Hello :). I have been following the stories on this site for years and I have often found understanding in the comments. I will try to recreate my 'problem', I hope I will be able to help solve it later. I am a second year student in Sofia, majoring in computer science. So far I could not complain about my choice, but lately something has changed. Not that I don't like doing programs and doing it. On the contrary, it's fun and interesting for me. But I'm terribly lazy, and the matter is not light. I feel how far behind I am and how I can't handle anything. From there they started thinking how I can't do in life. That's where it all begins. I live in a dormitory and feel relatively well about the conditions on offer. I have never lived in affluence, no matter how much I wanted to. I was deprived a lot in my childhood and now it seems that I give them somehow more freely, I spend money on destruction and I don't do my bill at all. And this comes at the expense of my mother, who handles me on her own. I want to start a job in my specialty, but at the same time I don't feel qualified enough and somehow I postpone it. I don't have many friends, and the ones I dated until recently found halves and I stayed in the background. Here comes my other pain - I don't know how to talk about love. I have never fallen in love, I stand aside and do not let anyone near me. Not that the men killed themselves to attack me. I have no self-confidence and this is felt. I am immersed in myself, I am closed and I constantly feel only my mistakes. I feel like the biggest failure in the world. And I want to one day be someone, to be happy and loved. The problem is, that I have no motivation to do anything and time is running out. Any ideas how I can fix all this?
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With money ! it will be easier. Thanks for the good specialty. It seems normal to be difficult. I don't want to scare you, but from now on it will be even harder. Maybe those who repeated that the teen years are the sweetest were right after all!
Don't worry, when they hire them it will be clear to them that you need extra training you will not be the only one. It's very easy for me with motivation. If you want a good life and independence, you have to tighten up and study. It is not easier for others than for you, but they struggle.
Give yourself some time to accept all the changes that have happened to you in the last two years. Some people adapt quickly and don't think much of me, but others need time to assimilate that they are at a new stage in their lives and start coping in one fell swoop. It's normal to feel that way. Sooner or later you will start working, no one has run away from work and it will not happen to you. You are a sophomore and it is perfectly normal that you do not feel qualified enough to work in the specialty. Even when you graduate, you will not be fully qualified, which is why years ago every employer wanted its employees to have experience in their specialty. Skills come with work, at university you learn the basics, learn the terminology and get a glimpse of the specialty. Once they hire you and you really touch your profession, then you get really useful knowledge that makes you a good shot. In the beginning it is difficult because you have the feeling that you are completely unfit for work, but over time you get used to the rhythm and learn everything you need. Give yourself a few months to catch up with the university and start working later. For example, you can start the summer to get used to your work by the beginning of the third year and it will be easier for you. Keep in mind that you will always work in your specialty. The earlier, the better for you, because you will gain experience. As for love, it comes as soon as we stop thinking about it. Try to recover from the blows of life, get on your feet, take control of events and then start thinking about love. Your whole life is in front of you, love will not escape you. Everyone has faced a broken heart, unrequited love and complete happiness in a relationship,
Too strong a title for such minor issues. And the answer to everything is very simple - start looking hard for a job. It is not your job to judge whether you are good enough, but the interviewers'. It's your job to try. With work you will overcome laziness, you will gain experience, you will increase your self-confidence, you will be open to people and you will find someone easier.