The story is very long, but I will tell it briefly. More than a year of relationship and cohabitation. Everything is okay. Daily petty quarrels from time to time, but passed successfully. Here and there a serious scandal due to differences in character, but they passed successfully. Until a moment came when my girlfriend started avoiding me in bed. We go to bed and she turns and falls asleep. Every time he finds an excuse, but here and there we seem to have intimacy once in 2-3 attempts. After a while, he decided that there was nothing more to give in the relationship and asked us to separate. A few days passed and she decided to try again, the explanation being that my lifestyle made her suppress and close in on herself.
I've never driven anything. She always followed me on her own and complied with me on her own. I never imposed my opinion. It was a bit like reading, she's sunk a lot more than me and she's doing everything to make me okay. So we went again and so in a few weeks only a few times she came to us, of which when I tried to have intimate contact she told me that it is not okay for her to do something. After a few days, just as we talked, she put an end to it again. Out of nowhere. He said that we could be friends and quite close, but not partners. He wrote to me, called me, and we heard each other. He wrote to me every day and we went out here and there every few days. When I talked to her on the outings, she said she was adamant about the end.
When I offered to go out, she refused and said that it was better not to see each other so often, but alas, two days later she called me or wrote to see me ... There was a chase and so on until we got along. I can't get it back, she can't explain it to me. I can't understand why this is happening. How someone both does not want to be together, but is looking for you, loves you, when you tell him, you will not see him, his mood dies, he is looking for you again, but that's it. It's super confusing. He doesn't know what he wants or wants, but he can't fight the feelings. The behavior says "I want to be together, I miss you, I love you", and she says no, it's just a friendly interest between us ... I doubt there is another, I have a lot of trust and faith. I wonder how someone can avoid you intimately for so long and at the same time be with you and behave as if you are the only one in the world. The behavior says "I want to be together, I miss you, I love you", and she says no, it's just a friendly interest between us ... I doubt there is another, I have a lot of trust and faith. I wonder how someone can avoid you intimately for so long and at the same time be with you and behave as if you are the only one in the world. The behavior says "I want to be together, I miss you, I love you", and she says no, it's just a friendly interest between us ... I doubt there is another, I have a lot of trust and faith. I wonder how someone can avoid you intimately for so long and at the same time be with you and behave as if you are the only one in the world.
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I didn't read it all, maybe you're not for each other.
Maybe he feels too inferior to you, complex or something. If you want to be with her, they will have to write to her exactly what worries her, oppresses and complexes you, your way of life and what is there. She may have a personal problem, which she's ashamed to tell you about because she thinks she'd be disgusted with her, but I don't know, I guess. Otherwise, I usually leave for many different reasons. But now there is no point in talking about it :)
Hi, I'm a woman, I can tell you that there was something similar between me and a man, we broke up 2 years ago. the sex was great, but I lacked attitude, I told him more than once, but there was no change. Now we see each other from time to time only for coffee. Maybe that's your problem, I don't know.
Now I'm going to write a spectacular cliché, but it's amazing how many women think that way: she just wants you to "win" her. You say yourself that she was more sunken than you and adjusted to you in the relationship. Now she obviously wants to be courted, to have something exciting happen to her, to get out of the routine. There is another option that explains the lack of desire for sex. She may be cold to you, you are not attracted to her, but at the same time you are (maybe) the closest person to her, ie she feels emotionally connected to you rather than on a physical level. That's why it's hard for her to break away from you and she's constantly looking for you. And maybe there are thousands of other options. It is best to sit and talk. Tell her - look what, I just can't be friends with you, so decide. Either we are together in the full sense of the word, or we are separated forever. And so. :) Good luck!
The woman just wants you to change your approach to her. Maybe he needs more intimacy and friendship at this time than sex. Pretend temporarily that sex is not important to you and even avoid it if she accidentally wants to. Challenge her to want sex from you. This is most often done through conversations. The voice is also very important. The thick and deep voice greatly affects women. Slow speech, calmness, confidence. Apparently she loves you and has no strength to break up with you completely, but something in your old relationship is bothering her and with these words she wants to challenge you. To change something. Aggression repulses women, sometimes the fortress is conquered not by attack but by siege and patience. If you do not have patience and nerves for this game, ask her calmly and directly what she does not like in your relationship, to explain to you in the simplest words. Sometimes women think that the man has to guess and think of everything himself, but often this is not the case. One more piece of advice, smile at her more. Wondering what you are happy about, more radiant and cheerful, a smile is contagious.
You made a big mistake ... that is, when she was looking for you after you broke up .... brother ... she had to ignore you completely to learn to appreciate you (remember that!
Comment number 8 is the most correct! If there is a separation, you have to be very delicate, even if you were born for each other!