Hello from me. I am writing here because I am already completely desperate. I can't and don't know how to handle myself. Well, my story is this: I'm a girl, 16 years old. You must have thought from the title that I'm lazy and I have a problem with that. Unfortunately, this is not the case. I have an older sister who is 18 and graduating this year. My father works in Germany and earns an extremely good salary, and my mother is unemployed and supposedly in Bulgaria to "look after" us. I can't believe my mother and sister are lazy. Tired of watching them, you know? I'm generally an understanding, hard-working girl, but she can't stand it. When my father comes home from Germany, they are "obedient", they pretend to be hardworking, otherwise I do everything and in the end I get the least. We have 2 houses and 1 apartment. I fix everything myself and in the house, in which we are at the moment (which has 14 rooms + 3 bathrooms) clean it all by itself. Oh, both my grandparents live with us, in 3 rooms, but they are understanding people and help me as much as they can for their age. My mother and sister spend their money like crazy and do nothing. Our houses are newly furnished, so are the apartments. I clean everything myself. Recently (less than a month) new neighbors came against us. Understood people came out, but both the woman and the man went to work and had an 18-year-old son.
He is well-mannered, he is beautiful, but he constantly takes girls to them, but I can't confuse him. They are a good family, with a good income. A month ago, they were looking for a girl to clean during the day. I decided to give it a try, I thought that at least there would be no one to lie down and watch me clean and not help me. They have 1 cook, 1 woman in charge of their garden (gardener, they have a huge, beautiful orchard. It is very nice to go there) and 1 cleaner, but their house is just huge and one of their cleaners could not do it alone. I talked to my father, he was against it at first, so did my mother and sister, but I talked very well with my father and he agreed. And the neighbors didn't believe I could do it because I still go to school, but that has changed. I'm with them until 5 o'clock, after which I go home. They pay me weekly. Lately I've started to like it, because when I come home it's always a pigsty, it doesn't matter how much I cleaned last day, it's just at home ... I have no words to describe it. I like working with the neighbors, at least there are other women who do something and are nice. I go to school, go home at 12, then work until 19 - 19: 30 (until evening) and when I get home I just want to prick my eyes when I see what I'm eating. More than once I have returned to our second house to be alone and because there is work there as well. However, it must be ventilated. I also stayed with the neighbors, because everyone who works there has a room, but I can't sleep well there and often if I stay there at night I come across the son of my bosses, because he, like me, can't sleep and just we walk in the garden and talk. It can be said that he is already my best friend, because I only have friends at school. Then we don't look for each other, because while I'm at work my phone is turned off. I talk to my best friend every night while I'm cleaning. In short, this is - I have a terrible mother and a terrible sister. They are both terribly arrogant and lazy. They spend like crazy, but they are too lazy to move 1 plate.
Please tell me what to do ... Just to insert - everything is fine with the school. I'm doing well on the water, I'm an excellent student. I don't want you to offer me a job because I only feel good there. I have days off and I have some time to sit at the computer, so please, if anyone knows what to do - write faster so I can see it. Give ideas - how to make them move a little and at least help me with something because I can't take it anymore. Thank you very much to everyone who paid attention. if anyone knows what to do - write faster so I can see it. Give ideas - how to make them move a little and at least help me with something because I can't take it anymore. Thank you very much to everyone who paid attention. if anyone knows what to do - write faster so I can see it. Give ideas - how to make them move a little and at least help me with something because I can't take it anymore. Thank you very much to everyone who paid attention.
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Get me a cleaner. It is very clear that they will not touch anything, as they are not used to. And I've been calling a cleaner lately, and I've completely gotten used to some things.
What does your dad work? Your story is very intriguing and from what I have read I can judge you to be a very good girl, keep it up.
Suffer another 2 years you will not feel how it will pass quickly. Then, when you become a student at the age of 18, find a good job to combine with the lectures and get out of there. They will not change and will not appreciate what you do for them. So darling, when you turn 18 you start learning to work and support yourself as soon as your people don't appreciate you, someone else will do it!
Is Vasil Iliev alive and your father? : D 14 rooms and 3 bathrooms. What are 3 bathrooms for a person? It is true that when they get rich people get nerdy! 3 bathrooms! In one sig you wash your feet, in the other your buttocks, and the third is for the dog?
