Hello, I would like to receive the opinion of the readers of this site, so I ask the moderators to publish my topic. I am 30 years old, single and have had an intimate relationship with a 35-year-old colleague for seven months. She is married and has two children, boys aged 7 and 5. Everything about us is wonderful, we work together, we have fun, we have sex and we feel satisfied with our relationship. The problem is that for about 20 days I have been feeling anxious not to be caught or rather not to understand her husband. She emphasized to me that she loves her husband and her children and that between us is just a game and fun. I also perceive it as a game, relaxing without further complications with feelings. The problem is that if something happens and they reveal it to us, I'm not ready to take any responsibility for her and her children. I haven't shared that, but I'm still worried and it bothers me. I think that she is not ready either. At first I just suggested that your husband doesn't understand, she told me that she shouldn't understand and things should be done smartly. What do you think? I don't want to get into any melodramas and the like one day.
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Yes, she loved her husband another time. If she reveals it to you, the chances of her being kicked out are not small. If he has nowhere to go, no wonder he hangs on to you. Moreover, you are colleagues and rumors can spread. No matter how careful you are. In the workplace, this does not remain a secret for long. What advice do you want? What happened happened. You have been lovers for half a year. Even if you stop, her husband can still learn. Not to mention that in this case, one of the two, if not both, may lose your job. Either you end or you continue. Being very careful. But this whole thing is so stressful. But for some it is a thrill ... And you, at the age of 30, instead of a set or younger, caught up with the married woman with children. However, be careful not to sink. No one is insured, whatever they claim.
Well do it smart. After all, the whole risk is for her, what do you have to do with her children? She must have weighed the risk.
Are you expecting us to tell you that no, you will never get caught and you will have a lot of fun? Aren't you very naive? Watch the cuckold break your head.
Just say it. You see, she doesn't want to either. To know from now on and then not to say you didn't warn her.
Man, you already have a starring role in a telenovela, but you don't know it yet. Such relationships always carry risks, you should not have embarked on this adventure if you do not want drama. Her husband can understand, then there are quarrels, divorces, tears, explanations, anger, crooked looks, awkward silence. The woman will start to feel sorry, to cry, to worry about her children. You, completely unprepared, will fall into a love triangle unfavorable for you. You don't love, you don't take responsibility, you don't feel particularly guilty for interfering in a marriage, you're just having fun and at some point the pink glasses break and you're the bad guy. You're not so black, you're a lover, but you're not the one who throws your marriage in the trash, you're not cheating. Yes, but her husband won't see it that way, he will need to blame someone and you are the target, not just his wife. You are guilty of standing between the two, but you have already done so in a possible drama, you cannot hide like a mouse and blame only the others, you knew that she was married and you consciously started an adventure. It is clear to me that you will not take her home with the children, but every action has a reaction and you must be ready to bear it. There is no secret infidelity without omissions, there is always something to suggest, always someone understands, often someone falls in love or at least thinks so. If you don't care about nonsense, you made the wrong choice 7 months ago. that you will not take her home with the children, but every action has a reaction and you must be ready to bear it. There is no secret infidelity without omissions, there is always something to suggest, always someone understands, often someone falls in love or at least thinks so. If you don't care about nonsense, you made the wrong choice 7 months ago. that you will not take her home with the children, but every action has a reaction and you must be ready to bear it. There is no secret infidelity without omissions, there is always something to suggest, always someone understands, often someone falls in love or at least thinks so. If you don't care about nonsense, you made the wrong choice 7 months ago.
He who is afraid of bears does not go to the forest. When you are afraid of dramas and complications, why do you get married to a married woman with children? When you started flirting, you should have known what you were doing, and not now tremble at what would happen if the man found out. Well, if he finds out, you will both suffer the consequences! It's just the price of your entertainment, and you both had to think about it in the beginning. I don't want to scare you, but the more time you drive it like that, the greater the chance that they will reveal you, especially since you are colleagues. A colleague of yours will notice something, there will be gossip in the office ... and it's just a matter of time before they reach her husband. Therefore, since you are not ready to take responsibility for your actions, it is better to stop this before to sink completely. Yes, I'm not proud of the fact that I cheated too, but I was just aware that I was ready to pay the price and take responsibility. Well, my husband didn't understand, but I asked for a divorce and my conscience was clear. You see, there is no way to both have fun and not take responsibility for your actions. Think about it well and if you don't want complications and dramas you better put an end to it.
Who is afraid of bears not to go into the woods first. Secondly, since the initial arrangement was for fun, since you did not make announcements, I do not see how you have to take responsibility. Nor does she have the right to demand it. In my opinion, the only thing you owe in such a relationship without commitment is discretion! Woman 39
You're not worth it, neither is she. Hopefully the man will understand that the influence of such a woman over his children will probably not work well.
