Hello! I didn't think I would get here and have to write about it, but here it is. My boyfriend is 10 years older than me and we have been in a relationship for 7 months. During these months, however, we experienced and continue to experience a complete nightmare. We fight almost every day, he starts attacking me and threatening to knock out my teeth, he becomes aggressive at times and I'm scared, but I'm such a character that I don't leave my donkey in the mud, I start to oppose him and to retaliate with verbal attacks, but I know that the border is very thin and will always touch me, because he always wants me to be silent. Every time the same - driving, collecting luggage, killings, tears and slamming doors. But I seem to have missed the most important thing ... the worst is happening ... I'm smoking, my nerves can't stand it and I'm starting to hit him with my hands, but he is stronger than me and starts twisting my arms and knocking me to the ground and shouting at me ... I know that what I am writing is crazy, but this is our relationship ... I love him, very much, but something constantly makes me pick on him and there are always scandals about something. He's not bad either, but he behaves like a man and wants him to command and listen to him, but I'm not like that. We live together, but I have a habit of chasing him away from us, but only after we've fought or broken everything. So far he hasn't hit me hard, but he's threatening me, and I'm going crazy.
I don't know how to describe it, but I see the end. In these 7 months we have quarreled at least 100 times and he collected his luggage at least 20 times ... But he came back. And he can't do without me, as I can, but to this day we can't fit in with the characters. In total we are 2 sharp stones. He on the one hand with his strength and rudeness, and I am his big mouth as he says. But that's how I am, bold, uncompromising and brave. But I'm afraid it won't hurt me because I live with my parents and I don't want them to witness it. I'm not afraid of the pain or that it will bleed my mouth. On the contrary ... He is my first serious friend, he even recently bought me a car with his own money, I try not to irritate him, to reduce disputes and scandals to a minimum, but at times I go crazy and I don't know what I'm doing, and he starts screaming at me, squeezing me in the corner and threatening me how he was going to hit me with two slaps and so on ... When I hear this and I don't know what's happening to me ... Tell me what to do ... even a while ago , before I write here, we quarreled again and another luggage collection followed ... In a few days there will be text messages and apologies from me just to get along, because I love him very much ... We have only scandals and rare moments when we are good ... The truth is that I I pamper him a lot, I please him for everything and I try not to quarrel, but almost always, when we quarrel, I freak out and hell begins. I go crazy when he starts twisting my arms and threatening me and I jump at him and I don't know when he will seriously touch me, but I can't keep quiet and swallow him. I tell myself that he will never squat and let him do with me what he wants ... I don't know what to do anymore ... as we quarrel and I freak out and hell begins. I go crazy when he starts twisting my arms and threatening me and I jump at him and I don't know when he will seriously touch me, but I can't keep quiet and swallow him. I tell myself that he will never squat and let him do with me what he wants ... I don't know what to do anymore ... as we quarrel and I freak out and hell begins. I go crazy when he starts twisting my arms and threatening me and I jump at him and I don't know when he will seriously touch me, but I can't keep quiet and swallow him. I tell myself that he will never squat and let him do with me what he wants ... I don't know what to do anymore ...
