Hello, people. I'm almost 18, girl, and I want to share a problem with you. In principle, I am very anxious, shy and emotional. But I met a boy on the net. Yes, yes, I understand what you have to say, do not jump to conclusions. So we wrote to each other, he is a year older, quite well-read, he looked nice, so we arranged a meeting. He was a nice guy live, too, but I don't know why I thought he might want more than sex. Apparently, that hope sustains the fool is true. We talked and it was nice. The next day we accidentally ran into each other on the street because our roads to our schools intersected and we saw each other and kept writing to each other. We also arranged a second meeting. But this time it went differently, ie we pressed each other. You could see his great desire for sex, but for me things are not so easy and just his number did not pass and remained dry. So the next day, I firmly and stubbornly, determined that maybe I could give him a chance, because I have been missing this kind of contact for a long time, I write to him, but of course the only thing I received in response was seen. The next few days we ran into each other twice, but he always turned around like he didn't see me, and out of stubbornness, I did the same. We haven't had any contact since then and I'm tormented by the question why? I keep thinking about where I went wrong and my only answer is that I didn't let him go. Why the hell are today's individuals only interested in sex? The other thing I can't understand is why he just doesn't answer me and tell me that he doesn't want to have anything to do with me, but leaves me to torment myself with questions I can't answer. Why to you, boys and men, Is it so hard for you to say things in plain text? So my request to you, readers, is to advise me what to do - to write to him again, ignoring the fact that I also have dignity and to pray for a crumb of his attention (how pathetic it sounds: D) or to write a novel for him , brazenly asking why he ignores me like that, or not to write to him and continue to torment myself with my questions? Your suggestions? Thank you for your time. I sincerely ask moderators to add my story! Thank you! or not to write to him and continue to torment myself with my questions? Your suggestions? Thank you for your time. I sincerely ask moderators to add my story! Thank you! or not to write to him and continue to torment myself with my questions? Your suggestions? Thank you for your time. I sincerely ask moderators to add my story! Thank you!
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Interesting. Personally, this individual looks to me like another, waiting for you to pass a few times and dump. You can just ask him what's up and that's it. As a man, I can tell you that sex in a relationship matters. But it is NOT in the first place.
Hello, I don't think you should write to him anymore, it doesn't make sense, he only wanted sex obviously and when he saw that it wouldn't happen, he gave up. If you keep writing him emails and asking him, "Why? What has changed?" You'll probably push him away even more because the boy obviously doesn't want to offend you by telling you that he only wants sex and you don't let him, there's no point in seeing each other, if he tells you that, I don't think you'll like it, so he probably avoids your questions. The boy is obviously a tailor and is looking for easy dumps. Even if you ask him why he withdrew from you, he will not tell you the truth, he is more likely to lie to you than to beat the numbers. F 26
Do not write to him and do not deal with him. He has decided to let you torment yourself with questions, as you yourself mentioned. After you write to him, then you are interested, he sees this and does not write, and on the street when you spot yourself, you pretend to be hit only because you didn't let him go and he takes revenge, so to speak - what a cliché! Think in perspective - what is the chance to find a better one (because I can't judge because we don't know each other)? If he is nothing and you really want him - talk to him and get well. If he is very big, big or something - do not deal with this typical thinking boy at all - find someone more oriented who will appreciate you more and will respect your reluctance to have sex from the second meeting :) Boy, 16
Don't write to him. Whatever you write to him, then you will regret it. And there is no point in tormenting yourself. In my opinion, you have a good idea of his motivation. But don't despair! Not everyone is like that. :) Ж26
The man just saw that you don't want him for sure from his point of view, and from me, when he does something like that to me - I just forget it and move forward. Are you crazy to wait for you, so there are many others .. So, when I look, you only hold that you have dignity, as a fact, but this fact is not the truth that makes you so "curious" - why they "ignored". I think in a relationship I don't just think about sex, but anyway. I don't think he "ignores" you because you didn't "let him go." He just knew the job wouldn't work. I have no suggestions, if there is at least a little of my masculine dignity.
