I have been in a relationship with a man for 1 year and in the beginning everything was great. We seemed to get along very well. At first glance, everything with him was like a dream man. Unburdened by old loves. He developed a man with a profession, ambition and his own business from which he earns a lot. Generous to me anyway, not just financially. On top of that, good looking. The problems erupted after we decided to get married, and the idea seemed to be his. He only wants a signature, I read a similar situation somewhere, but yes - he refuses Wedding! He wants to be a signature, justifying himself with a lack of time and high costs - which are nothing to him, a flea bit him. From this problem I began to pay attention to other defects. For example, he shuns society and friends anyway, being especially careful in our appearances as a couple - it is justified that he did not like ostentation, did not like to be the center of attention. When we are out together, he really avoids being the center of attention, he is annoyed by such a role, he hates to be asked, to explain, to talk. He started making remarks to me about our shared photos on Facebook. 1-2 enough shouts, what did I aim for with whole albums? We went somewhere, he paid a lot of money to be well in a luxurious place and exotic as a country (I deliberately do not say where), and I immediately hurried to stomp it in front of people, to talk, to comment. I have had 4 relationships before him and men have always and anyway shown me as a jewel outside and I have the confidence of a great looking woman. He also told me that when we have a child from now on, I should forget to upload baby photos, etc., when he grows up, to have his own FB to upload the child as he wants photos. And constant ostentation, demonstrations, parades ... I want to emphasize that he doesn't limit me in anything, neither in going out with girlfriends alone, nor even in spending his money, he gets annoyed when the lights flood him. Do I have any concerns about this and its future? Otherwise he is gallant, nobody is rude and does not raise his voice, not to mention violence, sex is ok, he sticks to his free time, which he uses to play sports, he does not use alcohol and cigarettes, but this stubbornness should always be in the shadows. ..
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What happens if you don't upload photos? He lives for himself, you live for others.
My opinion is that he is a settled man who is looking for a normal serious relationship, peace, comfort and you want to show yourself and prove yourself (to live at full speed). There you differ in your way of life, these are not so serious problems but if you want a successful relationship you need compromises and discounts. There are no ideal people, everyone has their own lifestyle, try to find balance in the relationship. R.
It's your fault, yes. A man goes on vacation to spend a good time with his partner, to relax, to strengthen the relationship between them. Paradisers on Facebook, instead of talking and holding hands, take pictures in front of people as if their opinion is more important than the experience with the partner. This with babies is also very unpleasant. Instead of looking after your baby and enjoying it with your husband, you will photograph it and post it for people who do not sleep at all. Tighten up a little, you sound like a spoiled muffin to me. This is your problem, that your husband wants to make you a calm woman and teach you to experience the moment, not to photograph it ...
Why the hell do you have to take pictures with him all the time or take pictures of the evenings or places you go and upload them? What's the point of this? If you are going to do it, keep them for you, for you. Do you need to show them to everyone? Even if I am not ready, I will not tolerate such muffin things. Slightly lighter, it seems to me that a woman is really just an accessory for a man. As I read all this ... it's just about pampering, about money, about attention. I didn't read anything about love anywhere ... even the word 'love' was missing in this whole text. Your husband has no problem. You have a problem. Not only does it give you everything, but we are also dissatisfied ... for a wedding, for photos and the like.
Hello, I am a girl of 22 and I will tell you my opinion: I fully support your friend! I'm also great against uploading thousands of photos on Facebook, love statuses, etc. My boyfriend and I don't even have a shared photo uploaded to Facebook! Why? Because social networks are a gossip, and we do not want to be in the mouths of people, especially villains. A relationship is something personal, sacred, that one must keep to oneself. If you are happy, who needs to demonstrate it to the public? It is personal for you - at least that's how I perceive things. The fact that he wants to marry you and has offered it to you himself, according to you, is enough to understand that he cares about you. Or maybe he refuses to perform precisely because of a bad previous experience with envious people, who knows. I absolutely agree with the photos of the child !! ? I am of the same opinion - I will not allow a photo to be uploaded, let alone a whole profile. I don't understand at all those parents who do it. Also, when some start the "first word, the first step", the first one, I don't know how to be the first or the last one to have a child. Come on, there is no need to look into the eyes of others. At least that irritates me a lot. :) In my opinion, relationships stored outside of social networks are cleaner, more real and unblemished than, unfortunately, the malice of people. Think about it and I wish you luck! ) In my opinion, relationships preserved outside of social networks are cleaner, more real and unsullied than, unfortunately, people's malice. Think about it and I wish you luck! ) In my opinion, relationships preserved outside of social networks are cleaner, more real and unsullied than, unfortunately, people's malice. Think about it and I wish you luck!
If it wasn't tragic, it would be funny. Do you live on Facebook / Instagram? Since you are so eager to be under the "lights", find some parvenu that he also wants to be there. Or catch some moron to show you as a trophy. It is clear that a person is an introvert, if you know what that means at all. But it seems even clearer that you love his money and the status they provide you, but not him. And the fact that he doesn't like to show them is a special problem for you. Do him a favor - let him find a quality woman, not the typical mistress.
Uff, what do you want from the man? You have the stubbornness to be always in the center of gossip! I think this man is quite reasonable. He has a very faithful sense of people. Apparently he was betrayed once, maybe by a friend, and he doesn't want to surround himself with envious people, and you, if you're smart, will think for yourself why he doesn't flaunt anything. And the fact that you define yourself as a jewel says a lot about you.
Sister, there is no perfect man, and there is no man who is completely to your liking. I'm sure he notices negative traits in you too, but he's silent. You have come across a real person in times when everyone is looking to stand out, to brag about something. There are few modest people, and few who do not want to wave the woman next to them like a flag. When I watch young mothers and women dress (ie half-dress) walking next to their partner, I am ashamed ... ie. it doesn't catch me because maybe I've already turned. You are lucky - the question is, however, does he have it? Forgive the frankness.
I'm not talking about money. You have a man who never raises your voice, looks at you like a painted egg, organizes your time and is kind, gallant, beautiful, and you have good sex. Woman, tighten up. In such a situation, I would forget that I have profiles on social networks. A man who never shouts and behaves like a gentleman, and your problem is that he doesn't like you to upload pictures of him on Facebook ... are you crazy? What is your ostentation for? You went on vacation to rest, not to make albums on social media.
I feel sorry for the man next to you. He seems quite mature to me, and you are on the opposite pole. Everything he wrote speaks extremely badly about you, but it's not such a drama. The drama is that you don't realize it. I wonder how this man has caught such a superficial woman that he even wants a signature with her, this is absurd in the whole situation, but he will bear the consequences. PP That's how it is when someone falls in love with appearance;)
I had a friend some time ago in the same way, he had even offered to rub fbto, she was in love lost .. he deleted it, and he had a wife of ours, and he was supposedly engaged to mine .. Be careful :) that after a while a lot it hurts.