The story sounds like a teenager, although we should be adults - about 30. There is a girl I really like. I had decided that I would do 110% to be with her, even when my chances seemed small. I don't know if it will happen or not, but I will do what I can. About the girl - we drank two coffees, flirted, wrote to each other sometimes. She is nice to me, she likes it, but that's it. It gives me a chance, but it's not mine at all. Rather, I brush my ego and I'm certainly not the only candidate in the queue. Something strange happened on Sunday. I wake up at eight in the morning, open Facebook and watch - I uploaded photos at three in the morning from the disco with a man. By the way, he looked super ugly, I was surprised. They weren't intimate photos, they could be together, or it could be just a drunken night. However, I became super crooked. I call to myself - if she liked it and they are together, alive and healthy, I will have to retire and experience it. By 10 a.m., however, when she woke up, the photos had disappeared. And instead she had only uploaded hers. So, I'm very curious why a woman can upload photos with someone and delete them in a few hours? Her status is still Singe. It is possible that they have been together recently and do not want to show it. It could have been just a one-night stand or even just getting drunk in friendly company. However, after this case, I lost the desire to deal with it at all. Although I still have my feelings. Logically, I have nothing to be angry about, the chick is having fun and living her life. It makes sense for me to keep fighting - obviously things with that boy aren't serious yet, if they have anything at all. I have to act and it will either cut me off or it will happen. But somehow I can't breathe. I gasp, worrying that I'm about to intrude. I don't care about committed women, and I don't even know if they're together.
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Dude, judging by your behavior, which is of a 15-year-old insecure and confused teenager, it's not okay to say "we are 30 mature people" :) Does Facebook tell you what to do? Are you chatting? Don't you have a mouth? Call directly. Exit, invite her again and act. Or are you waiting for her to take you down? What does "we flirted" mean? I don't think there is anyone to finish the dump .... Standing and struggling .... it's not a man's job. The key word is "confidence". Sorry to be so rude and indecent, but my boyfriend is a foreigner. Because he was cheeky when he had to be. I do not want to summarize about Bulgarian men, but I will say that most of them lack confidence and self-confidence. Yes, it is human for a man to be afraid of rejection and rejection, but we as women are also afraid ... which is called: "what are we doing", eh? n. n This is not 110%. That's 30%.
I think she just got drunk and fucked someone at the disco. If you are attracted to such women, go ahead.
Maybe she just uploaded these photos in a not very sober state and when she woke up in the morning she realized how bad they look or how much they don't like them (which happens very often). If you want to be with her - act. If you no longer want to do it, just retire. But I don't think these photos are a cause for concern. If there is anything with this person, it will be clear.
Man, you have to think these things in your mind, not write on the net. You're 30 after all. How are you different from her? She went somewhere and 3 at night urgently posted pictures of the big deal. I don't know if it has anything to do with the person in question, but if he wanted to have something to do with you, he would have welded it by now. I guess you're bothering her and she's out of nowhere and she's answering something to you, no matter how useless she is.
From the author: Thanks for the comments. Special thanks to Number 1. You are absolutely right, I lack self-confidence. I try to overcome it, but it doesn't work. I have to be positive, inspired and believe that I have something to give a woman. I have to boldly invite her to a date again and again and give up if I see that there really is no chance. There is no point in thinking about it - it is very possible that he is just a friend with whom she had a momentary flirtation. Even so, I don't judge her. I have had similar ones. and almost every person I know
Ask her directly if she is alone or not. What are you guessing as a detective?
Think about it, you like how someone behaves. If someone doesn't like us, we'll always wonder if it's shared. If we do, we will be together. Self-delusion is a big cattle, we all suffer ...
Author write to her and say directly what you want - to get to know each other, go out and possibly a relationship. She will respect you for placing the cards on the table in this way. If that doesn't suit her - congratulations. Otherwise, keep in mind that her performances at the disco do not speak very well for her. It may always be that she is just a sexual person and not such a light woman, but keep one thing in mind.
Dude, I think you should worry first about the fact that a woman in her 30s uploads photos from a disco at 3 in the morning. For me personally, this would be a big brake. Serious girls at 18 don't do these things. Advice from me, study it well - what works, what education it has, what are its interests, etc.