I am a divorced single woman of 35 years. He is 8 years younger. I had no relationship with men with such a difference, but communication has become strange already. I comply with him, I do not interfere in his life, but I like him. See you by chance. Until recently we did not call each other, now we have heard each other several times. One time he is kind, then cold, somehow withdrawn and passive or anxious. He confuses me, as if he likes to share his advice, he always laughs, looks me in the eye, but I wonder if this is an attraction, even though I'm old. We've known each other for a year, intimacy and writing started a few months ago, but the fact that he has a serious girlfriend he claims keeps stopping me. He is not a fool but he is very resourceful simply. Does a man write like that all the time, does he want to hear you ... I have a lot of questions, but suddenly nothing !!! Thank you in advance,
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What do you want from him?
It's been a long time, she doesn't seem to know what she wants, or she's hesitating between you and her. Ask him.
Very interesting topic. I will watch for opinions. But I still can't help but ask: what are you looking for and want from a committed person ????
He's just waiting for you to take the first step. What matters is what you want.
What can I look for, if I knew I would not write, The boy is serious and not superficial. He feels his eyes glow when he looks at me, I catch him looking at me, it's nice to be in his company, it's nice to be together. He allowed himself to call for another day, asked how you were, wrote good night, but had a girlfriend. I have a child and I don't play with people, I feel attracted by them, but I don't force myself and I don't annoy anyone. His behavior simply confuses me. It's like he's studying me or playing, but I like this game, that's why I asked what the step is before sex!
I forgot to say that we had no physical contact other than touch, which is more frequent and supposedly accidental. I neither set conditions nor had expectations, just spontaneous and calm sharing, which became more frequent. He even allowed himself to write and talk when he was with her, I said don't, if it's not convenient, the answer was only for 2 minutes and then silence! There is flirting. but there is also some inconvenience between jokes and laughter
Don't deal with it. He hesitates. Don't waste your time or whatever you want, but you will.
He is attracted to you, it is obvious. Certainly, the thought of intimacy with you had passed him by. Maybe he feels guilty in front of his girlfriend ... and for that, sometimes he seems different in his attitude towards you. In my opinion, it is only a matter of time before things happen. I have an acquaintance who experienced something like you five years ago. Then we worked together in a pastry shop. But she was married, too. I spotted him with her when I took turns. In time, she started sharing with me ... for a whole year, he just came to see her ... they talked, they shared ... as acquaintances ... and she asked me why she did it when she didn't do anything more than that. I also said that he must be interested in her, but he does not dare to cross the border. She told me that he only allowed himself to hold her hand and they just talked about things. They wrote to each other and heard each other ... A year later it was the first kiss. And sex was not late. We worked with her for four years. At least until then they had a relationship. But you know, she fell in love with him ... and the weird thing was, they never talked about feelings. Whether it was love, I do not know. So, stories of all kinds ... everyone knows how they feel about themselves. And as they say, whatever happens will happen.
You ask people with experience to share, I can't have such a personal one, but in return I have enough examples around me. Along with all the other questions, you should ask yourself a few more: What does he expect from you - even if your relationship develops, what next to sex? Do you realize that sooner or later this young man will want a child - are you ready for that? Do you realize that just as he is flirting with you now in the presence of a serious girlfriend, tomorrow he will flirt with another behind your back - are you ready for that? Should I even raise the issue of your own child, who is probably in his teens? Aren't you just blinded by the thought that a younger man is paying attention to you - we men are like that, we pay attention to everything that happens to ... Last but not least, do you realize what you will do to the other girl, not that they haven't played it anymore, but who knows, the bachelor may feel that this is not the case and sit on the tri-letter. In a nutshell, end the communication, you have run into a hypocrite who will be a hypocrite behind your back tomorrow, and you will shed tears for the wasted time during which you could bond with someone like yourself and have more than sex for one night. Test it and you will get the answers to all your questions very quickly - just hint to him that at the moment you do not need anything more than the conversations, if he realizes that soon there will be no sex he will blow up in a minute. I wish you common sense and most of all luck! and you will shed tears for the wasted time during which you could bond with someone like yourself and have more than sex overnight. Test it and you will get the answers to all your questions very quickly - just hint to him that at the moment you do not need anything more than the conversations, if he realizes that soon there will be no sex he will blow up in a minute. I wish you common sense and most of all luck! and you will shed tears for the wasted time during which you could bond with someone like yourself and have more than sex overnight. Test it and you will get the answers to all your questions very quickly - just hint to him that at the moment you do not need anything more than the conversations, if he realizes that soon there will be no sex he will blow up in a minute. I wish you common sense and most of all luck!
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Don't deal with smaller ones. Find a mature man, not a man. I'm 29 years old and I don't catch up with people my age. No more - I don't want to deal with underage 28-30 year olds who are still experiencing puberty. Not that I'm looking for grandparents, but above all to be a man who weighs himself in his place. IN
Why do you have to deal with a committed man who is significantly (though not too much) younger than you? I do not understand! If you were the younger one and he turned your head, I would have an explanation. But so? !! G30
Is it good to clarify what you want? I say this so that you do not suffer later. Surely the boy is attracted to you, both he is interested in communicating and sexually. If there are such touches, then it is waiting for you to take the first step towards intimacy and sex! He may have problems with his girlfriend at the moment, so he should seek your attention, talk, share, etc. Just do not expect that he will be ready for a relationship. This is my opinion. And I have communicated with ladies older than me! When two people are happy, I don't see anything wrong with that. :) But it's good that he doesn't lie to his girlfriend, and that you don't expect something serious like a relationship to happen. Good luck. > М. 31 <
Thank you 14. very adequate answer. I have no expectations, my concern is that I don't get carried away easily. I'm pretty suspicious, and this boy makes me think of him. Sometimes, however, I think I'm like a vent 4 times call to share a transitional problem at work or something Just to hear me. And then bye, bye. I like it very much, but if it continues like this I will reduce communication because I have a child, although he has never been impudent or annoying and that attracts me, but he does not dare to hug or take a step and as if he needs to hear or see me. I understand it I'm starting to think I'm just a friend from kindness to sex there is a difference though.