People, I need help! Most likely professional, but I still don't have the opportunity and maybe at a later stage I will visit a psychologist. I have a problem. I don't know what happened to me, in principle I'm a very radiant, cheerful, good girl, but lately things are not like that at all. I am constantly nervous, at times I feel aggression. Everything irritates me (just to mention that I'm not in puberty) and I'm so nervous that I feel hellishly exhausted and physically. I've never taken things that way, I've always been positive. Maybe my glass overflowed or I don't know, but I know my behavior is not normal, and I feel really bad. The things that may have provoked this behavior of mine are that I feel very rejected and misunderstood. I don't know how to socialize with more people, I can't find a common language, I stay withdrawn, and I want new acquaintances. I feel envious of my girlfriends (something I was unfamiliar with before) who achieve something in their lives because I am dissatisfied with my own and I can't do anything. I do not feel emotional and affection from my family, they are almost in no way interested in what is happening to me and it strains me even more (they are such in principle, but apparently I'm not used to all these years). I'm so used to people showing emotions to me that when my friend does it, I strain again ... I try to change it, to make it the way I want it. I get annoyed by everything that makes "wrong" in my mind, and I know it's damn wrong, but I can't stop! He is quite different from me - he does not seek approval, he does not comply with people when he does not export, and I am just the opposite. I just so desperately want to be accepted, I want love, I want to be no different, and I can't even explain why ... I just know that it won't last that long, I'm hurting myself and destroying my psyche and health. I really hope if someone has experienced the same to share their methods of overcoming, because I do not know how to get out of this hole and be the previous radiant girl. And if there aren't any - just pour the things that weigh on me. Thanks! because I don't know how to get out of this hole and be the previous radiant girl. And if there aren't any - just pour the things that weigh on me. Thanks! because I don't know how to get out of this hole and be the previous radiant girl. And if there aren't any - just pour the things that weigh on me. Thanks!
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"The things that may have provoked this behavior of mine are that I feel very rejected and misunderstood." - that's why love is a boy, right here is its power. Find a favorite creature - I do not specify a man or a dog, but to be your favorite and then the sun will rise in your soul, everything else is temporary!
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I am currently going through a similar period, but with the difference that I do not have a friend and my family is even too worried about me. There is a way out, but know that the key to this is in your head, where the problems come from. From the fact that you are constantly seeking approval from others, I can conclude that you have relatively low self-esteem. The paradox is that the most capable and intelligent people suffer from this. Look for ways to prove not so much to others as to yourself that you are a successful and respectable person. Start small, for example, to schedule the next day to complete as many tasks as possible. In the end, you will feel satisfied and even proud of yourself. Set higher and higher bars until you gain enough confidence (you should still walk on the ground, not fly over it). Another thing is that you have to stop caring about people's opinions. I know how cliché it sounds, but you have absolutely no need for it. Whatever you do or say, someone will not approve. If you like something, be it a hobby, a job or even a clothes in the store, you just have to do it without caring what others will say. It's for you, but still think carefully about each move. And lastly, to stop being jealous, look at everything you have. For example, you have a home, food on the table, you receive love from your friend, you have the opportunity to write here. Some people don't have that either. You are much happier than you think, just believe it. And for socializing - as unpleasant as it sounds, you need to fall into social situations as often as possible to learn to relax more easily among new people. If you believe that there is a positive and cheerful girl inside you, so you will become an extremely pleasant interlocutor as soon as you release him. As I said, I am going through such a period, there are moments of improvement, there are also mental decline and despair, there are also periods of stagnation. But these truths are in my head all the time, and once I can overcome any of these states, I come out of the situation even more proud of myself and confident. And you can do it! I wish you from the bottom of my heart to get out quickly and remember that you are not alone! <3 I come out of the situation even more proud of myself and confident. And you can do it! I wish you from the bottom of my heart to get out quickly and remember that you are not alone! <3 I come out of the situation even more proud of myself and confident. And you can do it! I wish you from the bottom of my heart to get out quickly and remember that you are not alone! <3