Hello. I wonder how you distinguish the temporary from the great love. Do you think that the great one exists at all and can she be a person with whom you spent some time, but you do not stop thinking about each other. At least I don't stop thinking about a man who came into my life by accident. It had never happened to me before. Soon there was a topic about a woman who can't forget a 14-year-old man. Eee, I'm only 1 year old, but I don't stop thinking about this person, so suddenly or with a song or a place I'm in. Everything emerges as an emotion and stiffens me and makes me shiver, I get chills, and I'm not one of the most sensitive people I would say. But he can only get me into this state. / I am 26 and it has not happened to me so far /. The truth is, I broke up with him twice because of some factors, which are quite respectful and I don't want to mention them. I know he was dying for me, he couldn't imagine passing a day without saying good morning and good night without hearing me. All I know is that we looked for each other again and again and it seemed like there was no difference and we continued for a short time because of these obstacles.
Maybe I was impatient. I do not know. He had written to me "I miss you" and after 4 months not a word or news from this man. Now another 8 months have passed in which I don't know how he is, what he is doing. He is not active on Facebook, otherwise I would look like that to know that he is fine. I would like to write to him. Not that I own it, I want to know how it is, is it good, is it happy and just tell me something ... related to our common things we had as a hobby. We are divided by many things, a fact. It's been a long time and he probably doesn't think about me, so it would be complete nonsense to write to him. But it eats me up. And if he, like me, often thinks of me and thinks the same way. I wouldn't do it first, because it hurt me a lot last time. I experienced it hard. I walked sick for two months. But that doesn't give me peace - if he thinks of me too. He had told me before when we had some communication, "do you know I was right next to your job yesterday," and I "why didn't you come see me?" And he ... "I thought you wouldn't want to see me." What if he thinks of me now and thinks exactly that I don't want him to? Or maybe I'm just a good memory in his story. Do you believe that such things exist. Two people to think about each other. I don't believe in romantic nonsense and movies blah blah blah .... I want real things ... Is there this love, to know that you can't be with him, but to shudder at the thought of him, from the memory and still be realistic and just one conversation for 5 minutes twice a year? Not that it's enough for me, but it's better that way than not to see and hear it all my life ... Maybe I should leave things to time. If he decides he will bring us together .... What do you think?
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I didn't read the story to you. In my opinion, you are the pretense and you circumcise men for nonsense. Go to him. He hurt her. Do you know how they hurt me? And I fight again. And you put your nose back and just grumble. Maybe it's the love of your life, time will tell. I think you are extremely suspicious.
Do you think that when you make plans, something will happen as you imagined it? We can only guess if he thinks of you. You are attached to this man. I am sad about this story, because I also have a hard time with the sections with people I like. Somehow I want them around me. I don't know the thought of talking to your man to stay friends, and the other option is to forget him and move on. Although it is difficult to forget the person who attracts you, you have to fall in love again to forget him. I think there is more to learn from this relationship.
I think some people can think of someone for 40, 50 years and die of disease or old age.
Write him. He still misses you, but he thinks you don't want him ...
For me, there is no "big" or "temporary" love. It's either love or it's not. At least I think so. Love is when you sincerely love someone, wish them well with all your soul, you want to be with them all your life. You know that without him you will suffer and cry a lot, but you still take risks and let your feelings rule you. You love it without fear and without thinking about the consequences. And it makes you happiest to see that he is happy. This is love for me. Girl, if you miss him so much, write him a "hello". Don't expect to find the perfect man, there are none. Think about whether he really hurt you so unforgivably. If nothing else, at least you can be friends.
Each relationship has stages of development. In the first place is physics - appearance and sex ... someone does not reach the second - reasoning and thought, let alone the third - whether what the person says against you corresponds to the truth - whether he really behaves like that ... and only in fourth place family, children, etc., if the first three positions meet the preset parameters (how mathematical it sounds). The perfect option is for everything to match our preliminary views. In the family, however, there are also discrepancies that are due to the mental resilience of the partner. And then the discrepancies occur ... the memories of "The Great Love". You create a family, children are born, they grow and everyday life grows. One of the two or both "smoke" .... lovers, scandals, lack of money, discrepancy between imagination and reality ... and hop, the memories of "Big Love" arise, which essentially has nothing to do with our real life, because, She "Big Love" did not end with a family, children, etc .. Women (without summarizing), unlike men, create a family not with "Great Love", but with the one who can provide maximum security in their family life - Lovers a lot ... the husband is one! - as cynical as it sounds. In your case, this is not your man. The fact that you spent a certain period of time and it was good for you does not mean that it was good for him as well. It's just that your mind is occupied with the thought of Him and for a long time you will not allow Another to take his place, which in your case is disastrous !!! which essentially has nothing to do with our real life, because, She "Great Love" did not end with a family, children, etc .. Women (without summarizing), unlike men, create a family not with "Great Love" ", and with the one who can i5m provide maximum security in their family life- Lovers a lot ... the husband is one! - as cynical as it sounds. In your case, this is not your man. The fact that you spent a certain period of time and it was good for you does not mean that it was good for him as well. It's just that your mind is occupied with the thought of Him and for a long time you will not allow Another to take his place, which in your case is disastrous !!! which essentially has nothing to do with our real life, because, She "Great Love" did not end with a family, children, etc .. Women (without summarizing), unlike men, create a family not with "Great Love" ", and with the one who can i5m provide maximum security in their family life- Lovers a lot ... the husband is one! - as cynical as it sounds. In your case, this is not your man. The fact that you spent a certain period of time and it was good for you does not mean that it was good for him as well. It's just that your mind is occupied with the thought of Him and for a long time you will not allow Another to take his place, which in your case is disastrous !!! create a family not with "Great Love", but with the one who can provide maximum security in their family life - Lovers a lot ... the husband is one! - as cynical as it sounds. In your case, this is not your man. The fact that you spent a certain period of time and it was good for you does not mean that it was good for him as well. It's just that your mind is occupied with the thought of Him and for a long time you will not allow Another to take his place, which in your case is disastrous !!! create a family not with "Great Love", but with the one who can provide maximum security in their family life - Lovers a lot ... the husband is one! - as cynical as it sounds. In your case, this is not your man. The fact that you spent a certain period of time and it was good for you does not mean that it was good for him as well. It's just that your mind is occupied with the thought of Him and for a long time you will not allow Another to take his place, which in your case is disastrous !!!