So ... My very close friend and I have known each other for about a year. We have always shared, we go out in the company of discos, bars, we have fun. The thing is, I got quite used to it and started falling in love. Of course, I didn't tell him because I was afraid he would pull away from me and our friendship would turn away. The worst came when he recently went with a girl and I later found out. We hadn't heard from each other for about a week and then things worked out ... I asked him why he didn't share, and he answered that everything happened super quickly and imperceptibly ... The bad thing for me is that I hope I don't has sunk too far into it and I can win it. Basically, I feel a jealousy (or I wish it was) when I wrote to someone or went out ... he - he doesn't like them and most often he tells me " How can you write to him "A few nights ago, I went out to a tavern, his girlfriend and other people in a company. There he hugged her, kissed her, but I also met a boy (he was naughty) and danced and hugged him (without kissing him) Then we exchanged numbers with the new boy and my friend saw him, he sent his boyfriend to the taxi and we both went home on foot (we live in the same neighborhood) Then he started asking me about that new boy, if I liked him and if there's something special. Then he hugged me and we walked all the way, huddled together. I admit it was the best part of the evening, no matter how cold it was outside. I told him I cared a lot about him and that he a man who deserves it, then I kissed his brother and cheek (neck because I didn't get his cheek first). He hugged me even tighter and kissed my head. Is he just such a friend of mine that when he finds out how much I like him, he doesn't want to hurt me? (he must have realized that I like him or ...) Before we parted, I hugged him again and kissed him on the cheek (and he hugged me hard) .... I know he's with another and that weighs a lot on me ... He is my friend, but I like him for more ...
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If you hold on to him, let him be with this girl, because that's his choice for now. However, you do not know their relationship and you do not know how and why they actually left, so be just a bystander and if he decides to take a step towards you, he will do it. Do not allow your feelings to intensify now, because it is not clear how long they will last together and if their relationship becomes more serious, only you will suffer.
Share your feelings before things get more serious with his girlfriend and see what his reaction is. If you continue like this, you will feel worse until you get depressed. If it turns out that he has feelings for you - great. Otherwise, disconnect any connection until you overcome it. There is no such movie "only friends, but I love you", because it starts with some huge dramas and pains.
don't wait, just admit to him how you feel about him
I give you a month. Then I'm waiting for a story about how your relationship is going. : D :)
If you have feelings, say them, because they will eat you all your life. You see him in private and say in his eyes --- I love you! I don't know if you have feelings for me, but I would like us to be more than friends! and you kiss him where you want. For a safer mouth. And you look him in the eye. You tell him ---- I don't want to bother you, but I can't keep my love for you! I love you! and you kiss him on the mouth again, holding the kiss longer. And of course, if you manage to shed a tear ...... HE IS YOURS. I wish you success. Be sure the reputation will not hurt you.
You are very interesting to me, women. Didn't you learn that men don't usually read between the lines and constantly analyze your behavior to understand what you're thinking? Tell him directly as you want and point.
Why are you attacking the girl? The man is the one who has to take the first step and take down the woman. If he hasn't done anything, then he doesn't deserve it - that's it.
Number 11, here it is obvious that the girl already likes him. If she doesn't want to torture herself, now is the time for her to do something about it herself, otherwise she will have to wait. Outdated views such as "man always takes the first step" you can keep them for the 19th century.
He hugs you, he's gone with another ... this man is fickle, why you want to bond with him, I don't know. You are only friends, but he went with another one, because maybe he wants sex, and he sees from you a purely friendly behavior and no such flirtations on your part ... unfortunately, this is obviously what he is looking for - a relationship for sex. I don't know what he's looking for, I don't understand people in general with these sexes, it's full of such topics here and I see that the main problem is sex, not the relationship between a boy and a girl - understanding, support, etc. Didn't you understand that This is a dull carnal need and has nothing to do with love and in no way shows that you love the other person, I don't know. You can want love, he might want sex, I don't know anything. Talk to him and that's it. If you want to commit, don't have high hopes for a successful relationship, after you have been friends for a long time, see how he went with someone who kisses her in front of you on display. Apparently he wants you to give him up on his own, because he doesn't have the courage to tell you that he doesn't want you around his head anymore and has decided in this low way to show you that he is committed and thinks of another, he has another , serious relationships aim and that you are already in the background and wants to end such a close relationship with you. I do not know. I've read a lot of novels and that's just my reasoning, but it can be any story and the reason is with another and so it shows you so and so. Boy-25 that he no longer wants to be around his head and has decided in this low way to show you that he is committed and thinking about another, he has another, serious relationship aims and that you are already in the background and wants to end so close your relationship with you. I do not know. I've read a lot of novels and that's just my reasoning, but it can be any story and the reason is with another and so it shows you so and so. Boy-25 that he no longer wants to turn his head and has decided in this low way to show you that he is committed and thinking about another, he has another, serious relationship is aimed at and that you are already in the background and wants to end so close your relationship with you. I do not know. I've read a lot of novels and that's just my reasoning, but it can be any story and the reason is with another and so it shows you so and so. Boy-25
Yes, I care about him a lot. But I have nothing to do. He likes her and when he's happy, I'm happy too. When we all get together, she doesn't separate from her - I suspect she's quite jealous ... and she's probably jealous of me too, because I'm always with them. It doesn't matter, I don't think I'll interfere, in such a developed situation - obviously there is nothing to me but friendship ..., and even if there is with her, it's not strong enough. It is interesting that since his girlfriend is not there, he clings to me and he even told me that I should trust him the most. He hugs me and gets annoyed that I'm dating other guys ... From the author
Author, the behavior you describe cannot continue - he has a girlfriend but is constantly glued to you the rest of the time. He has no right to dictate who you trust, nor to keep track of who you date. Even if you didn't have feelings, this is not normal behavior, he behaves like an emotional parasite. It's time to end your relationship or set strict limits on what you can't afford. The problem with having feelings for him is the stupid idea that you can be friends and not cause problems. The thing is, however, that you are the one who suffers the most while he scratches his ego at your expense. You need to let him know that you can't be that close if you have a girlfriend. You can even admit to him your feelings that his behavior confuses you and stop behaving that way. And the best option, in my opinion, is to follow it all with a complete breakup of your relationship until you overcome it. There is no such thing as friendship, as long as one has romantic feelings for the other. It's just a form of emotional harassment.