If her husband is a piece - you have no dirt but if she is her husband in a big movie. I advise you to retire quietly while it's time and you find a serous free girl
I think you fell very low, you know - there is no free lunch on earth, you will somehow pay the devil
Hmmm ... yes. These things are not good. I was tempted to do something like that, but I refrained or I didn't know exactly how to approach it? These things are felt, the wife will understand what is happening and the situation can become quite nasty and you know that you are wrong. Maybe it's wise to get out of the situation while things aren't bitter yet?
The risk is that she will testify in court about how her husband shot you when he stepped on you. I hope I was useful.
Don't worry, there are a lot of single women! The risk is not small, believe me. You can pay with your life if her husband is someone haho.
Abe dude, when you're 30, are you so incapable of finding a young 20, 25-year-old girl, but you've started an intimate relationship with a married woman with two children. If the woman is not smart enough and has gone to give the butterfly to whomever she wants, at least you do not have a conscience to say: "I apologize colleague, but I do not create intimate relations with family people." She let her fuck her head. And remember that the boomerang is back. If one day you marry such a stupid woman as your colleague, someone younger than you will fuck your wife secretly, as you do now. In my eyes, your colleague is a whore, and you have no conscience of a real man. One day you will eat your own potpourri.
Me, I think you're rubbish and I hope someone relaxes with the mother of your children in time.
She hardly expects you to take responsibility for her and her children. Just be careful. And enjoy what you have.
Heh ... you are looking for "the light at work and the soft at bread" ... Doesn't it seem to you, purely logical, that the pleasures and obligations somehow have to be balanced? If you want to avoid this, you run the risk. In this case, the risk is more with her ... you can always spit on your heels if it becomes a shoot, and neither onion nor onion smell, but your conscience will tickle you for a long time after that ... So "free no lunch! " What you are doing is not right, and someone will still have to pay for it. Even if you don't have to pay for it openly, you will pay for it by being on thorns all the time and taking the risk. And why aren't you ready for family and children? Do you support a previous family, or do you just not want to spoil your life? Or you know very well that if you get there, you will take her husband's place, and she's going to poke someone else? :)
He has already told you number 17, not that the others have not told you, what you are crushing now you will itch later. Before I started reading this site, I did not assume that there could be so many fallen people - women loving their husbands and having fun with their young colleagues, young people fucking women their mother's age, etc. Irresponsibility is the mildest. definition of such behavior, but you know it yourself.
What if she happens to get pregnant from you and her husband learns? !! It is best to end this risky relationship immediately and look for a single woman.
For me, the biggest risk is for the man to understand and beat you. It's not a wish, I'm just explaining what the biggest risk is.
Boy, my husband got involved in a patchwork job like yours in the same way. We had one child, she had two. They laughed in front of their colleagues and at the first opportunity fired them from work - yes, both of them ... Unemployed hung around my neck, became pessimistic a million times, but it was too late. The story is not told without anything - where you get your bread, you don't get other things. Hit the rod, you don't need it and find a suitable girl. That in time, when you get married, a colleague will fuck your wife. There is nothing borrowed in this life, everything is returned and paid for.
I don't know how some people can insult this woman like that. Everyone can cheat. I am a woman of 30 with a child and as such I will tell you that a woman cheats when she wants to punish her husband - either because he does not pay attention to her or does not try to make her feel wanted and liked, sexy. There are few women with children who would risk their family just for one sex. Also, a woman with a family always bets on the safe - in a sense, if the man expels her, she will probably expect you to shelter her. Since you do not want this, then it is better to end the relationship with her because if her husband finds out and drives her away, she will be left without a family and without a lover. Once you have written here, you are not indifferent to do something good for her - dump her or at least dilute your appointments until she gives up on you.
Author, if you follow the topic - run. And I, a bachelor like you, had the stupidity a year ago got involved with a colleague - married with two children. I haven't had anything but sex. However, the dumb goose somehow betrayed her husband and caught her with me. He chased her away and kept his children with him. I'm not going to explain what a fucking drama it is. She has lived at home for two months. He was lurking for one child to see him in the school break and the other from the kindergarten fence. It broke my nerves. A difficult divorce for her. Broken lives. Pishman got up, I got involved.
29 - Ma'am, the lover is just a tramp, not a charity, not a child protection agency, a shelter, a backup airport, a lifeguard or an emergency exit. Like sex is not a promise of marriage. Let everyone think BEFORE, not AFTER the foul.
Whoever does what he does to himself, no one can do to him. So do you. Why are you pushing yourself between slaps? When he comes with the two children to roar at your doorstep, what will you do? Or if her husband beats you - there are such emotional cuckolds. Think about it, people, your head is given for this.
In the psychology of the Bulgarian man is, if he gets free sex not to refuse, and even not to think about the consequences. This one at least thinks here, but when his mistress's husband finds out about their relationship, he will run through his head, because you see, he had no other commitment to her than to fuck her. Then, however, she will not want to fuck because she will not be up to fucking, but how to look after her children. Sad picture in empty gourds.