Along with the Christmas holidays, I also decided to write my own story. I am a child of a mixed marriage. My mother is Bulgarian, and my father is also the result of a mixed marriage between an Arab and a Turk (there is still a gypsy vein and it fits into the "favorite" image of every Bulgarian). We have always celebrated all possible holidays, both Christian and Muslim. Every year I travel and see my relatives from abroad, they also came. So far so good. It has never been difficult for me to identify. I am baptized and I am a Christian by convictions. My father doesn't know that, and if he did, he would deny it right away! "The children go to their fathers!" My parents worked in another European country and I lived here with my mother's family (grandparents) and for that I have never been very close to my father. For the last 2-3 years we have all been living together in Bulgaria, and he travels a lot. And that's where the problems begin ... my father has a disgusting image of what his daughter SHOULD be like. He comes with his requirements, with his rules and does not conform to me. My mother plays the role of a balancer in our relationship - she allows me to go out, drink, smoke as long as he does not understand. However, this double life is killing me. I can't be the perfect daughter. And the older I get, the harder it is for me to play this game. Everything in our family is one theater. I have reached an age when it is quite normal to think about marriage, to start my own family and I am very scared. What should my husband be like Buddhist? I would not be able to live with a Muslim and I would not subject my child to this hellish torment! My father says he will kill me if I marry a Christian and he is completely serious - he is fanatical despite the years he has spent in Europe and America. A Muslim won't take me, even if my father forces me to get married - I'm not a virgin. It is clear to me that there are operations and all sorts of options, but I do not want such a life. I would not forget, nor would I pray, I would not raise my child in such a value system as my eventual husband would require. A holy holiday is coming, which I will celebrate again with my whole family (including my father), but when 12 passes I will not be able to say hello with a glass of wine, because I am forbidden to drink! I will not say aloud "Merry Christmas" .. I command bright and peaceful holidays to all of you! And an order ... when you create children, even if they are the fruit of great love - do not be selfish, think about them too! that there are surgeries and all sorts of options, but I don't want that kind of life. I would not forget, nor would I pray, I would not raise my child in such a value system as my eventual husband would require. A holy holiday is coming, which I will celebrate again with my whole family (including my father), but when 12 passes I will not be able to say hello with a glass of wine, because I am forbidden to drink! I will not say aloud "Merry Christmas" .. I command bright and peaceful holidays to all of you! And an order ... when you create children, even if they are the fruit of great love - do not be selfish, think about them too! that there are surgeries and all sorts of options, but I don't want that kind of life. I would not forget, nor would I pray, I would not raise my child in such a value system as my eventual husband would require. A holy holiday is coming, which I will celebrate again with my whole family (including my father), but when 12 passes I will not be able to say hello with a glass of wine, because I am forbidden to drink! I will not say aloud "Merry Christmas" .. I command bright and peaceful holidays to all of you! And an order ... when you create children, even if they are the fruit of great love - do not be selfish, think about them too! which I will celebrate again with my whole family (including my father), but when 12 passes I will not be able to say hello with a glass of wine, because I am forbidden to drink! I will not say aloud "Merry Christmas" .. I command bright and peaceful holidays to all of you! And an order ... when you create children, even if they are the fruit of great love - do not be selfish, think about them too! which I will celebrate again with my whole family (including my father), but when 12 passes I will not be able to say hello with a glass of wine, because I am forbidden to drink! I will not say aloud "Merry Christmas" .. I command bright and peaceful holidays to all of you! And an order ... when you create children, even if they are the fruit of great love - do not be selfish, think about them too!
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Your life is yours and live it as you want! And at home, I'm a balancer between the kids and my husband, so that's okay. My son is 22 and does not smoke in front of his father. All fathers are like that, they think they know what is best for their children. When you fall in love and decide to get married, I guess your mother will find an approach to your father.
Girl, how can such a thing, I wonder! Pack your bags and get out of there, you are an adult and no one can stop you. Otherwise you will never feel like a person, a person who makes his own decisions and determines his own life. And do not lie to marry a Muslim because the same thing will be waiting for you.
I am a final year student, I am waiting to graduate and I plan to do that ..
When you leave home, don't lie at all to marry the first person you meet. Most usually do. And open your eyes to 4.
If religion prevails in a family - write it fluently. Many unhappy marriages between Christians and Muslims have been described, you are the victim of one yourself, do not create more unhappy children. They are fanatics and when necessary they cover it up quite skillfully, then your soul is strong, God forbid you move with someone like that in his country. I am absolutely in solidarity with number 4 - get to know the person next to you well and then decide.
From now on, I know I will be left alone. Even if I fell in love with a Christian, I wouldn't risk getting married so as not to ruin his life. I hope that at least the realization in a professional plan brought me satisfaction and gave meaning to my life.
Wow ... it's not easy for you. I feel sorry for you :( My advice is to openly oppose your father and turn your back on him (of course if you are financially independent). If you are not, look for a good job and when you get settled, run!
It seems very imaginary to me whether such extremes can be reached in the 21st century.