What happens when you find the perfect partner in every aspect except appearance - you're not particularly impressed, you don't get aroused when she's naked and you prefer to be closed-eyed while doing it ... but you're cool with her , so what do you think is the future of such a relationship ...? Keep in mind that she is terribly attached, and the last thing I want is to hurt her!
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You get used to the look in a month, generally speaking. But he certainly gets used to it. You can't get used to character traits all your life. Therefore, we should not choose on the packaging, but on what is invisible to the eyes. The appearance is up to date
According to my accounts, you are launching a third topic with this question. I don't think you're just in love with her. You liked her with your mind, not your heart. And before they told you - if you do not appreciate her, let her find someone who will love her as she is. You still hurt her with this feigned love. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you like the person next to you to show you love and inwardly constantly evaluate you negatively? If this girl feels what you are and leaves you, then she will already seem to you the first beauty and irreplaceable.
I am a woman and I don't think so. I would not be in a relationship with a man who does not physically attract or arouse me. It is no less important for me to feel wanted, so I would not want to be in the place of your girl. So, no, in my opinion, such a relationship has no future and you should not feel guilty about it.
There is no future! It is not said that the person in front of you should be perfect, it is not said not to see other attractive people, but not to arouse you and to prefer to be with your eyes closed? No! The physical is the first, then everything else. From the people you want and would have sex with, you choose one that fits the direction of your life. And here not everything has to coincide, but just the basic views on the development of the relationship, family, etc. The rest is adjusted. But if you're not attracted to the beginning at all, what will it be in years to come? How do you imagine your whole life like this? Accept that it is important to you, but in a different way. In life we also love parents, friends, children, teachers, etc. But we do not have sex with them! Their role is different! You are both entitled to something else! And think - it's better to be disappointed now than years later. She has the right to a man, who wants her. You have the right to a woman you want. Think. Don't let the false guilt that eats you up make you make the biggest mistake of your life that will ruin your life! Free youself! It's not your fault! Get in harmony with yourself and live! F31
It's me again. :) There was a thought. Something like, "The aspirations of the body engender passion. The aspirations of the soul engender friendship. The aspirations of the mind engender respect. The aspirations of the three engender Love!" Be in harmony! F31
Friendship or tell her to lose 20 kg, but the complexes will remain and she will probably be quite obsessive.
It also depends on the needs of sex. If it is not particularly sexual, you will get away with it once a month, which is not so bad. It is also important how old you are. If you are before 30, I advise you to look for other options.
I do not know what to tell you. Some people are willing to swallow anything to be bound. Well, I'm not one of those people. I am a woman and I could not sleep with a man who I do not like in appearance, I am not attracted visually .... which is why I realize that I could not have a career as a prostitute ... oh, that sucks: (:-))
And since you don't have a thrill, as they say, and the girl doesn't attract you physically, why do you have sex with him? She may be very good, but she's not your man. I think it's your fault that you started this relationship at all, which has no future - you got yourself into a situation from which you are now wondering how to get out. You acted like a scoundrel. People are not toys for sex and momentary whims. Be honest, you owe it to her, talk to her. He probably won't want to look at you after that, but you deserve it. You could have a friendship without interfering with sex, but you no longer deserve both. Another life lesson.
The girl will feel super dumb if she knows how you talk about her. If it didn't turn you on, it would upset everyone. I think you just have to let her find someone who will like her and not force herself to sleep with her. You also do a bear service by being with her, but you don't really want her. You harass yourself like that. She may be a terribly good person, but if you don't want her, do the right thing and set her free.
If you can't have full sex just because a woman doesn't look like a top chick, she'd better look for another man. For a truly sexy man, her not-so-perfect appearance would not be a problem.
She may also want to be prettier, more muscular, or have more money, but she's probably not superficial enough to whine on the forums.
Don't waste the girl's time. If you were a man on the spot and loved her, you wouldn't want to close your eyes, even if she was 200 pounds and covered in pimples. Let her meet a better man, and I hope you meet the perfect one, and I hope you're perfect enough for her that if you're not from Brad Pitt up, she might want to close her eyes while she's with you.
You must be handsome - a multibillionaire. How old are you? I hope you are not more than 16 ...
