledge (if you immediately join with the name of a gun, for example, you will immediately win me over). Don't be too sweet-spoken and don't drool over her - it makes sense not to shake her and not to smile at her all the time. Make physical contact. If she is pleased, you will understand - she will smile or get closer. Give her emotional support! Show her that you are a person in place and who can be relied on. Gain her trust. This is done with perseverance. But be careful not to send her to the friend zone, because then it's bad: D You will prevent this by showing her that you have other intentions towards her. And now to give an example - when you part, shorten the distance by embracing it instead of shaking hands. A nice, tender and warm hug is able to melt my half-frozen heart right now. :) Stroke her hair while you hug. If you are taller than her, even better. Caress her ear if she puts her head on your chest. I personally love to have a hand pressed to my ear. This makes me feel calm, I feel safe, I am warm and cozy. And what girl wouldn't want that? : )) Invite her to meetings, want to go out, but don't be cheeky. Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And so little by little I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) want to go out, but don't be impudent. Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And so little by little I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) want to go out, but don't be impudent. Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And little by little, I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) but don't be cheeky. Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And little by little, I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) but don't be cheeky. Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And little by little, I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And so little by little I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) Once or twice and then you can leave things to her - she will call you and ask you to leave. And little by little, I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) And little by little, I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) And little by little, I hope things work out. Not all girls are blind: D. There will always be someone to notice you. And remember something else that is very, very important! Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) Keep excellent personal hygiene! It's awful when a man walks past me and stinks of sweat, and when I look closely I see protruding hair, dirty clothes, etc. I think I get it. :)) Go outside bathed and clean. You can buy perfume, but not from those that smell disgustingly strong of geranium! A boy was so upset that I suffocated. There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :) There was a laugh: D Light, masculine perfume, enough to bring a pleasant freshness after you. Well, I can't think of anything else at the moment. If I come up with something, I'll write again. :) Come on success! :)
There's a fun trick that can work - not knowing what to say about yourself - pretend you're interested in her - where she lives, what she does, whether she has any hobbies, what she likes to do, etc. a woman, and I think a man who is bored talking about himself. Just in the end it doesn't turn out that you're bored;)
From the author: Thanks for the shared opinion! It's nice when someone shows compassion and helps! There's something else I haven't clarified. It's about the fact that I always try to be myself, but it still turns out to be inappropriate - it's not for anything else, but just like myself, I'm "boring" ... I'm looking for something to say, topics of conversation, but the head I feel like it's empty ... I do sports, mainly for health, but there was also a more active period when I spent more time training and when I participated in competitions. Now I have to do it less often because of classes - after all, it's not like in school and the reading material is not small. :) Otherwise, it got interesting here in the dispute between number 3 and number 8 ...: D And it happened to me that I was super uncomfortable to know when the girl I like had a pretty serious number behind her you are ... Is my point of view more unusual? Do I have to think differently? If so, how do I achieve it?
From 9. I don't think your point of view is unusual. On the contrary, it is the most common. There is no point in changing it. It depends on what you mean by different thinking ... Some people think that the more "poisoned" it is, the better. Others - the less the girl was, the better. I know ... I fall into the second group - the fewer girls he was with, the better. But he was already 5 and images started coming to my head of how he touched them, how they influenced him, how he wanted them ... And I feel uncomfortable. It is.