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So how will he threaten you with a fight? Apparently you raised his nerves a lot to make such a threat to you. If you're looking for scandals, why not just break up with him? In case your quarrels are for absolute nonsense and then he threatens you with a fight - just dump him. Don't challenge him, it doesn't make sense. We have witnessed countless stories of women being beaten by their husbands / friends
Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. (with apology) What masculinity do you see in this man, excuse me? A man is masculine when he knows how to treat you and does it gently. I suggest you read your story 2-3 more times and make sense of your love for each other. You may love each other, but if you continue like this, one will suffer. Maybe you're just not for each other. :) Women, 15
You seem to be a complete masochist. And I had such a relationship, it can't be said that it was a relationship, because we were together for a very short time. I liked him a lot, but we were constantly arguing about some nonsense. And he just wanted me to listen to him and do whatever he said. But for me, such men are complex - a man who wants to always be right and become his own can not admit his mistakes and respect other people's opinions. He was looking for me after every scandal, but according to my understanding, a relationship should bring you joy, peace, love and positive emotions, not scandals, clarifications, disputes, torments and what not. Personally, I do not regret ending this relationship, I told him that I would not tolerate this attitude, and a few months later I met a man who treated me in the kindest and most considerate way I thought I deserved. And as for the previous one - this was a lesson for me, to judge how much I value myself, and how much I will ruin myself with someone who only poisons my life. Well, after I gave up the nasty and painful, the good came. I hope you make the right choice and stop torturing yourself by putting a big hiccup on your sick relationship. Understand is not love when you suffer, love is when you feel better and better with the person you are with. No matter how strong the attraction you have with this person, it cannot dull the suffering and its consequences. You are NOT for each other, understand, things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back. and how much I will ruin myself with someone who only poisons my life. Well, after I gave up the nasty and painful, the good came. I hope you make the right choice and stop torturing yourself by putting a big hiccup on your sick relationship. Understand is not love when you suffer, love is when you feel better and better with the person you are with. No matter how strong the attraction you have with this person, it cannot dull the suffering and its consequences. You are NOT for each other, understand, things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back. and how much I will ruin myself with someone who only poisons my life. Well, after I gave up the nasty and painful, the good came. I hope you make the right choice and stop torturing yourself by putting a big hiccup on your sick relationship. Understand is not love when you suffer, love is when you feel better and better with the person you are with. No matter how strong the attraction you have with this person, it cannot dull the suffering and its consequences. You are NOT for each other, understand, things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back. I hope you make the right choice and stop torturing yourself by putting a big hiccup on your sick relationship. Understand is not love when you suffer, love is when you feel better and better with the person you are with. No matter how strong the attraction you have with this person, it cannot dull the suffering and its consequences. You are NOT for each other, understand, things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back. I hope you make the right choice and stop torturing yourself by putting a big hiccup on your sick relationship. Understand is not love when you suffer, love is when you feel better and better with the person you are with. No matter how strong the attraction you have with this person, it cannot dull the suffering and its consequences. You are NOT for each other, understand, things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back. things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back. things will never get better. Either look for something better or stay and endure the humiliation until you rot. I am personally happy with what I got rid of and I would never go back.
Abe, you are mindless people ... I don't know how your parents allow it in their house. And I am a parent, only through my corpse will such a thing live in my home. Are you a masochist or something ... aren't there so many normal people that you deal with ...
Horror !!! I would break such a connection at once. No matter who the initiator is, apparently you are both ... "a little bumpy". If you can't talk like civilized people, if that's how you always come to primary, animal expressions of ... anger, well, sooner or later things will escalate and lead to more serious physical violence. He still has it. You hit him ... he twists your arms (of course, he has to defend himself somehow), and no one ends this madness. And ... how long ?! While one of the two or even the two of you suffer in such a way that there is no going back ?! I don't know, you're both wrong about something ...