This will be one of the reasons for infidelity. And this infidelity will surely be on your side. Don't risk so much and don't be fooled by those who claim that the appearance is up to date. No chemistry this is not a connection. appearance is up to time according depends on how you lived your life. I have a neighbor and he is a doctor of skin diseases. She is over 50 years old and looks perfect. and his wife is 10 years younger than him .. three times a week he runs several kilometers for years. In my opinion, everyone should look for what is worthwhile. It is inadequate to justify "appearance is up to date". no one, when they catch a girlfriend, thinks what will happen to her in 50 years. In my opinion, this girl can only remain friends. I've been in your situation And I know what it's about, I've been trying for years to keep fit and look decent, And for a long time I was pursued by an overweight girl, the 22nd girl who needed to lose at least 10 kg. It didn't happen that way ... no matter how well I got along with her, it bothered me. She just didn't get out of the car. She was beautiful, but in all her life she could hardly walk 10 kilometers in one day. people Don't you know how to feel that infidelities happen precisely because of dissatisfaction on the one hand. So many simple things and how you don't understand them. But you know. She was beautiful, but in all her life she could hardly walk 10 kilometers in one day. people Don't you know how to feel that infidelities happen precisely because of dissatisfaction on the one hand. So many simple things and how you don't understand them. But you know. She was beautiful, but in all her life she could hardly walk 10 kilometers in one day. people Don't you know how to feel that infidelities happen precisely because of dissatisfaction on the one hand. So many simple things and how you don't understand them. But you know.
You have chosen a very simple excuse that you do not like the appearance of someone and I ask you if you are super handsome? Know that the choice is the woman's and if she knew your assessment before you were in her environment and bed at all. Tell the truth to find a suitable partner, not a liar like you. Good luck to you - whatever you are looking for!
At the heart of love relationships is attraction, as much as they want to compose that appearance did not matter. Even these people know it and attraction has always led them, but it is unknown why they pretend to be witty and moral. I found something else interesting. In the comments they suggested that the problem is in the weight, is it so and is it just a bad physique is the big obstacle. I've noticed lately that a lot of ugly-faced women, without offending anyone, have been chosen. And I don't mean any very small remarks, but really obvious ones, and absolutely everything. And facial features, and nose, and eyes, and lips, and ears, all in a heap. So I'm very interested in the question, doesn't the "kicked cabbage" on the shoulders really make an impression if the body is in good shape? I'm a woman, but I've cut bodybuilders because they didn't attract me in person,
That's right, number 17, the body changes with willpower, training and proper nutrition, while the face changes with a lot of money for plastic surgery. I remember a case, somewhere in Japan or Korea, a woman gave birth to her husband's children and when they grew up a little, it began to show what they were, they were very ugly, and this could not happen to a beautiful mother and father, BUT it turned out that the mother was naturally ugly, but with plastic surgery. Her husband divorced her and left her without money, because part of the prenuptial agreement was to give birth to beautiful children ... In these countries they are obsessed with the vision. Author, you bastard! It's not her fault that YOU don't like her. Ask her if she likes her look? Ask an acquaintance if she finds her beautiful. Everyone has different ideas about the beauty of people, not all of us watch chalga and pop videos or fashion trends, not all of us like the images and values imposed by the media. If she likes you, it's not her problem, it's you, you have a problem that you're with her, and no one forced you, right? She was ugly, is it you - do you value yourself so low as a man that you are with an ugly woman? But she was a dude - well, don't you have men - friends, that she leaned against her? Something's wrong with you, author.
Get her in fitness mode with a trainer and as an option to learn pole dancing, now there are such lessons. This should make it more arousing, otherwise I don't see what can be done, except to grit your teeth, say to yourself bear fear, I'm not afraid and step into the deep, when necessary, in the dark naturally :-))
It happens that she is your friend ... Haha. Seriously now, you just don't love her, if you loved her you would love everything in her. I fell in love with ugly men and they were beautiful in my eyes and I wondered how my mother or a friend told me in plain text "it's ugly, there are no good features", and I argued that this was complete nonsense and is very beautiful, so leave this failed connection please teee.