What Do You Think?-riverjazzy

   I think the problem is in your thoughts, not in people's. Why do you think that the money of these families is in the man, and he distributes the expenses only because he goes to work? Every family has the same responsibilities, for example to earn an income, to pay attention to the children, to walk around the house, to cook, to fix documents, to go to pay bills and taxes to hang at the counters, to go to shops for food, clothes, shoes, to go to a tailor to repair clothes, to go to a car mechanic for the car, etc. Therefore, each family decides which duties which of them to perform. There are families who share their responsibilities in half and everyone earns an income and each of them walks, cooks and shops, there are families who share their responsibilities so that they are comfortable and enjoyable. Well I'm one of those women who " let alone go to a parent-teacher meeting or sit down to decide at home. When he comes home, he is my king, and I am his queen, all the housework is done, enough attention is paid to the children and they are in their rooms and the time is only ours, we go for walks or cuddle on the couch in front of a nice movie with a bowl. popcorn. We have simply shared our responsibilities, as we have been comfortable and pleased for 20 years. Something my husband does at home is light the grill on Sunday and bake the barbecue while I make the salad. Over the years, of course, I wasn't sure if the decision was right and I tried to work several times, but I couldn't work, I did everything else, and my husband said to me, "Honey, I want to cook for you when I get home. and smiling, not angry and tired from work "

   Everyone lives according to their abilities, I personally do not see anything in a woman being a housewife :) I would even say that it is commendable in my opinion.

   I do not interfere in other people's lives. I love my job, which means it doesn't really burden me at all. There is also something I like even more - independence. I don't like to know that I depend on another person. I don't like to rely on a man to leave me 5 leva on the table in the morning so I can buy bread, minced meat or something else. For me, this is pure imprisonment, loss of personality. I need to feel calm, that I have money in me, that if something happens, I will be able to react. I don't like to drive, but I have a license and I do it for one simple reason, if my husband calls me at the last minute to tell me that he can't pick up the child from the garden, I want to be able to get to the garden on time. to take my child. I don't want to rely on another person for money, transportation or anything. As a mother, you think of your child. You want me to watch him play all day. You want to hug him, kiss him, give him all the love in the world. However, we are mature people, we must understand that in order for a child to have a normal life, he needs an acceptable financial situation in the household. A man alone can hardly support 2 small children and a wife. I am terribly stubborn, I trust my husband, but I realize that at any moment he can turn around and tell me that he is leaving me. I'm not sure it won't happen to me. Yes, he is reliable, he loves family comfort, he is calm, he is good, he is decent. And yet I have no guarantee that he will spend his whole life with me. That's why I want to have a job, I want to be able to drive, I want to be calm that I will raise my own children if I need such a thing. On the other hand, well, yes, it will be very cool for me to look after my children all day and do my housework. I love to cook, I like cleanliness, I adore children. The problem is that in such a scenario I will not be confident, I will not feel completely complete. I will get the fear that I depend on my husband financially and in other ways. This is my character, this is my vision. It's probably not entirely right, but that's the way it is, that's how I think. I do not judge women who want to be with their children for a long time. Every mother internally wants to be with her child for as long as possible. I understand them, but my decision is different. I myself have certain fears about the manger, because of all the noise that was made years ago. I want my child to be the age he will tell me if he has problems. I take that into account and I want to avoid the manger, but not the garden. Everyone decides for themselves and their child, let's not judge mothers for their decisions. Every mother has her own vision and does what she thinks is best for the child.

   Well, if they have to pay a babysitter and the mother does not get a high salary, then there is no point in going back to work.

   what do we think? to think of their husbands by choosing such princesses

   Personally, it would be awful for me to sit at home for so many years. And my only social contacts should be with my husband, my child and the mothers on the playgrounds. Not to mention that after you don't work, you will have to take on all the housework, because if you don't make money, you still have to do something useful for the family. I went back to work and I was looking forward to it even before the 2 years were over. I couldn't wait to see my friends all day, with whom we are colleagues. I started going to the gym again. I started going out with friends more often because I didn't worry about who would look after the children and other reasons that I always came up with myself. Honestly, the parents of both my husband and I helped a lot. Instead of sending the little ones to the nursery (the twins are a boy and a girl), they watched them, and with such joy they were even sad and empty when we sent them to the garden. And when you go home and see how your husband has cooked and cleaned the house, your heart warms. Not to mention that I started to get very nervous at the end of my motherhood because these two children could get your soul out .... and they can still do it even though they are already teenagers

   This is exactly the mother's right approach. By nature, she is called to take care of the home, family and children, and the man must take care of their food and security! This has been the case for centuries, but everything has been distorted after the degenerate emancipation and we already see the result, of 10 married couples, only one survives for longer. We forgot our history and that is why we are miserable now, today there are no families, there is a measly coexistence and a loose society, Boyko defined it as - bad material! And a bad state is not built with bad material!

   I don't think any woman should work! Death to emancipation! Not to women in politics! Not the right to vote for women! For men ... I don't care! This is their job, to feed their families. Women should be hosts.

   I have only respect for these women - as for their husbands, these things are thought before having a child, not after. If a woman wants to be independent and work - respect for her, she has this right - if she wants to stay at home and look after her children, I see nothing wrong with that, on the contrary, it is much more labor-intensive than going to work, but when it comes from within and they do it with love and desire - great and happy for the children. Respect also for men who can provide their women with security and the opportunity to choose. It is important that all these plans are agreed with the spouse and that both spouses look in the same direction. The question that the author raises - how do 4 people live with one income - a second and first child is made, if the income allows it. There is never a guarantee

   If there are no grandparents to help them and they do not have the opportunity to be a babysitter, what is the way out of the situation? Sometimes it's not a matter of whims.

   All my life I watched my mother hang like that, despite her higher education, and how my father called her. I'm over 30 and I don't have a family, I don't think I have one. Was it good for me as a child and was my non-working mother an example? An example of the opposite.

   Well, it depends on the man's income, I think :) If you have to support 4 people with euros  4,000, it's one thing, if you have to support the same number of people with euros 1,000, it's another. The truth is that everyone watches from their belfry. According to my observations, some women are really good housewives and look after their children, some are bored, others just, standing at home, begin to fear work and real life - it is not always very easy to work. I am a woman and I have always worked - I have a son, already big. The decision to have only one child was made by me, and it was mainly for financial reasons. The truth is that everything costs money. Life in BG is not cheap at all anymore, it was very difficult during the so-called "transition". And it never crossed my mind to sit at home and miserable that my child was next to me, so that I would be by his side all the time. He went to the garden / I didn't send him to the nursery /, then to school, he became independent. Now he is a student and works, he became a man of it. He always felt that I loved him, I never left him. For me, the fact that I work is another expression of love for him - I do it not only for myself, but also for my son and my family as a whole. It won't do me much good to hang around the house all day with a rag or hang out in neighborhood cafes. The children grow up at one point, take their lives and bread in their hands ... and then what? It won't do me much good to whirl around the house with a rag or hang out in neighborhood cafes all day. The children grow up at one point, take their lives and bread in their hands ... and then what? It won't do me much good to whirl around the house with a rag or hang out in neighborhood cafes all day. The children grow up at one point, take their lives and bread in their hands ... and then what?

   We live in a place where there are jobs and places in kindergartens, so this is not a problem. But as long as it suits people.

   As a child, I missed my mother very much, she was always busy, and she brought home work. I will never forget how I envied the children whose mothers were teachers and stayed at home for much longer. My mother was always busy with either too much work or cooking and cleaning. So for me the key is in the balance. Children grow up, but the price they pay is sometimes too high!