What do you think about frivolous relationships. I am a participant in such, the man never lied to me, he told me in the beginning that there would be nothing serious, but years passed, he loved me, at least he said that he loved and respected me. Somehow I tried to overcome this, but it turned out that during all the years we were together there was always some other, or at least from time to time, parallel relationships, sex for one night, he finally told me-I told you we don't have a serious relationship, we did not promise to be unfaithful , you can't help but be faithful, it remains just a pervert. I think I'm done with him, a guy who can't just be with me, has no place next to me. Share your opinion, but I'm tired of fake people, just to mention that we don't go out anywhere, we only see each other at home, often and he wants money on loan .. the answer seems clear to everyone, I'm even late, I had to leave the first time as I realized that there is another ... nothing, I will manage in spite of everything and everyone, and he is the one who has something to lose. It's really hard for someone to tell you that he loves you and sleep with other women, how to believe in people later ... how ...
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You contradict yourself a bit, how come he first told you that it wouldn't be a serious relationship, and then you said - "what normal person promises fidelity at the beginning of a relationship"? Apparently he only wanted sex. He didn't fall in love at all, he obviously pretended. One has such periods when such connections are needed. The question is in what period and what do you want? Just because he told you he loves you doesn't mean he doesn't love another. You can promise more than one person.
You may be done with him, but is he done with you? Such men do not like to be abandoned. I don't understand №1 how two people can love at the same time. In order to look at another, you have to be true to the previous one? Author, run away from such, they didn't promise you anything, alas.
Do you think this type of man has a problem from the past, maybe they were hurt, or hurt, or abandoned, they were cheated on? And is there anyone at all who does not want to be loved, and what normal person wants to be lied to and not be the only one?
... I share the opinion of 1 ... in a frivolous relationship, as you call it .... there is no place for love, money, explanations, expectations, etc ... the only thing that should be present in it is the attraction between the two .... and such a relationship in my opinion is for serious people who are aware of themselves have a holy life and do not rely on the other to make sense of it ... the other just complements .... and your relationship whether frivolous or not I know, but he's with a terribly frivolous and irresponsible man ... ZARA
Wondering when he said "I love you" was not just a memorized phrase, words you expected to hear at that moment. I don't see how you can be disappointed in a frivolous relationship? It's like ordering tea at a restaurant and then shouting to the waiter why he's bringing me tea and not vodka. In a frivolous relationship you have no right to expectations, I guess you knew it in advance. Nothing bothers you once you decide to stop but you have no right to be angry.
What do you think, in a frivolous relationship, which means that there is only sex and nothing else, ie you are in this relationship for sex, does this include sex with other men and women, if in this frivolous relationship sex is not ok , why don't you tell the man you're having sex with him, but you're also seeing other people for sex, isn't that perverted? In my opinion, frivolous relationships are about sex without commitment, but sex only with this person, I do not accept sex indiscriminately with different people.
Our case is the same. Now I am gathering strength to leave him - strength, I mean financial ones. To see what to do with the children. We started "lightly", the two of us came out of difficult and long-term relationships. We promised not to promise ourselves anything. Then things got worse, then we got pissed. After a period of alienation, something happened, I don't know how we fell in love again. I realized that there were others. As if once, as if once, then twice, then he was not spoken to. I was left with a wet rag - I expected everything, but that's all, no. It didn't matter to him, it was different, we would be both. Yes but no. I don't feel that way. I both miss sex and I don't like it, I don't know what to do. I don't feel dry either - not that this is the most important problem, but it is a problem. I'm not a breaker and I'm not even 25. I don't know what to do, and the pain is more than terrible. If I was young, I would leave immediately. My parents died and I have nowhere to go, I have nothing left of them. I have children. The apartment is not mine. If you can - do it. Now I know what I want - a really frivolous relationship, with regular sex and nothing engaging. I am with us - he is with them, someone else, not my husband.
In the beginning you understood that the relationship would be "frivolous" and you had to think even then whether this type of relationship would be ok for you. I have a friend who used to be wondering whether to deal with a married man or not ... I advised her not to start anything, because then it would hurt her. But of course he didn't listen to me ... now that we see each other, the only thing he does is complain that she's in second place and his wife in first. I immediately scolded her with the words "you have no right to be angry with him, you have chosen this position - you will bear the consequences". So do you ... you understood from the very beginning how things would be and if you thought enough, it will be clear to you that there will be others in his life besides you - either for the evening or for more. You had a choice - you made it. Now you have no right to complain, nor are you sorry. And yes, maybe the man in question was hurt ... and I have a bitter experience with such an injured man, but I thought about it and interrupted things in time, because I knew that in the end I would be in pain, not him. Again, we rely on the choice ... who did it in the end. Doriana
I think they are not serious: D
In my opinion, frivolous relationships do not portend any commitments. If it is a relationship, it still has some mental and emotional connection, but it does not oblige you to the other. I had this type of relationship and the boy (now a man) and I remained good friends after we decided to end the sex meetings. It is not true that the author's lover told her that he loved her. Mine said he loved sex with me, that he loved something in me, but not that he loved me as a whole, as a person. So I followed his example, because until then such relationships were foreign to me. He slept with others while we were in this relationship, I did too. The thing is, a frivolous relationship is really just about sex, but that doesn't mean that when you feel physically attracted to another person, you have to ignore it. No one knows what obligations in a frivolous relationship! It can be interrupted at any time, for any reason, and you don't even have to explain why you're doing it. The end of this relationship should not create a problem for the other, that is, it should not hurt him. Either side must expect it and be aware that it will one day end for one reason or another. If someone gets into a frivolous relationship with the thought that it can become serious, it's bad. In my opinion, one enters into this with nothing more than the expectation of sexual gratification and pleasant experiences only in this direction. I also don't know how good it is to try to make friends during a frivolous relationship. It seems to me that if the two start talking more about themselves, sharing, getting to know each other on a more physical level, then surely at least one will fall in love. There were no such things with me. Not that we were completely like strangers, but we knew each other superficially - who does what, what families we are in, who lives where, we had an idea of each other's friends, hobbies and things like that, but we didn't dig deep until we did not end sex.
Mother's sons are never ready for a serious commitment. Even after the age of 40, they do not have enough independence and responsibility to take care of another person. They look for reasons and excuses to knock something out by the way, but when it comes to feelings, they run away. This type of "men" find it difficult to find work and almost never form a serious relationship. As much as their vision and matchmaking behavior shout "I'm a man!", There is nothing masculine in their behavior. As the people said, "Pussy is not just a female genitalia, it is a type of male character."