Hi ... I'm a 25 year old woman. I have a serious autoimmune disease. Doctors suspect that another disease has been triggered. Overall I'm fine. People who don't know me at all can't understand that I have these problems. I have no visible symptoms, at least at this stage. The thing is, I recently met a man and I'm crazy about him ... I know I have to tell him about my health. It's not right to lie to him, but WHEN is the best time for that to happen? When should I tell him? I am very afraid of how he will react ... I feel like a leper ... I just want to add that when I was diagnosed with the disease I had a friend for a long time and he had told me that I had to fight, but he was not ready to be there. me ... I experienced it and now a year later a new person has appeared again .. I realize that the topic is very delicate, but please advise me something ..
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Tell him as soon as possible, but don't make it a big drama, and by the way, just remind him of it at the right time. Whoever loves and likes you will not be affected by this thing, I hope it is not so serious. Many similar diseases are positively affected by lifestyle changes - stop smoking, alcohol, start eating healthier and more walks in the air, but be protected from the sun. Good luck
Thank you for the advice. I do not smoke cigarettes, and alcohol very rarely, if there is an occasion. Healthy eating is a little difficult for me, but I try as hard as I can. I try to walk when I have to go somewhere. I try to be positive. I smile and people think I have no problems, but only I know what is wrong with me. Many times I have heard statements like "you have no problems", "you are young and you do not know what it is" and so on. Only those closest to me know about the disease. I will see first how things develop with this man and I will try to decide when to tell him ..
The longer you linger, the harder it will be to tell him. Don't procrastinate.
Do you have Hashimoto's syndrome?
From the author No, Lupus. Thank you for the advice! :)
If a person next to you loves you from the bottom of his heart, he will not leave you. In my opinion, you should be honest with him immediately and then - whatever happens. If he leaves - the problem is not in you, but in his unwillingness to love you as you are. This autoimmune disease is part of you. The real person for you will have no problem loving you despite the disease. Whatever happens, don't lose your faith in love because of the squirrel of a few specimens that are not suitable for you. I wish you happiness! F35
What exactly is your illness? Describe details, symptoms, etc. In general, it is at these moments that it is understood whether the person next to you will be in the future (after learning about your illness). Tell him when you want. If this man likes you as a woman and wants to be with you in the future, I don't think there will be a problem. Success! :))
Much depends on what your disease is. What are the possibilities for maintaining a situation without deterioration, etc. Depending on the severity of the disease and the prospects, you will decide whether and when to tell him. As well as from the very development of your relationship. Stress is absolutely contraindicated in principle, but even more so in autoimmune diseases. Look for an alternative way, if there is one, to control the disease, not to cure it, but does anyone know?
If he truly loves you, he will not abandon you. On the contrary, I will support you and be by your side.
Thank you very much for the advice !!! I do not lose hope that one day I will meet a person who will be with me in spite of everything ... My illness is good at the moment. I have no disability, but these diseases are unpredictable ...
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I think that's the first thing you have to say to a man with whom it's possible to make a connection. The disease is very serious and the person next to you must love you unconditionally and support you in life with this disease. It is already a fact with you. Tell him what the prognosis is. Explain to him how you feel and what your current condition is. If he sticks to you, he will stay, if not, when the disease enters another phase and understands, you can ruin your relationship and your lives. I live with a person with an autoimmune disease and I have been supporting him unconditionally for 25 years, in joy and pain .... I hope you are lucky to meet such a person and you.