Hi, I'm a 19 year old girl. I am from a small town, I work here, but a month ago I had to go to Sofia for 1 month for personal reasons. I was fired and left. I was alone in the apartment. The first night a boy from Sofia wrote to me and invited me for a walk. I was very bored, so I agreed. I didn't expect anything to happen. We went out, took a walk, talked for about 3 hours and then went home. For the next 4 days we continued to go out every day, we went to cafes, discos, introduced me to my friends, relatives. I had problems with the landlady and he offered to move in with them while I was in Sofia. At first I hesitated a lot, but later I agreed. I packed my bags and moved into them. We were like boyfriends. We kissed, hugged, went out everywhere together, with his friends, etc. He is 23 and lives alone. I would say that his family is quite wealthy, they have a family business that is going great for them and they lead a very different lifestyle than mine. He was wonderful to me. We lived together, I couldn't believe it. Maybe I was in a hurry to move into them so fast, but I'm not sorry.
He told me a lot - how his ex betrayed him, how he is not looking for a girl who is the most beautiful, but just wants to be loyal and sincere with him. I wanted to show him that I was serious, that I was looking for a serious relationship, I tried to gain his trust. When he went out and was left alone in them, I always cleaned, cooked and he was generally very happy. I don't know why, but he's pretty shy. We went to bed every night, and he never once reached out to me to have sex, nor did he hint at me ... None of my friends believe me, but it's a fact which to me is pretty weird. Even in the evening, when I wished him good night, he asked me if he could kiss me. For the first time I come across such a boy. I don't know what this is due to, maybe he wants a serious relationship? Or is he just shy? It was time to leave (2 days ago) and only then I realized how attached I was to him. He sent me away, and I cried. I could not believe that I was returning to my city, which is 200 km from his. When he sent me, he told me when I would come to call again, but I couldn't say a word, I just nodded because I would cry even more. I hugged him tightly, kissed him, thanked him for everything, got in the car and left with tears in my eyes. People, even at the moment I'm writing here, my eyes are filling up, I want to be with him, I just haven't come across such a boy before, no one treated me that way. There is no room for comparison with my ex, who was a complete idiot. I would give anything to be with him. I am considering moving to live in Sofia, starting a job there and living and living together. But how do I know if he feels the same way about me?
My mother advised me to go to Sofia one day, to call him, to see him and tell him everything directly, to ask him what he thinks about moving to Sofia, and whether he wants to be with me ... No I know if it will be right, as I mentioned above, he is quite shy and I don't know if he will be shocked if I tell him all this directly. I think about it around the clock, it's been gone for 2 days, and I miss it so much. We rarely write to each other on the social network because he is at work all day and no one knows how long. I feel like I'm crazy, I've never felt that way. I go crazy thinking he can find another one while I'm in my town. He just has to tell me that we will be together and I am ready to go to Sofia immediately. Please give me advice, how to proceed ...?
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- "I would say that his family is quite wealthy, they have a family business that is going great for them" Eheee barnaled his goldfish. That shy, what's better than that? You can live with him without paying rent and spending his money, while playing with other men. I am very interested, how do you meet someone and after 4 days you move in with him? And what he pointed out about his wealthy family. A man with financial means, a shy man under a slipper and, above all, asexual. The perct gold mine. "He just has to tell me that we will be together and I am ready to go to Sofia immediately." So how can you not leave ??? An apartment, coins and a slipper are waiting for you. Come gas to Sofia and then write what happened :)))) p.p. - I'm sorry for such balaclavas, like the boy in question
Abe, it's very easy to live together. Doesn't it seem to you that there is something suspicious - you catch a girl from the net, you clap your hands, and you are transported to him in the first week.? After everything is OK, why does he send you as a third cousin and invite you to call him again one day? Why didn't you have sex? Why don't you communicate online now, lest it work 24 hours a day? You are very naive and thank you for not coming across a psychopath. Although that's where this case goes.
Eeeee, the villains should call immediately. My advice is to tell him how you feel, do what your mother told you. Don't pay attention to envious people! :)
I think he's gay and pretends to be straight in front of people or parents. It's weird to sleep in a house and he doesn't even try to be intimate. He may be a great gentleman and just waited, but the very fact that you don't communicate much now speaks in favor of the first assumption. What if he works hard, if he wants he will look for you. Invite him to come to your city and see how he reacts. You do not explain yourself to him in love, wait to see what he is like.
From the author to number 2: What exactly are you talking about in doubt? Talk to me directly, because I also want to find the answers to all these questions. So who in their right mind would live with someone in the first week, sleep in the same bed with her every night and not even touch her ...?
I am 2. Mom, is it really that easy - you come to Sofia for personal reasons, meet someone on the net and move in with him on the 3rd day? Because, on the other hand, 2 days before you were walking and talking? !! . If you were my daughter, I would break your head. And you still wonder what happened? Well, use your imagination.
He may not have lived through his old relationship yet and may need more time. Do not rush to conclusions. Looking for communication online. If he misses you, he will look for you / invite you to visit him again or he will just come to see you. If none of this happened, he probably needed someone to pour his soul out of the frustration of his previous relationship and relieve him! Sometimes people are more likely to share with strangers :)
The author reads only but. 3, others are a disgrace to humanity. I'm a man, 37. First let me tell you, he won't find another one because I'm convinced he feels the same way about you. He didn't touch you to gain your trust, not because he couldn't. Many men are shy about the first word or kiss, but not about sex. I don't know a man who is embarrassed to take the step between kissing and undressing unless he has a physical problem that makes him ashamed. If I were you, I would immediately pack my bags for Sofia, take a room in a cheap hotel or hostel, for one or two evenings and call him when he arrives. When I see you, I would tell him everything you tell us here that you are attached to him and want to be together. Tell him, that she would like you to be together in a dormitory or if you have to even live as before, just to be with him. Tell him you'll be happy to help you find a job so you don't weigh on his neck. As a last resort, just when you arrive in Sofia, say "I came for you". He will guess what to tell you and offer. Come on success! Make us happy here.
Well, you decide, but I have a lot of friends like this. I can sleep with them for a hundred years and there will be no sex. From personal experience I tell you that you will have a good relationship, but platonic. There's a reason he's so shy about sex. Either he's very young, he knows it and that's why he avoids sex, or he's very non-sexual, and probably both. If you are not interested in sex and you are ready to see an asexual relationship, you will feel good with it. But I would not give this one more than 10 cm, combined with a very small sexual experience. A gifted man never behaves like that!
Believe me, this is a conscious boy. Why be gay? !! The fact that some people are used to sleeping with different on their first date is their problem, do not miss the boy, because of people's opinions. You will rarely meet a boy who is more interested in your smile than your nudity.
The argument that he did not touch her does not give 100% certainty that he is gay. He may be hyper-romantic and hovering in the clouds, or he may be a hidden masochist (he enjoys abstinence and self-control) or a highly moral person (yes, there are such cases these days, they are not completely gone). Not all men are primary. Author, you judge for yourself whether you are not too passionate about him and whether such sublime platonic relationships will not come to you at some point. Instead of wondering what's going on, you'd better take up the subject of homosexuality and share that you have such a friend. Ask him in 2 words, you will always find out if your new friend has a more unusual sexual orientation. If you find that he is not, you can try to seduce him to see if there is sexual interest. He may be passive as a partner and his sexual fantasies may be about an active woman. I think she's looking for the dominant, but covertly. That is, a seemingly modest and sweet girl, but in fact a dominant and demanding woman. Try to give him orders;) For example: Call me at exactly 9 o'clock, because otherwise I'm coming to Sofia and you will get hurt, etc.