Hello, I read a lot of topics on this issue and decided to share mine. I am a 20 year old woman I have been in a relationship with a 30 year old man of 4 and a half years. I am always the one who grumbles about having sex, there has been a case in which I even prayed to him and he says only one thing: I am tired and asleep, that's where it all ends. I see that he really works a lot and is tired, but that's it. I started to think that she didn't like me, I'm not the first beauty, but I'm cute, I'm weak, I don't know. I even noticed him on the laptop a few times watching porn while I'm in the room and he even gets up and doesn't want to have sex with me. Otherwise he behaves super nice, he is happy, he kisses me, we hug but there is no sex, it happens once a month. I don't know if it's my fault, if something's wrong with me, if he really doesn't like me, if I'm tired of him, but I really love him, and I feel terrible. How many times have we quarreled because of this 1 week there is a change to the next all the same, and this problem has been for almost 2 years, we talk, and there is no use. I don't think I like him anymore and that's it. Help
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You are like married with children. Al Bundy goes to strip bars and enjoys babes, and his wife at home begs him for sex and he doesn't want to. Men are like that, most of what to do, their wives are tired of them and they don't care anymore. This does not mean that they do not love them, just men are conquerors, once they conquer, you stop being interesting to them. Buy erotic lingerie, start going to the gym or change your hairstyle, but definitely with some super sexy and feminine hairstyle. You can also change the intimate hairstyle. Demonstrate a good mood and you will see how he will start to wonder if you have not found a lover, you will suddenly seem like sexy prey to him and he will start to show interest in you.
You are 20 years old and life is ahead of you. Drop it. In 10 years you will cry a lot. If you don't experiment now and don't go wild, when? Tell him these things in his eyes and if things don't work out, grab your luggage and you'll be gone.
I hope the same thing doesn't happen to me. And my friend is 10 years older than me, for now everything is fine, there are sometimes days when we do not have sex, because he is either tired or his kidney stone calls and it hurts, but in general we do. But I also thought that he might get tired of looking at me in the evening with wide T-shirts and a ponytail, so I will take the advice of number 1 to see that there is something else to surprise him. Try it too! Success!
Buy a vibrator and do it in front of him, he may like it.
Quite simple. There is another. Tired, asleep, working ... blabbering. If a relationship has a problem - first the sex begins to show. Ask the question on the edge - either to perform his duties or you will look for someone else to do it. If it continues like this, things will get worse. You are young, you can afford to restart.
Apparently you don't arouse him enough .... I wouldn't "ask" him for sex in your place, but I would directly undress and take him out of his pants, and I would blow him until he obeys me to have sex with me . If that doesn't work, talk to him seriously! Tell him that you are offended by him, and you think that there is another or that he no longer wants you. If that doesn't burn him either ... look for someone else.
And yes, buy erotic lingerie and erotic costumes. There's no way he won't want you then ... the idea is to find exactly this suit or underwear that will suit you and make you irresistible.
Did it ever occur to you that he might be small?