Hello everyone! I'm writing this because I have a big problem in my relationship that I can't solve and I'm going crazy. I (18 years old) and my friend (20 years old) have been together for 3 years. He was my first big love. In short, I liked him for a very long time (about 5 years) before fate decided to bring us together. I was in seventh heaven. It was amazing. Our relationship was wonderful, the first year was unforgettable. We were for each other. Until my second year, I began to feel my feelings for him diminish. I don't know how to explain it, but I was still looking for the attention of other boys. After a while, I started wanting to try new things because I wanted to feel the thrill from the beginning again. I thought for a long time what to do, I didn't know if it was worth throwing away a wonderful relationship for that. I looked at other boys, but I loved him. My main problem is, that I don't know what to do. I know I'm at the age you want to live to the max, but I still don't know what to do. I still love it, but I miss the thrill. I think if he tries to win me over again or we try new things, it can happen, we talked about it and he wanted us to try to make things right. He loves me very much, I dare say he adores me, he doesn't look at anyone but me and I still miss something. I don't want to leave him, but I'm thinking of other boys. I can't imagine parting, I will be very sad, as he is. I wanted to hear your advice, should we take a break or part forever or something that if he tried to win me over again or try new things, it could work, we talked about it and he wanted us to try to make things right. He loves me very much, I dare say he adores me, he doesn't look at anyone but me and I still miss something. I don't want to leave him, but I'm thinking of other boys. I can't imagine parting, I will grieve as much as he does. I wanted to hear your advice, should we take a break or part forever or something? that if he tried to win me over again or try new things, it could work, we talked about it and he wanted us to try to make things right. He loves me very much, I dare say he adores me, he doesn't look at anyone but me and I still miss something. I don't want to leave him, but I'm thinking of other boys. I can't imagine parting, I will be very sad, as he is. I wanted to hear your advice, should we take a break or part forever or something?
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I think you should tell him what you wrote here and look for a solution together, yes, maybe parting. Do not lie in any way and do not cheat. Be sure to break up with him before you start something new, be true to yourself and your principles and I did not turn the memories of this relationship into AD with infidelity and lies g35
Well, there are cases where the crash was simple and after the initial euphoria decreases and disappears, but with you it seems not so. You haven't described it well enough, and in the end only you feel it and know it, but if it hasn't disappeared completely, you're looking for the thrill from the beginning, and it's normal for it to disappear AFTER the beginning, because it's ONLY for the beginning . If you don't love him anymore ... naughty, if you just miss the thrill ... good morning that's supposed to be. It won't be exciting all your life with butterflies in your stomach - things calm down and calm down and build trust and security. the place of the crazy thrill from the beginning. And then you need it, you'll find out in a few years. I don't know how you feel, but these are my two theories.
Now are the carefree times to live. If you pass 22-25, it becomes cloudy and bloody. Do not spoil your wonderful years due to prejudices and self-flagellation. Even if you make mistakes, everyone should make the necessary stock.
When I hear you, dear girls, that you want to live to the max, do not say "I want to live to the max." Tell yourself directly that you want to fuck like animals with every second person you meet and that you don't care how the other person feels. Garo
Your relationship is broken. It happens, especially when you're 18, especially when you've only been with one person. Separate best. You will save yourself a lot of trouble moments and situations. Brother.
It all comes down to learning to look at the person next to you every day as if seeing him for the first time. It sounds fantasy and impossible, but it's not. You remind yourself of his good qualities, you strive to diversify, to behave well, to make small gestures and surprises often enough. Relationships do not develop on their own and love does not grow without food. Efforts are made for these things, the difference is that these efforts are not obligations and should not make you feel like you are at work. Of course, if the one next to you is not what you want and does not satisfy you emotionally, things will not work out. You will always be bored, annoying, you will always bring his bad qualities to the forefront and you will have the feeling that his good sides are less and do not tip the scales. There are passengers for each train. Think about the extent to which you can be with this boy for another 3 years, for example. Do you want it in 10 years? The answers will make you understand much more about your relationship than breaking up. If you separate, you will start to miss him and then there will be a thrill again, and this same thrill will disappear the second you feel safe and everyday life grabs you again.
Another thrill is looking for a new thrill.
The only thing that can be said is that you are young! And what kind of person you will become depends only on you and you will prove it with your actions.
Do it with someone else, but secretly, do not tell anyone and then you will make a decision after you have experienced being with another or others. Otherwise, you will only think about it and you will not be able to make a sober decision about what you want. You need to have a basis for comparisons. Now if you don't try, when? When you create a home, children and family? Don't listen to pseudo-moralists at all. Your life is yours and you decide what is best for you. Try, but secretly, not a word to anyone and then judge.