I look, I read and I can't believe my eyes. I'm posting this quote of yours, "He's not bad either, but he's manly and wants him to command and listen to him, but I'm not." This is not a MALE behavior was a girl. This is COMPLEX behavior. From here comes the whole problem already between the sexes in our beautiful country. You and many other women absolutely wrongly define COMPLEX behavior as masculine. Don't worry - your friend is not a man at all. And the sooner you realize that you have to finish it, the better for you. From now on, the situation will get worse and worse and be sure that it will affect you. This is not a man. This is a mentally ill individual. When will you women realize that the men who erupt after one of your words are not men, but people with mental health problems? Normal people do not explode easily. Not to mention that they don't explode easily in front of their wife or, worse, get into a fight. This is done by people who do not know how to get out of a certain situation and decide that paint is the only way. I only pray to God that he will make some sense of you and many other women like you. I don't know how you keep stumbling on some psychopaths. Start liking normal and REAL men. Do you know what behavior is MALE? Well, as a man, I'll tell you. MALIC is the behavior when the man next to you sees that you are loaded with a thousand things in your hands and offers you help by freeing you from them and he takes them. MALIC is the behavior when in difficult moments for you your husband is next to you and is your physical and moral support. MALE is the behavior when your husband helps you whenever you need help. Behavior is masculine, when your husband opens the door for you and behaves like a gentleman. Masculine behavior is when your husband abstracts from his own problems and grits his teeth when he is sick or something hurts just to keep you from worrying or to help you solve your problems. However, when he curses, squeezes, presses, threatens, attacks or directly beats and rapes you, it is COMPLEX behavior. Get rid of this complex and find a decent guy who will respect and love you, who will not touch you, but will talk to you and there will be no conflicts. I hope that your mind will come in time and that you will detach yourself from this one and understand that such men are not men, but full of rubbish. However, I hope that thousands of other women with your mind will understand it. Otherwise, we are a pitiful mother of the whole Bulgarian society, if women continue to have a mind like yours,
I have always wondered about people who, despite the insurmountable differences in character, still MOVE together. Because it is an exact movement, from today to tomorrow, from tomorrow to the day after tomorrow, etc. Vicious circle. You're wasting both time. Having a relationship means having your best friend as close to you as possible. This is not your connection. Yes, all people quarrel, but to do this almost every day in my opinion is not normal.
Author: A very serious piece of advice to both of you. Sit down, talk and go to a psychiatrist as soon as possible and share all this with him. It is not only for your good, but also for those around you.
You're crazy ... You're both crazy ... I don't know what else to say. How exactly do you think this will end? !! You will probably be beaten and he will be convicted. What if you have children !? !! God forbid! How will you grow them in such an environment? This is a nightmare! My boyfriend and I have bad moments, but we've never screamed like we've been caught in the woods, and we both respect ourselves and the other enough to not allow ourselves to encroach on us in any way. Just split up and stop bothering each other. Have you ever wondered what you are doing to your parents !? Poor people - to listen to your scandals all the time. Horror! I don't know how there can be such people and such relationships between people. I just don't understand it. F27
In fact, I think you know exactly what to do: "In a few days there will be text messages and apologies from me just to get along, because I love him very much ..." I don't know exactly what advice you are looking for, or you just want to share. If so, I will not give advice. Obviously, you have no self-esteem or love for yourself. And what if you can't keep quiet about him? It makes you nothing more than a barking dog. What if, God forbid, you produce offspring (although my personal opinion is that people like you should not breed)? Is that how you will raise a child? And at least once did you put yourself in the place of your parents? Or the neighbors? I realize that all of them want you to go very far, so as not to be burdened with scandals and the negative energy that you scatter around you. For me personally, your whole relationship is a complete misunderstanding. I wish you success, I hope things work out for you, because there is no such connection.
Well, the above have said it all. The author did not say how old she was, but judging by her reasoning, she is about 17 (and he, although 27) (he is 10 years older), is not very adequate for his age. God (and I hope it never happens) the option for a baby between them is gone). Guys! I just wonder how poor parents tolerate this? . In fact, maybe she is 18 and an adult ... Not that she has a mind ... Moderators, I'm sorry if I sound Convincing, as the author wrote (it is spelled Insults correctly), but please post my comment! Thanks!
the tale of the pot and the lid is in full force for you. you are both a bit of a cornflower. you both have a serious psychological problem. "But that's how I am, bold, uncompromising and brave." no, girl, problems are solved with patience, conversations and mutual compromises, not with scandals, shouts, slaps and taking out and bringing in luggage, on top of everything in front of your parents. your friend I won't even comment on it, number 7 described it very well. quite obviously you are not for each other, the sooner you realize it, the better. F42
Men who break out easily do not change. And relationships in which quarrels are frequent do not change, and over time or feelings cool down or develop only into bigger scandals. You decide for yourself what the future holds for your relationship. No matter how much you love, it is not worth it, because with true love there is respect and there are no such things that you have.