Hello ... I'm a girl of 16 .. I keep notes in one of my personal notebooks .. Which no one had found, I left it in a secret place where no one can remember that there is something. However, last Friday I took it so that I could write in class, as I'm bored .. I wrote ... After I got home I left my bag and went outside .. I completely ruled out that the notebook is in my bag and I can easily to get her. I had gone to my other city, where my mother lives .. Because I study with my father in another city ... My father picked up this notebook and read everything that is written in it .. From there he realized that I am not a virgin. On Saturday morning, she called my mother and told her, "She's rubbish!" .. '' Do you know your daughter is not a virgin? '' .. My mother replied with the words '' just because I know it's NOT doesn't mean that I should have told you .. '' .. But anyway ... Now I'm wondering how to deal with my father, we haven't talked since Friday .. and I'm really sick. We behave like strangers .. :(
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Look, I don't think there's anything to apologize for. He has violated your privacy by reading your diary and secondly - YOU ARE NOT PREGNANT. Trust your mother. When you see your father, don't make excuses and explain, but simply and clearly say to yourself, "Yes, Dad, I'm not a virgin, but that doesn't make me a less quality person, less your daughter. I did not come with a bloated stomach and I think that I have justified your trust by protecting myself, I am reasonable and responsible for my body and I am not ashamed of you as parents. I am 16 years old and I am no longer a baby, but I love you like a father. "He'll scream, he'll scream and he'll stop - I think you're slapped and it's not about you at all (otherwise he would have called or blamed you when you got home). Your father just wants to make your mother a bad parent. Don't interfere. Finally, tell him, "Or I accept you, or you go to your mother ”point If for him you are a virgin more valuable, ladies to look for a virgin daughter -) In my opinion, it was a shock for him to understand that you are no longer a baby, but a big woman. Don't give up sex if you have a regular boyfriend, but don't embarrass your parents. Beware of condoms and you have no problem! ... it is possible that your father is jealous of you .... and of course, but it will pass when he finally realizes that you are not his wife, but his daughter and that there will be other men in your life
Perhaps for the first time your father realized that his little girl had already become a woman. Understand that it is not easy for him, give him some time :)
I agree with the opinion of number 1 and number 2 :) Go and hug him, tell him what you mentioned number 1 and everything will be fine.
I don't think you should apologize. He did bad things by reading the notebook. Not to mention that making a drama out of not being a virgin is also a very bad thing to do. I have a daughter too, but I will never give her personal belongings. I can only do it if I have really serious reasons - if I doubt I'm shaking or something. But even then, I won't say, "Why are you like that" or "Why did you do that?" I will act as if I know nothing or if necessary (for example for drugs), I will approach in a different way. Maybe he's naughty because he realizes you're not his little girl anymore, but that definitely doesn't excuse him, and the problem is his. He's not doing anything right now, just wait for it to pass and everything will be OK. It's not a big deal, calm down, I'm telling you like a girl's father.
Oh, oh, I'm done! How could I fix my relationship with my father ?! Well, buy him a beer, make him a salad, play his favorite movie or game and sit down to talk like adults now! Notebooks, a secret place ... childhood! And what if you're not a virgin? Haven't you made a mess so far? What does your father expect - to marry a virgin maybe ?! We live in the 21st century, not in the 16th ... And if you want to scratch yourself so much - make a hidden blog on the Internet. Your father is hardly so competent and so hacked to find him. You will not forget it in the bag, you will not hide it in various "hidden" places.
Your father is a loser, a pretty nasty trick. I don't think he dug into your stuff just to find what to argue about with your mother. You are not guilty and drive as before. Wait for him to take a step.
It's his fault, not yours! After all, he has violated his privacy!