I am 22 years old and I have had a serious relationship for 3 years. My friend and I have understood from the very beginning of our relationship that we are serious. Things are going more or less, but there is a small problem, I can't remember when we haven't had sex. We haven't been for 8 months for sure, but it could be a year, or a year or so ... I just don't remember. We're either tired or we don't have time and I don't know what ... Otherwise everything else is ok. He takes care of me, we go to the cinema, to a restaurant, he gives me flowers, etc., but there is no sex. I changed jobs a few months ago and then met the colleague in question. In the beginning, nothing special, we talk, we work, the usual things change. Until that day. We talked about his relationship, about my relationship. I told him I was monogamous (which is true). And word for word, he decided he wanted a kiss, to understand how we will feel later. It was a new emotion for both of us. At first I took it as a joke, nooo we finally kissed ... And that's where the problem comes from (or not !?!) We both liked it a lot. At one point it became clear to him how much he liked (remember) he became more ... insistent. I stopped him. It all ended there. But I found out I had forgotten what it was like to be with an aroused man. It was strange to me when I felt it, somehow unfamiliar. Basically, this is a condition of men that I adore. It gives us women special power (giggles). But here I have forgotten what it is. My body also reacts quite ... violently ... And now I don't know ... I'm confused. I'm not sick (which is strange) but I find cracks in the relationship with the person with whom I thought I was going to grow old ... and now ... I don't regret the kiss with my colleague. He showed me what I miss, but now where? !?
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In terms of that. that you kissed another man, provided you haven't had sex with your boyfriend in a year, I don't see why you might feel bad! On the contrary, he is begging for infidelity, there is no normal woman who would endure such a thing !!! But ... from the point of view of kissing a man who belongs to another woman and, in your words, it will probably get hot, you should feel bad about it. And again, it's very relative, if they're just some kind of boyfriend, you're more or less forgiven, but if he's a man with a woman and possibly a child, then your question is pretty self-centered. Find someone free, because everything comes back (from personal experience) and disconnect him from sex, because, you will catch a cobweb in the end! haha
To number 1: What about you women, when you are 9 months pregnant, do we men catch a cobweb? Don't you catch it too? Does not having sex mean that the man is begging for infidelity? Are 9 months pregnant a little? There is no excuse for infidelity. She lied to the man next to her. If you miss your sex, tell him and break up! This is my opinion. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the suprise. WHITE BEAR
I am the author. To number one, he himself said that his current relationship was not going well, and the idea for the kiss was his. There is a big difference to number 2 in the absence of sex during pregnancy and without sex like that. Because believe me, I'm not pregnant. He just doesn't want sex ... Otherwise the dilemma in me sounds the same as the first two comments. What will happen, only time will tell ...
I agree with both number 1 and number 2, but I want to draw your attention to the fact that no man will tell you I have a wonderful relationship with my girlfriend, but still I want to kiss you. I know it will sound nasty, but your relationship is over, it is not normal for young and healthy people not to have sex for months, end your things with your current boyfriend and then embark on another love affair otherwise you risk one day feeling alone like the neighborhood whore. I guess it's clear, but I'll say it again - new connections YES, parallel connections NO, that's how I understand things. Success!
It was nonsense you were talking about. This is a kiss, for God's sake !!!! I think it is high time for painfully jealous people, as well as people with low self-esteem and self-esteem, to stop pretending to be moralists and treat their problems. We are human beings, it is in our nature to be attracted, to desire, to get aroused .... You are only 22, I don't know how old your friend is, but unless he is 62, there is no excuse for the lack of sex between you. That you at this age should mostly have sex :) What does it mean there is no time? If there is time for a movie, there is time for one ... Talk to your friend about this. I don't understand how you even think you can grow old with it, since your relationship is already deprived of one of its most important ingredients. As for the other man, just wait. Don't make a question out of a kiss, in most cases this is not who knows what. Still, you will continue to see each other, you are colleagues and things between you will fall into place, whatever it is.
So, how do you expect not to like the first kiss with someone, given that you have been "dry" for so long? Otherwise I don't blame you, because 8 months. without sex are enough. I'm against infidelity too, but I've had a time when my wife and I rarely ... and I know how hard it is. As much as it contradicts your understanding, your body just wants its own and it's hard to support. I endured, which I am proud of, but it cost me a lot of effort. In the end, we talked to my wife and solved the problem, but otherwise this is not normal with 8 months and it is right to talk. No matter how tired he is, this is 8 months. damn it. Does he realize how much 8 months are. for a healthy, upright, young man? So talk very seriously, if the problem is healthy to be examined, if necessary, and go to a sexologist. If he doesn't show understanding and doesn't want to solve the problem, I don't think that you will spend a long time, because you remember that this cannot last long. If you still resist now, it will not be forever and sooner or later you will betray him. This is a body and it wants its own, there will come a time when you simply will not be able to control it. And if the infidelities start, write off this connection.
From Tuesday: The dilemma is rather moral. Physically, my body solved it before me. On the one hand, the lack of any sex, on the other hand, he helped me a lot, he takes care of me, etc. I could not easily reject it ... but a 27-year-old man does not want it .... right I'm wrong .... Thank you very much for the opinions. I need another point of view
I don't understand something - the title says: "I feel bad after the kiss ...", and the story ends with: "I'm not sick" and "I don't regret the kiss with my colleague". A serious excuse was quickly pointed out at the very beginning - 8 or more months without sex. A serious reason to do something like this is very often found and pointed out, see - a reason not to do it will be a real surprise. The only thing that is clear, at least to me, is that the girl and her boyfriend need to talk about it.
Well, you need to talk seriously with your boyfriend - why don't you have sex for 1 year, what's his problem, it could be something more serious than you think, some psychological or physical problem he's worried about talking to even you, which it is absurd, but not impossible. Otherwise, not wanting you for so long, but behaving perfectly, is a form of masochism, I know, I personally can't go to bed with a beautiful woman and not want her ... The man has a problem, talk to him seriously, I tell you again, do not ask us and question us, we are no one in your relationship. M, 35
Author: I asked him! He says "Yes, well, after a while only yes ...." In the beginning I walked around in my underwear, hung it up, etc. but there was no effect ... Over time, my desire passed (and my self-confidence). ) ... We'll talk again, but I know what will happen ... I may not like him sexually anymore, I know ... I may be tired of him ...
And is it possible that your friend is fucking something else and that's why he hasn't been with you lately physically? _Az_
There used to be a fairy tale - a strong cross, a healthy family. Your colleague is obviously very indecisive when you only got away with a kiss, knowing what the situation is with your friend. The solution is in a decent, determined man, not like these two.
The author: Because mine was on a business trip when this happened, and we saw each other after that. My body's reaction is zero. Apparently we're just exhausted. Regarding the colleague, after this kiss there were two or three more but so many. I told him what situation I was in and approaches with understanding, for which I am sincerely grateful. Now he has to figure out how to end the relationship. There is simply no thrill. He's like a brother to me ... already. is he cheating on me. not me. I guess, because I don't have any evidence ...