Hello! The story I read is like scripts from some movie, I hope it's really true, not a fiction! My advice is to keep working there and when you get home don't waste anything! For a day, two, a week, your mother and sister will be fed up with misery and will hold hands a little! Tell your father (in your words you understand each other well) and let him startle them a little! If you live in Sofia or another big city they will be able to hire a cleaner, and if you are in a small city (like mine) they may not succeed, but I hope they get their hands on it!
You will hardly be able to change them. Maybe if you talk to your father about how things are while he's gone, he can try to tighten the situation. Still not sure. I do not advise you to stop cleaning and wait for them to remember, because you are harming yourself. Do it with the thought that it will be good for you to have it cleaned. Otherwise congratulations. You seem like a good, smart and hard-working girl to me. Keep going and you will succeed.
I can't give advice on how to move, but we will express an opinion. Obviously you have a problem ... It's not normal to be so obsessed with cleanliness, even to be a cleaner somewhere and give you pleasure ... However, my advice is to move alone to one of your other homes or if you can't choose the biggest room in the house for you and make it like a small apartment. It will be clean, calm and without problems. I also advise you to seek psychological help, I repeat - your behavior is not normal.
From the author: Thank you all :) To number 4: Not that anything, but if you haven't read, my grandparents live with us. Accordingly, one bathroom is theirs. The other is at one end of the house and the third at the other that one bathroom has a bathtub and the other has only a shower. Acquaintances and friends of the family often visit us. :) Do you understand now? I don't think we're "rich" enough to make millions fall from the sky. It's just that my father has a good profession and knows how to make money. :)) To number 7: I don't know if I have a problem, but until the age of ten my mother was more or less hardworking. They taught me how to wash dishes, sweep the yard, helped, but after a while I realized that I transferred all the responsibilities for the frequency at home to myself and my mother was neglected. Maybe it's partly my fault. I didn't say being a cleaner gives me pleasure, and that in my workplace there is no one to lie and watch me clean, and I get some salary from what I'm used to doing anyway. I can't move to our other homes and drop everything - my mother's friends come home every day and relatives often come to visit us. Thanks to everyone though, I will do my best to get them in order :))
Well, you have 2 more years to endure - and there will be no smoke :) What other advice to give you? !! To stop cleaning, wash and do the quota there and so on. To fix themselves. Keep your own room, bathroom, possibly part of the kitchen clean and tidy, so that you can eat and that's it. Girl, my respects to every job, and to your father's, but as you write, 14 rooms ??? Well, grandma, grandpa, friends, and guests ... So 2 houses, 1 apartment ?? !! Don't talk at least here about such extras, another issue is that they are unnecessary 70% .. There are people who live in one or two rooms .. Well, the complexes will jump that we do not have, envy. It's not about envy. And for elementary tact, humanity and tolerance, whatever you call it there. Let it not turn out that you are bragging ... / If it is a real topic at all, something reminds me of something found on the site, but I can't remember what ... /
Hello author! Now is the time, just at your age, to realize that you can't and shouldn't try to command the lives of others. Without seeing live we cannot judge whether your mother is lazy or you are too immersed in purity / there is such a disease /. However, you have to learn one thing, you are an equal member of your family and you have no right to command the lives of others. They will live as they want, if they like, they will wash their dishes once a week, in good financial condition they can decide to throw away their dishes after each use and not wash dishes at all. Being a member of a family does not give you the right to determine the order in it. Separately, you are still the child in the family and your parents are the ones who determine the order. The house is owned by your mother and when she wants then she will clean! You don't even have the right to find out if someone has done their job, because you are not the employer in the case. I am a woman and I am a mother and I can't even think of my children one day allowing themselves to say when and how much to clean. If I'm not happy to dust the sections today, no one in my house can make me. After all, both the home is mine and the section is mine. Of course, I don't mind if someone in my family wants to and wipes the dust off, but that's his decision.
I'm just interested in what 5-6 people do in 14 rooms and how they manage to pollute everyone: D
I couldn't understand - why don't you go and live in another of your properties? What if your mother's friends come to HER? If you have to shine, I don't understand something.