I think I'm missing something ... what do women want from a relationship ?? I do my best to make sure everything is fine and the next moment I feel indifferent. When I decide to stop everything, the indifference disappears ... for a few days everything is fine and then again!?! Do I have to feel used? ... (I don't know ... it's like having a car you're used to. The next moment it breaks down and then you feel how naughty it is to walk). What can I do to not sit as a "background" because that's how I feel.
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Hah or you are with the wrong one or you don't give what you need but in the end why only you give one relationship is made by two people and as advice I will tell you that you are just not with the right one
It doesn't matter what you are, if there are no mutual feelings on the other side .... I speak on my own behalf, I just want understanding and attention. I want when I say that I feel bad not to answer me with "What can I do for you" when I feel scared to have someone to hug me ... It's attention and understanding ... so simple and so complicated to get ...
And would you share how old you are?
Let's stop dividing people into "men" and "women" for a moment, and think about what a MAN is looking for in a relationship (whether he realizes it or not). In general, the family (or love couple) is the simplest form of social organization (also called the "cell of society"). Once there is an ORGANIZATION, it in itself assumes that the two as a couple represent something (qualitative) more than the two separately. Ie 2 in this case is much more than 1 + 1. Just as the cells in the human body form something much more than just a cluster of (same number) cells. Because both partners are already capable of COORDINATED ACTION, a very simple and elementary but sufficiently illustrative example of which is shopping in a large hypermarket, when one is waiting in the long queue, while the other is shopping for both - as a result the whole "operation" takes much less time than if only one went to market ... This is, in general, the goal of the "big game" - everyone to break their ego, to open for the other to merge with it, and both to form something much more than "1 + 1". This, of course, is sometimes associated with some inconveniences, trade-offs and limitations, but in the end the "profit" is for all members of the "organization". It's the same when it comes to raising and educating children, it's the same when one builds a successful career and the other helps him ... then they can exchange "roles". It's from a pragmatic point of view, look from a romantic one ... everyone can expect what they want, but in the end, the rule also applies,
Thank you all for your attention. I am 26 years old and I have not divided people into men and women for a long time. I find that I have been giving for 10 years ... and what? People around me take advantage of this. I can't understand why I keep doing this. I know when to hug a girl .... but I know that if I'm the one in a row who does it it won't matter to her ....
By "giving" I mean "giving without expecting anything in return" - give for the sake of giving and let this one make you happy, not whether you will receive something and what ... If you are positive, if you start loving others unconditionally, without wanting and expecting from them - then you will surely start attracting people LIKE your new thinking. It is not easy to achieve, but do not give up! Only the one who gives sincerely and unreservedly is really happy (candidates for taking will always be found ...) I think that Vadim Zeland's books would be very useful for you.
I understand what you're talking about. There is a song "The ability to love" in the box ...... it's a pity that the lyrics of the song are different from the reality I see. It will take me a long time to accept it. The problem is that I have recently realized what you are telling me and it is difficult for me to realize it. The question "HOW" always comes to mind. I know that everything depends on the inner attitude. I am currently unable to read books. I can't remember ... make sense of what I've read. My head is a storm of thoughts and questions that are hard to find. I started this topic in the hope that I would solve a problem that would give me the courage to move on .....
Instead of looking for the answers here, talk to your chick ... she probably took you for granted and for that you sit only for "background" you can irritate her a little, be unavailable, go out with friends, don't please her for everything, let to feel a little in your place ... :) good luck
TO THE AUTHOR: I was the one who asked you about the years. I can be your mother, I have great life experience and vision in things for the young generation. In my opinion, you are a hell of an educated and good boy, and the Chalgadzhi girls will not understand and APPRECIATE you. Unfortunately ... only they USE. My advice would be: Don't commit to them, Ah, judge them well. Don't let them spend your money !!! You will always find the right girl for you. JUST DON'T HURRY! Regards: ROSI ROS