"Why is it so difficult for you, boys and men, to say things in plain text? So my request to you, readers, is to advise me what to do - to write to him again, ignoring the fact that I too have dignity. and to pray for a crumb of his attention (how pathetic it sounds: D) or to write him a novel, brazenly asking why he ignores me like that, or not to write to him and continue to torment myself with my questions? "- If a woman does not feel how the relationship with a man develops, then the direct refusal will not understand. I was patient for a long time and wondered about the stupid topics about "big" love, but now I decided to write my opinion. At this age, what do you expect from an immature boy? His hormones are so raging that he is just looking for a vent for this energy, no feelings of love bother him as girls do. That's why your expectations differ. At this age, you are just a temporary holder, but you are so insane that you fantasize that you are making love. You realize only when you are spent by a few boys, but then you are already in the team of muffins. Author, don't get attached to him, this is a tactic. It is used for more stubborn girls, it seems to turn its back on you, but you are still on the list of those targeted. If you show a little weakness, he will take advantage of this and achieve his goal. If you are only looking for the number, do not waste your time, let him go and then he will surely lose you permanently. It is used for more stubborn girls, it seems to turn its back on you, but you are still on the list of those targeted. If you show a little weakness, he will take advantage of this and achieve his goal. If you are only looking for the number, do not waste your time, let him go and then he will surely lose you permanently. It is used for more stubborn girls, it seems to turn its back on you, but you are still on the list of those targeted. If you show a little weakness, he will take advantage of this and achieve his goal. If you are only looking for the number, do not waste your time, let him go and then he will surely lose you permanently.
Honestly, his act is quite immature, and it is expected that when he is 19 years old he should behave at least a little mature. Look, I understand you're tormented, and to some extent we're all like that when something like this happens. You are 18 years old, the world is in front of you and you should not bother in your mind at all why it did not happen or why he behaves this way, etc. More boys are like that, this is the situation. In my opinion, if he liked you even a little, he wouldn't behave the way you describe him. I don't think it's worth the effort. Under no circumstances should you neglect your dignity, especially for a person who obviously just wants one sex.
Why should you fall to his level? If he wants this, even if you leave him, it will only be because of his carnal desire. If you want something more just wait. I've dated a lot of girls, I'm your age, and I know that if someone writes me a novel, let's call it that she's obsessed. This will give him a trump card, he will write you 2-3 nice words, you will sleep with him and the next day you will write your next topic here. Greetings and good luck;)
Men love simple things. All these torments of yours, what does he think and whether he likes you, etc. - I'm sure he doesn't have it. And if you start chasing him, that you want to talk, to explain yourself ... - you lost him at the moment. So you ask him a simple question with a yes-no answer. Like, "Do you want a cup of coffee?" And that's it - if he doesn't even think it's necessary to answer that, don't think about it anymore. Success!
You don't have to look for it anymore. You have met a place where there are many like him who just want to take advantage.
Thank you very much to absolutely everyone for your comments, definitely when there is someone to advise you, things look better. Until # 5, I don't see what a sense of dignity has to do with curiosity. Just because I have dignity and I intend to defend it does not mean that I am not curious to find answers. And if he doesn't ignore me for not letting him go, then what job did he realize wouldn't happen? A little controversy, don't you think? Otherwise, thanks for your time!
No, I just think, how do you understand me in the speech.
You have enough comments when I look, I have not read them, and I will hardly tell you anything different, but if someone missed something, I will be quite comprehensive. So, first of all, your smallest mistake is that you didn't let him go. All normal 19-year-old men, as you imagine us, have sex. The work comes from biology, hormones, nonsense, possibly about "procreation." The culture of mankind has changed tremendously in 2000 years, and from a biological point of view we have not moved an inch. Now there are condoms, people do not become parents while we are still in puberty - things are different. However, men continue to stubbornly want sex and that's it. The point is that nowadays it is perceived as unfortunate and immoral to want a woman just for sex - I'm not arguing, and I'm taught that - but it's hard to go against the genes you are it takes will .. on the other hand, many boys our age are too spoiled to abstain in any way. That's why we don't talk to each other when we only want sex - because it's unacceptable and sounds repulsive. Accordingly, situations like yours occur. The dude obviously wasn't in love with you when he stopped contact in that way, but you thought he was nice, and what - he decided to give it a try - if he did, he would. That's why I'm telling you that it's good that you didn't let him - you're obviously not just looking for sex, and you don't seem likely to get it anymore. Now is the time of your choice and you understand the options very correctly. I keep going - he doesn't talk to you because he understands that he won't get what he wants to have with you, and if I know myself well enough now he's a little ugly. If you really try to get his interest back (I believe that you remember how) in all probability you will succeed. Lastly, because you want advice, don't do it. Not only because you are obviously not just looking for sex, but also because it is a matter of principle. Don't reward him for being a jerk. You should not let men think that they can do whatever they want with you. That way you won't teach them to respect you. So in short - look for another well-read jerk - we are many: D